I may come across as very sleep obsessed but I promise you all that I am not warping my child and giving him issues... I just long for sleep!
With another baby on the way we are looking forward and wondering how / when we will ever sleep again.
Our current sleep status is typically bedtime at 8pm, 1 wake-up between 11-1 sometime (where he is easy to put back to sleep - we don't pick him up just say "bedtime" and he normally lays back down and we cover him up), then sometimes another similar wakeup around 330 (sometimes not), and then typically a wakeup between 430-530 when we give in and put him in with one of us. He wakes up for the day around 7am and has one nap for 1.5-2.5 hours around noon-2pm typically. 3 wakeups are hard nights to go to work the next day. DH works shift work so we now have a routine that I do 6 of every 8 nights and he does two in a row when he is off. So 3 and 2 nights ago was DH's nights and he had more restlessness from DS from 130-230 (including letting him cry for 40 minutes) and then also decided to not put DS in with him after the wee-hours wake up to get him used to sleeping the entire night in his own bed. I am not opposed to this overall plan because in 6.5 months I will be on my own with two kids under 26 months of age. So last night I had an easy-up/down at 1130, another at 330, another at 530 and then he woke for good at 630.
I am wondering if anyone has any advice on the following:
a) what can be done to work towards him putting himself back to sleep on the easy up/downs so that we aren't forever going in there for the 2 minutes it takes. I would loved for him to STTN ever! (At the most we have had 2 straight weeks of STTN and maybe 10 other nights total in 18 months).
b) What have people's experiences been with their toddler's sleep when they have brought home new babies. Am I crazy to expect that it may be hell for the first month (as DS is a light sleeper and has been used to be a pretty quiet house) and that things will then get dramatically improved (as far as DS sleep goes) because he will have to adjust to another baby crying, making noise, and we simply won't be able to respond the way we do now to both him and the baby. The kids will have their own rooms and I am tempted to keep the baby farther from DS's room in the beginning to keep the noise / interruptions to DS's sleep at a minimum BUT then I think maybe we should just let him dive in and put the baby in the baby's room (i.e in a bassinet with me in a bed) from night one so that DS has to get used to the change. (I think of my cousin who has 3 kids 2yrs apart each who all share a room and they sleep like angels but I think that is out of necessity).
Also - feel free to tell me that you are also still not STTN as that gives me comfort that I am not the only one. DS has NEVER been a good sleeper and I doubt he every will BUT I hope he will.