After baby is born...?

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lexirunner's picture
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After baby is born...?

I was wondering what everyone is going to do when baby is born. With my DS's, I was able to stay home with them for about a year, before going back to work part time. With this baby, I'm struggling with what to do because I'm supposed to start the first of 4 semesters of nursing school this January. I am thinking of doing a full time semester this semester, and then dropping to part time for the fall semester and then jump back up to full time. I'm really having a hard time with knowing I'll probably have to send the baby to a babysitter, at least part time, starting the end of August (baby will be 6-8 weeks).
I know tons of women do this, and we'll all be fine, but I'm feeling so guilty. To the point where I just want to put off school. Also, breastfeeding is really really important to me, and I'm afraid this will impact the success of it. I guess I could use some encouraging stories of women who went back to work/school right away and were successful with BFing. Thanks for reading!

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I went back to work full time at 8 weeks and was mostly successful with breastfeeding. We had latch issues from the beginning and I had to exercise a lot more than I think most women do so had some supply issues, but we made it to 14 months nursing.

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I plan to continue to stay at home with my kids after this one is born. I might at some point start doing some tutoring or something like I do now, but that is only a few hours a week. I would love to figure out a way to earn some money from home, but, I don't want to work outside the house.

I think you can definitely make it with breastfeeding, but your commitment just has to be a little stronger. Like I have a couple friends who work and breastfeed and one of them does just fine, because she just KNOWS that she will pump at work for a year- no ifs, ands or buts about it. But my other friend kept saying she was going to go longer this time (she just had her second), but, she's like 5 mos old, and she's already sick of pumping, and the kid will probably end up on formula even sooner than her brother did, because my friend is just annoyed with it, and obviously not as committed (I know for a fact there is nothing else stopping her, no supply issues or anything- she just doesn't like to pump). So yeah...I think it is definitely possible, but, you have to be committed.

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I will stay home with the little buttons as day care for 9 kids...outrageous! but agreed that if you are determined, you can make it work!! Good luck!

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I stopped working when I had #1, and won't go back to work/further study until this one is in full time school. I do a lot of work with #1 daughter so I guess I have a part time job with that anyway.

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Uhhhh......you are talking about school not a 40 hour work week!!!!! So you are talking about 12 credits per semester or 12 hour in class per week. This is much different than a mother working 40 hours in a office and needing to pump in the office and have enough to send for 40 hours of daycare.

If I were you I would more concerned with your time at home than your time away from home. Nursing school is demanding, more than some other programs. You have 3 kids total, one being infant? I think your greater concern should be your lack of sleep. Probably the only time you will get real studying done is at night. (Think at least 2-3 hours outside of class for every hour inside of class, probably more for nursing.)

I worked full time and took 6-12 credits of graduate classes with a 4 year old. I did ALL my studying at night, up unitl 3 most nights. It worked, I did it. YOU can do it!!!! But just be realistic about what your challenges are. Breastfeeding and babysitters will be the easy part. Smile

Good luck!!!! I really really believe one of the greatest gifts you can give your child is giving the example of education. If you have a degree, the chances they will are enormously higher. Not to mention the financial benefit they receive from you being so employable. I think this is as much important as 12 months of breastfeeding or being at home for the first few years. When your kid is 17-18 will they think "Im glad my mom breastfed me and stayed at home with me when I was one." Or will they think "My mother has a degree and does something she is passionate about. I want to too!" ??????????

Hugs!!!!

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I work full-time and attend college full-time, it can certainly be done and it's not THAT hard. It gets frustrating because time is more limited, but it's worth it. I have two friends in Nursing School right now and it's hard, at least around here - and they only offer full-time programs.

For me, I'll stay home for 12 weeks and then come back to work. I hope to graduate in the Spring so I won't have college to worry about with two babes at home, thankfully! I like working, it's neccessary for our family.

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I stopped working before I had the twins, and I plan on staying a stay at home mom. I am currently a full time student getting my Bachelors, but that is more of a hobby, since I am a huge nerd and love school.

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I quit work when I had ds and do not plan on going back to work until all my kiddos are in full time school. (as long as we can make it work). My dh works fulll time and is doing his masters in business and still has lots f time to help with the kiddos.

As for the breast feeding I have never done it but I bet you can make it work. Jusrt make sure to feed the baby as much as possible when you are home to keep your supply up and pump when ever you can. Like when you are studying at the computer or reading at night just hook that pump up and let it go so you have enough milk for the sitter to use.

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I don't plan to work outside the home ever again, but will once my children are in school full time, if our family needs the extra income. I'm an accountant and love my trade, but my husband and I are pretty commited to a "traditional" family life and are happy with our roles in our family.

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After DS, I went back to work part time when he was 3 months. My DH worked 40 hours in 3 days (Fri-Sun) at the time, so he could stay at home with DS part of the time too, so we didn't need daycare until he was 18 months old and DH's schedule changed. But by then, I felt like DS was old enough to be away from us a few days a week (he only went to daycare 2 days a week), and he actually really loved it and I think it was good for him to be around other kids. As far as BFing, I had a hard time once I went back to full time around 6 months. I had to take so many breaks to pump at work, and with my job I had a lot of meetings and presentations and was in the field a lot, so it got really tricky trying to fit in pumping, and I had achy leaky boobs a lot for a while too! I remember sticking pantyliners to the inside of my bra once before a presentation because I didn't have time to pump beforehand. Good thing I did too, they were soaked when I took them out! So around 8 months, it just got to be too much stress and we started supplementing. DH was stressed out too, because sometimes there would be JUST enough milk in the fridge for the day and if he spilled any he'd be screwed. But DS usually only had 1-2 bottles of formula a day, and the rest of the time had breastmilk or nursed. Since I couldn't pump as much as I needed to, my supply dropped some too which just added to the difficulty. But I BF'd until 15 months. I think if you have an office job where you mostly sit at your desk all day, it would be a lot easier to keep up with the pumping. This time, I plan to stay home for at least the first year, possibly work a little part time from home (which is what I've been doing since we moved about 8 months ago). Hoping to not have to do any supplementing this time around. I'll probably look for something part time a year or so after the baby is born.

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Oh....sorry I lost track of my point rambling on about my own story. If you are taking classes, you'll be able to pump in between and around them, so it should work out OK. Do you live close to where your school is? That can make it easier too, if you can go home and nurse at lunchtime, etc. I think personally I prefer a babysitter for a baby under one, someone you really trust who comes into your home and your baby is in familiar surroundings (worth the extra $ IMO), but there are some wonderful and caring daycares out there too. Your baby will be fine no matter what you choose, and I bet you can do it!

lexirunner's picture
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Thanks for all the input!

The reason why I compared school to a full time job, is because I will probably be out of the house for close to "full time" hours. I got my acceptance letter today, and am really excited to start in January! I think at the end of the semester I'll have a better idea of what I can handle in the fall.

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"lexirunner" wrote:

Thanks for all the input!

The reason why I compared school to a full time job, is because I will probably be out of the house for close to "full time" hours. I got my acceptance letter today, and am really excited to start in January! I think at the end of the semester I'll have a better idea of what I can handle in the fall.

I think that is a very good point! Good luck figuring it out! Smile