Holding too much

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Holding too much

I did this three years ago with a newborn, but I don't remember holding Nicholas this much. I was able to put him in the pack n play and he slept. Jacob will not let me put him down. I can't even pee without him screaming ( but I do Smile ). Any suggestions?!

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IDK! Tanner likes to be held too, and by ME! LOL! So no advice Smile I don't mind, but I have lots of helpers too!

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Patrick is the SAME way. I don't know what to do with him either. All day we hold that little boy. BUt it is ok I enjoy it but nothing gets done around here.

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Moby, Moby, Moby. I didn't have one with Jackson, and while I was pregnant and taking Jackson to preschool this spring, everyone had their newborns in Mobys. I decided I just had to have one. It was the BEST purchase! Colby doesn't want to be put down at the moment, but if I stick him in the Moby, I'm hands-free and he's one happy baby. It takes a few times to get comfortable tying it, but once you figure it out, it's a life-saver! I took Colby to a long high school graduation in it the other day, and he didn't make a peep.

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Have you tried putting him in a bouncy chair or a swing? Sometimes the motion helps - my guys love their bouncy chairs and the vibration makes all the difference sometimes!
Also - does he have any symptoms of reflux? We've had to deal with that with Grace and now Ian - sometimes they don't actually spit up, but the acid from their stomach will come back up partway, which is painful and will make them cry, when they are laying flat Sad

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Swaddling? My oldest was like that. We swaddled her until she was about 6 months old. She still wouldn't let us put her down a lot, but it stopped the screaming. Happiest Baby on the Block saved our sanity with her!
I'm sorry, I know first hand that it's exhausting!!!

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My DD was like that. The first few months were the hardest, but she was never one to sit and play by herself (even now at almost 2, she likes me to be right next to her a lot of the time). I carried her in a sling so I could get stuff done early on and that seemed to help, but yeah...I don't think there is much you can do about a baby that thinks they are being tortured if not held and moved around constantly. *hugs* Hang in there!

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Acacia has gotten the same way!! If she is awake she MUST be held lol

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My older one was that way too. Drove me nuts because I had to sit on the couch and hold him while he napped. If I tried to put him down, it was like there was a button on his back and he woke right up and started crying. I tried a sling after he was a few months old, but he hated it. He liked the bjorn as he got a little bigger. We bought a different carrier this time but haven't tried it with Caden yet. He lets us put him down, thank God. The other thing that worked with my older one is the papasan swing. It has to be the kind that swings side to side. He hated the front to back one. But, when they are newborns, you can't put the swing on because it swings too fast since the babies don't weigh enough. Still, we are putting Caden in it and he sleeps better in there than in the co-sleeper I bought. Good luck. I know it is exhausting to have to hold them all the time.

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:lurk: invest in something like a Moby wrap. Definitely possible to pee while wearing the baby in it. Wink

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We are getting a little better. The car seat is helping. He actually slept in the car seat last night. I think he is having some reflux issues and I brought it up to the Ped., but he was kind of like wait and see and have him sitting up for 35 min. Next week or in a few weeks I will attempt the crib Smile Thanks for the advice. I think I might invest in a Moby - that sounds like a good idea!!

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I held all of my babies 24/7 but never had a problem putting any of them down... will he take a pacifier?

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if you don't want to buy a Moby wrap itself you can buy 5 or 6 yards of Jersey Cotton Fabric and cut it in half length wise. There is a tutorial online to see how to wrap it from there.

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Lots of good suggestions here. A carrier of some sort can be a real lifesaver, if a Moby isn't your style, there are lots of other options that are good and safe for newborns. Some babies like swinging, especially if it's a reflux related issue. Mandy are you nursing? If so, you may consider cutting dairy products out of your diet to see if it helps. If he's getting formula, you may try switching to one formulated for sensitive babies to see if that helps, and you can try gripe water in either situation. Some moms will brew a very mild camomile tea to give to their little ones with colic. Hopefully it isn't colic, and he just likes to be held, and in that case, a carrier is probably your best bet.

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These all have been great ideas. I really think I need to switch formula. It seems like he has problems with it, Just very uncomfortable after he eats. He is on similac neosure. He has to be on this because he is a preemie. The PED gave me a whole bunch of enfamil samples of the same kind, so I will try that. The holding is getting better. The swing works for about 15 minutes. The car seat works the best - because he is sitting up. I will be trying the crib when the feedings decrease a little. We are at 4 bottles a night - up every two hours, and one time this morning up an hour after feeding!! Does anyone have any suggestions for a clingy three year old Smile JK!

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TV? For your clingy 3 year old LOL!!!!