Ok, girls... tell me the truth...

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Marite13's picture
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Ok, girls... tell me the truth...

I know we got into this more than once on my old birth board... could get kind of fun... Smile

Who is still having sex? Wink

It's been a few weeks, at least, if not a month for us. I have a higher drive than my DH when not pregnant (which is a problem for us, sigh), but during pregnancy, my drive lessens, and then there we are... hardly ever doing it. Sigh. Sometimes I don't mind, since I don't have a drive... but sometimes I just miss connecting with my DH in that special way. Last time I tried to initiate, he actually turned me down. That was a week or so ago, and my ego hasn't recovered and I haven't tried since.

Anyone else care to share?

kristie_b1's picture
Joined: 03/07/09
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Ugh hubby turned me down repeatedly during his week off in November. He was too tired. I'm a night person and he's a day person. So I get frisky at night when he just wants to conk out. And in the morning there is no way in hell I feel in the mood lol. I've been dying for some sex though!!

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Joined: 09/17/07
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None here for at least 3 weeks. I'd love to but then when it comes down to it, I want to puke just thinking about all that bouncing around. Dh wasn't ugly about it, but made it very clear in that he's not attracted to me pregnant so it may be awhile before I get any. Right now I'm so tired I"m not even worried about it.

e123vg's picture
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Wow... idk how you girls go that long without. On a bad week maybe 1-2 times normally it's atleast 4 times a week. We try for atleast once a day but that's difficult with four little ones

kristie_b1's picture
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My husband isn't home very much so I am used to only "several times a month." lol He's been gone since Nov 26th, and he will get home Dec 5th. HURRY UP MONDAY! lol

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We are down only slightly from our normal. We both get cranky when it goes too long.

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a while for us...we have been fighting a lot lately and I had spotting last time we dtd...so I dont want to do it until my cerclage is in...and then...they might tell me I cant...because some docs have not wanted me to..I cant remember this docs philosophy...I will have to ask him. But...if we are going to fight during the day...I dont want to dtd at night. My dh would do it 2 times a day if I was game...hmmm maybe that is why is so nasty lately!

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We haven't DTD since my BFP in October. :eek:

That being said, I started spotting the week or so after my BFP and I was a total freak about it (and spotted for 4 whole weeks) and wouldn't let him near me. Plus, I was on pelvic rest during that time, too. Either way, we probably won't be having sex until after this baby is born. I'm entirely too insane about it now with the subchorionic bleed issues from last month. I know it's gone, and realistically we are totally okay, but I don't ever want to see another drop of blood on the TP until delivery day!!

BUT. I help him out in other ways. Wink

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"JDBabyHopes" wrote:

We haven't DTD since my BFP in October. :eek:

That being said, I started spotting the week or so after my BFP and I was a total freak about it (and spotted for 4 whole weeks) and wouldn't let him near me. Plus, I was on pelvic rest during that time, too. Either way, we probably won't be having sex until after this baby is born. I'm entirely too insane about it now with the subchorionic bleed issues from last month. I know it's gone, and realistically we are totally okay, but I don't ever want to see another drop of blood on the TP until delivery day!!

BUT. I help him out in other ways. Wink

Even though it was totally irrational, during my first pregnancy, I don't think we had sex once in the first tri- we were both too scared something would happen. We did eventually, but, it was not more than I could count on both hands during the whole pregnancy.

The good news I have today, though, is despite DD's best efforts (waking up TWICE during), we managed to get things done today! Smile (we were in another room, but she got out of bed, and started heading downstairs, so I had to get up and go put her back down both times.)

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i really want to but everytime i do i too have to be on pelvic rest so its not been as much as i wanted. we did twice and spotted a little because of it so we've taken it easy. the spotting wasnt bad but enough to freak me out so i just usually wait till im ok again then try to not overdo it. the hubby has been cool about it luckily, pretty sure his drive has went up since i found out. im sure if i could he would any chance he gets. my drive has stayed the same, but i can wait. being on pelvic rest doesnt both me. i went for months at a time when he was in the service. try to satisfy him if i cant DTD and hes content with it.

this brings back a funny memory for me...the first time my hubby and i did while he was in the service i had to go to the doc because he accidently dislocated my rib picking me up and throwing me on the bed....it hurt like hell but the expierence of going to the doc and honestly having to tell them what happened was something else. it was too funny. "umm i got hurt having sex with my husband i havent sex in awhile. lmao the best part of it was having to call off work and tell my boss what happened too. never got to live it down. everytime i went to see him after that was told not to come back in a full body cast.

