Pregnancy and birth affirmations

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Marite13's picture
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Pregnancy and birth affirmations

I went to a meeting this evening hosted by my local natural birth company (they have birth and postpartum doulas, an IBCLC, and do NCB classes). Anyway, the evening was really lovely. There were probably about 10 women and we all shared some of our current or previous experiences, and then made little cards with new affirmations on them to take home. We also shared them, and a lot of women were frantically writing down new (other people's) ideas as they shared them. Smile It was really nice.

Anyway... my main one was, "The RIGHT position, at the RIGHT time." I drew a very crude picture of the outline of a pregnant mama's torso (boobs and belly really) with a head down baby in the belly.

Then my second one was, "Kong will be born SAFELY- healthy and loved!"

A few of the other great ones were:

"Let go, and let God" (If you're into that sort of thing!)

"Surrender"

"BREATHE"

"All the women before me..." (drawing on the strength of women throughout time and around the world to birth....)

"No need to doubt, sooner or later, baby will come OUT!"

"My body, my baby, our birth- own it, own it, own it"

I wish I could remember some more, but, I plead baby brain! Sad

Do any of you have any affirmations you're keeping around during this pregnancy or for this birth? I'm going to tape my two to the mirror in the bathroom, so that I will see them at least first thing in the morning and last thing at night. Smile

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I say affirmations all of the time. Typically when I'm walking or exercising.

I repeat lyrics of songs in my head-- one is about being present for birth, coming through heaven's open door and a quick and easy entrance into the world.

The other is the song "Who We Are"-- about being sisters of hope and brothers of peace, the breath of our ancestors, etc.....

I use a lot of imagery when I'm birthing, when I focus on "opening up" and letting baby come out. I do another with a red balloon floating and waves during contractions.

Sounds like a cool conference. I think your state of mind has a lot to do with how your birth experience goes....the whole mind/body connection, and think this is one of the reasons that I'm so much more comfy birthing at home vs. the hospital. I could never get into my own space when I was in a hospital, it was so foreign and uncomfy to me.

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"Marite13" wrote:

Then my second one was, "Kong will be born SAFELY- healthy and loved!"

I need to repeat this in my head, but with Nora in the place of Kong. Smile

I read this post just before I went to sleep last night and then found myself getting really anxious about my c/s. Last time it took them 5 tries to get the epidural in (or was it a spinal? I can't remember). That means 5 pokes with the numbing medication then 5 pokes with the epidural needle. I have minor scoliosis so they had a hard time getting the right spot. I'll never forget the relief when my OB walked in, replaced the nurse who was in front of me, and just buried me into his chest while rubbing my shoulders. To this day I feel an affection for that man because he was such a source of comfort and familiarity in a stressful situation. But I digress!!! All of that is to say that even though it was a tough situation, everything turned out well and I need to focus on the positives. Even though I'm having a c/s, I will be okay and Nora will be okay.

When I was pregnant with Jordan and having complications, I would repeat a certain line of scripture in my head and it really brought me some peace and comfort. "For I am the LORD, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you." It helped for me to remember that I was not alone and did not have to carry the burden on my shoulders.

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Kayla thanks for reminding me of that verse! I've been fearful the last few days as I found out my baby has turned north- breech position. I know there's pleanty of time for her to turn, again, but I'm really bummed out for some reason about it. Thanks for the reminder that someone's got my hand Smile

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"jubileerose" wrote:

Kayla thanks for reminding me of that verse! I've been fearful the last few days as I found out my baby has turned north- breech position. I know there's pleanty of time for her to turn, again, but I'm really bummed out for some reason about it. Thanks for the reminder that someone's got my hand Smile

I'm happy to hear it will help! Biggrin That visual of my hand being held was key I think.

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Sounds like an awesome conference! I'm trying to make sure that I remain positive throughout this process; that the birth will go how it is intended to go and the most important aspect is a healthy baby with the least stressful delivery possible. I have to remember some of the above quotes to help for sure!

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"boilermaker" wrote:

I think your state of mind has a lot to do with how your birth experience goes....the whole mind/body connection, and think this is one of the reasons that I'm so much more comfy birthing at home vs. the hospital. I could never get into my own space when I was in a hospital, it was so foreign and uncomfy to me.

This is exactly why I am bummed about not being able to have a homebirth (no reputable midwives taking clients at the time I am due...that was the one problem with planning a summer baby! EVERYONE plans a summer baby around here). The hospital I'm going to this time is VERY NCB-friendly, but STILL, it is unfamiliar, clinical surroundings.

Anyway, I have never been much for affirmations, even though I believe they are helpful to most. I guess I do have some things I tell myself if I start to feel nervous about the birth, like "women have been doing this for thousands of years, it is what my body is designed to do, and I will be fine" or "it is only part of a day in my life...it doesn't last long, and at the end there will be a baby!" I do listen to the Hypnobabies joyful pregnancy affirmations but I'm not sure they really do much for me.

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Funny Maggie, the truth is, I'm not the type of person who remembers to say affirmations either. That's why I'm glad I have the cards I made with the couple I wrote- I'll stick them on my mirror, and consciously or unconsciously I won't be able to NOT think them when I see them. Smile Like you, I really like the idea of affirmations/mantras, but I am just not the type to remember to say them/use them.

At the meeting when it was my turn to tell an affirmation that I used in my first pregnancy the only thing I could come up with was just, "I can do this." But honestly, that wasn't even really an affirmation for me, it really was a mindset.

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"Marite13" wrote:

At the meeting when it was my turn to tell an affirmation that I used in my first pregnancy the only thing I could come up with was just, "I can do this." But honestly, that wasn't even really an affirmation for me, it really was a mindset.

Maybe that is what I mean...if you already have a positive mindset, do you need the affirmations too?

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Well, they can't hurt. Smile