I'm so frustrated!!

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ammoss890's picture
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I'm so frustrated!!

Everytime Daniel cries DH automatically hands him to me and says "he's hungry" and there's no way anything else could possibly be wrong with him. Well today he was talking to the baby and said "mommy doesn't feed you enough." I don't think he meant to upset me but I feel like he called me a bad mother. Daniel eats every 2-3 hours for 10-15 minutes. He has 10-12 wet diapers a day and he is gaining weight so I don't think he is underfed.

The reason Nick thinks I don't feed him enough is because I can only pump about 1 1/2 oz at a time. Does this mean that I only produce 1 1/2 oz? Idk I'm trying to call the La Leche League but their lines are all busy. I'm just upset. Ugh.

shroutbabymama85's picture
Joined: 11/08/11
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i went through the same thing with jayden and james...when i officially gave up on bf, jaydens peditrician said what we pump is never close to what the baby gets. said they receive way more. it would frustrate me too. just a little advice though that they told me, once you introduce a bottle or formula it makes feeding a little more difficult. mine wasn't getting satisfied with how much i produced so i gave up....he's doing great on similac sensitive, and he's only wanted to latch on once a night. good luck and to me it sounds like you're doing a great job. always trust your intuition!

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How much you pump is NOT an idication of how much baby is getting. Babies are so much more effective at getting milk out then a pump. As long as he is satisfied after feedings, gaining weight, and having plenty of wet/dirty diapers - he is getting PLENTY of milk. You are doing a great job, ignore the comment!!

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Trust me, you'd know if he wasn't getting enough! Sam wasn't getting enough (I truly do have a low supply), and we knew that by the fact that a.) he was on the boob constantly, and when not, crying, b.) he barely had any wet diapers, c.) he had NO poopy diapers after the first day, and d.) we knew his latch was all off due to tongue-tie. It sounds like Daniel is doing JUST fine!! PP hormones are high right now, and I'm sure your DH didn't mean any harm in it. I think they just have a hard time with the nursing thing (my DH was all panicky, too) since they can't "do" anything. Plus, they don't know nearly as much about it as we do. Wink Like Rebecca said, just ignore it! I'm sure he wasn't calling you a bad mother!

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Hugs.

jubileerose's picture
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Don't feel insecure or bad. I too have taken milk supply comments to directly reflect my parenting skills Smile
Do call a lactation nurse and have a home visit! They're so comforting, helpful and reassuring!
Good job taking care of your son- keep feeding him- and give yourself a break sometimes Smile

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As a couple of people said, pumping is not AT ALL indicative of how much you actually are able to produce/what baby is able to get. Please don't get hung up on that. It really does sound like your little boy is doing wonderfully- showing all signs of thriving.

Do try to get some support though- have you thought about actually going to a LLL meeting? It'll get you out of the house, put you in a room with other moms/women who support and understand breastfeeding and could just be really good for you! I'm going to my local meeting tomorrow meeting, and as always, very much looking forward to it again!

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"shroutbabymama85" wrote:

mine wasn't getting satisfied with how much i produced so i gave up....he's doing great on similac sensitive, and he's only wanted to latch on once a night. good luck and to me it sounds like you're doing a great job. always trust your intuition!

I have been supplementing with formula (or allowing formula use if Im not home and the pumped milk ran out) and the pediatrician Ok'd this - especially as there was a week that Rose-Lynn was eating 7 ounces per feeding. However, when I read the ingredients of Similac Sensitive I was SHOCKED to find that the first two ingredients were sugar!!!!! (Corn syrup, then sugar.) I thought that sounded like a milk shake!!!! And no wonder a baby would get used to that pretty quick. Smile Beware.

shroutbabymama85's picture
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"greenmylife" wrote:

I have been supplementing with formula (or allowing formula use if Im not home and the pumped milk ran out) and the pediatrician Ok'd this - especially as there was a week that Rose-Lynn was eating 7 ounces per feeding. However, when I read the ingredients of Similac Sensitive I was SHOCKED to find that the first two ingredients were sugar!!!!! (Corn syrup, then sugar.) I thought that sounded like a milk shake!!!! And no wonder a baby would get used to that pretty quick. Smile Beware.

wow, didn't even realize it till you mentioned it...no wonder he took so well to it. i know i tried similiac advance the blue label kind then also tried the green label kind i think its for spit up then finally took to the sensitive...so i've stayed with that. i have noticed jayden tries to overeat sometimes so i had to cut it back some. (like he would try for a full 8 oz if i let him. and if i did obviously would get sick from it.) so now he's taking a 2 oz to about 2.5 full oz every 3 hours. not bad.

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Silly DH. I'm sure he didn't mean to upset you, and I bet he regretted those words as soon as they came out of his mouth. That said, if my DH made a comment like that, he'd get his head bitten off. The post partum hormones certainly don't make me a more rational person, that's for sure! Like PP have said, your milk supply sounds like it's fine. If Daniel is gaining weight, nurses every 2-3 hours and isn't overly fussy in between, he's getting plenty. Don't sweat it, your DH doesn't know anything about nursing babies, just sayin'. And pumps aren't the same as babies, even the super expensive ones aren't anywhere near is effective at getting out milk. Call LLL if it will help you feel better (and it will) but I'm sure you are doing great!

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Joined: 10/08/11
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Soo, he apologized. I think he did regret saying it, he atleast regretted that I heard it.

Mara - The closest LLL meeting is a 2 hour drive one way for me, but I'd love to go if there was something a little closer to home.

greenmylife - Are you still using the Similac or have you found something better? I'm thinking about using a little formula when I start working more. A family member recommended the Gerber Good Start Gentle. I'm going to talk to his pedi at the next appointment but I like hearing what works for others.