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Not regularly, but we still are. I've always had a bigger drive than my husband, I always tease him that he's a woman and I'm the man when it comes down to it. LOL :rolleyes: It sucks even mor cause my drive goes through the roof while pregnant! And once I start showing enough to know I'm pregnant, my husband refuses to DTD. It freaks him out. LOL:rolleyes:

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Once since the BFP in October...seriously demotivating. I want it all the time, and well DH isn't as active as I am. It doesn't help that I am asleep by by 9/10 and he likes to stay up later. I approach him nearly every night but as soon as my head hits a pillow, I'm out. I keep telling him that he needs to catch me before I lay down!

With DD, we didn't have sex ONE time the entire pregnancy. With good reason, I bled often with her b/c of a tear in my uterus so it was just nerve wracking.

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Can I just tell you ladies that it is so nice to read of other women who have stronger drives than their husbands? It is SO hard living in this "all real men want sex all the time" world when you're with a guy who just isn't like that. It's hard to not take it personally and make it about myself, you know?

Anyway... I'm glad we're not the only ones not getting much, and very happy for those of you getting plenty. Way to go you!

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"Marite13" wrote:

Can I just tell you ladies that it is so nice to read of other women who have stronger drives than their husbands? It is SO hard living in this "all real men want sex all the time" world when you're with a guy who just isn't like that. It's hard to not take it personally and make it about myself, you know?

I absolutely agree as I am in one of these situations as well. Fortunately I really just haven't been in the mood lately so I guess it works well for both of us Smile We have done it twice since my BFP but in a month or so when I start to show and feel movement that'll be it for us because it freaks DH out. Not that he is any less attracted to me, he just can't get it out of his head that there are actually 3 of us involved so to speak.

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It's once every few weeks here.. I think it's been since like a week before Thanksgiving this time. I just don't FEEL good most of the time so it's hard to get excited.

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Once a week. Definately "down" from what it was. Im sick a lot and I think there is a general question about who should initiate when I dont feel well. (Like maybe I feel well enough for sex but not to make the move? lol) At any rate, other than the first 3 months I have said in no uncertain terms that he better still find me attractive or "I'll lose it on him." Fear always gets dudes hot right???? HAHAHAHA. Smile

Interesting thread! Thanks for starting and all the honest answers.

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Um, we are pretty much rabbits. All the time. Wink My sex drive is coming screaming back, too, so now I'm initiating it a lot, which he loves. We're pretty sexual people and we had sex up to and during my labor with our daughter. He loves me any way he can get me- pregnant belly and all.

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We are about our normal....which seems to be more frequently than most of you. Wink

We dtd at least a few times each week....sometimes more than others. In the past we've kept that up all the way to the end. My drive stays pretty high while preggers. I think with my first dd it was lower, but ever since then....I'm ready to go. Smile

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Sex? What's that? :rolleyes:

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I can't believe I am going to write this, but we probably have sex more thtan before pregnant. Because I am super horny, which my husband loves. My only complaint is that we can get alittle carried away and I am paying for the pelvic pain for two days (I got joint pelvic pain with my last two babies). But it is worth it to me. So we have sex than wait a day or two than we are right back at it. The only way I have no pain at all is if we just have a quickly (boring). He does turn me down if he has had a long day:(. We also have had it all the way till end of pragnancy. The hardest for him is after the baby comes my libido goes way down for awhile.

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"ilove2bmom" wrote:

I can't believe I am going to write this, but we probably have sex more thtan before pregnant. Because I am super horny, which my husband loves. My only complaint is that we can get alittle carried away and I am paying for the pelvic pain for two days (I got joint pelvic pain with my last two babies). But it is worth it to me. So we have sex than wait a day or two than we are right back at it. The only way I have no pain at all is if we just have a quickly (boring). He does turn me down if he has had a long day:(. We also have had it all the way till end of pragnancy. The hardest for him is after the baby comes my libido goes way down for awhile.

Um yeah, our 1st wedding anniversary was when DD was just shy of 3 mos old. We hadn't had sex yet, and DH was pretty much like, "we're doing it tonight, and that's that." I went along with it, because I wanted to for him, but I have never been so NOT into sex. Whew. Thankfully though, like a week later my body/brain got with it, and we returned to normal. Smile

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I have been on pelvic rest for two weeks. Times up this weekend and I have not had any spotting so it's on.

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Summer baby that is too funny.
Clara

TessaS's picture
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Funny, we just talked about this last night. We have not since October, but the main reason is dh is down and out with an injury he sustaine at a work. Doesn't have the use of a hand...and sorry, in my state I am not taking top lol.