Can I jump into this thread? I'm new to the board, and told myself I wouldn't join a BB until I got my BFP for fear of jinxing myself, but... oh well. I decided to stick my toes in the water.
So hi, I'm Jen. :wavehello: This is our first cycle TTC #2, so we'll see what happens! I'm guessing I'll be Oing sometime next week. Long story short, after charting TTA for an entire year, I had an annov cycle back in June. I freaked with it so close to TTC, went to the doc, and I went back on lo dose BCP to "tweak" my hormones. So, this is my first cycle off! Typically right off the pill, I have a beautiful 28-day cycle (conceived DS this way!), so we'll see if it happens again this time! Otherwise, I average about 35-day cycles.
Whew, I should probably put this on the getting to know you thread, eh? Yeah, so I'm thinking I should be O'ing somewhere around CD 14, so.. next Thursday/Friday. I plan on starting OPK's this Sunday on CD 10. AF just ended today, so no CM to report as of yet.
As for the MFP talk, I've been on there for about 2 months and haven't lost more than a pound or two! I'm even back into running (doing the Hal Higden 10K program) and even 3 and 4 mile runs several days a week aren't doing it for me! Blah. So much for losing the last 10 pregnancy pounds before the next one, right?
Okay, so yeah, hope you don't mind me jumping in here!!
welcome Jen!! your son is a cutie and I hope your TTC journey doesnt last long!!
Welcome, Jen! I'd say there are quite a few of us quite attached to the June board already, and no one has gotten a BFP yet! Ha! So feel right at home! I was running a lot over the last year, and I lost very little weight with it, despite training enough to run in two 5ks and one 10k. Sigh. The accomplishment of doing it was awesome, but, I do wish I had actually lost some weight too!
Pretty sure I O'd yesterday. I had EWCM but that started drying up and was gone by last night, totally dry today, AND my temp spiked this morning. BUT....I never got a positive OPK. :mad: I had a *very close* one around 7pm on CD 15, and by yesterday was WAY faded. I'm wondering if maybe I surged overnight? Or just missed it somehow? Would you all trust the CM and temps more, or the OPK?
if it was almost postive i would def take it as a postive and your spike is so big i would take that before the OPK IMO. so it def looks like u ovulated yesterday
Erin, I miss my surge all the time. It's really short. If I don't POAS every time I go to the bathroom I miss it. I would agree that you o'd on CD 16.
Krisitie- I'd say you're pretty good!! My OPKS have never gotten MUCH darker after the 5 min time anyways, and CM is a better indicator anyways!!
Erin- I'd say you probably missed your surge- I've POAS like 6x a day before and only got a pos on one of the sticks so it was a super short surge, other times I'll have a pos for days.. and the EWCM and then dried up and temp spike would probably be a lot better indicator than the opks!!
Sophia- I NEED to.. ugh.. I just signed up for personalized fitness again so I'm going to try to stick to my weekly goals.. I'm like in limbo between two sizes, and the "big" size isnt really huge or anything, but certain body part *ahem* and that makes me feel a little better about myself, as opposed to empty saggy sacks on my chest.. if you know what i mean..
So when I LOSE the 10lbs, its basically my whole chest is gone, and love handles/stomach is a little smaller, which that part makes me feel better.. but now all my new clothes dont fit, so I caved and bought another pair of jeans last night that were one size bigger, but they're baggy.. sigh... so I'm sometimes torn if I should just accept this size, buy clothes that fit and get rid of the small ones and not look back.. orr if i should just work my butt off and get smaller and then not gain any.. haha..
I feel this is my bodys size, in a sense that I ALWAYS come back to this weight/size..If I dont constantly starve (okay not starve but eat really good and not ONE bad thing or carb and work out a lot) THEN i can lose like 10lbs and stay at that, but literally the second I put one peice of bread, miss a week at the gym, it all comes back, and then stops here.. Here I can eat whatever I want and dont really gain any, just kinda maintain.. so its really frusterating me and I HATE stressing about it!!! ugh! anywas.. done ranting about that...Just wish I could get preg and then I wouldnt worry so much haha... nomatter what I'm still starting out at 20lbs less then I did last pregnancy so thats good
AFM, this waiting to O is 10x worse then 2ww, because now its literally THREE weeks of waiting to 0.. My opk is... half dark.. not positive yet but a visable line, and prob wont be pos til CD21 so it's like im O'ing 3 weeks after CD1 :(... and the 2ww is short.. because my luteal is so short that AF just comes anyways it seems.. sigh... Hope my vitex and such helps this month!!
Okay Im done hogging the space
I hate dealing with my weight. I used to be super skinny in high school and I hated it. I was 5'8.5" and 115 pounds my senior year. I have always had a big appetite. I eat a lot, but if I don't I get really hungry. Since having DS, I am 154 pounds. I lost 10lbs last year but cutting out desserts, but I just gained it all back. I am not going to deal with it right now, since we are TTC. After the next baby is born, I really hope to get it under control
Thanks for the welcome Karen and Mara!
I'm still learning names... and I can't remember who said what, so this is going to be somewhat ambiguous.
I would assume the surge was missed! Mine is a good 48 hours. Or, it was the two cycles I used OPK's. Both times I got two days of verrrry positive tests around lunchtime, and then a fade out. I'm hoping for that this time! But I would bet the surge was missed and at this point, your BBT and CM is going to be a better indicator!
I hope everyone who is Oing soon is getting their BD on!! I can't wait for everyone to move to the 2WW thread! I feel like I'm still a million years away! Hopefully I'll be Oing sometime late next week. At least I get to start taking OPK's this weekend!!
I hate dealing with weight, too.
So, just throwing this out there... has anyone used Mucinex or something similar to boost fertile cm? I noticed that since my MC I have had almost no cm. At all. So, I was thinking of trying it. The last time I got pregnant I had a cold right before I o'd and was taking robitussin. Do I sound crazy to try this?
I don't know anything about using Mucinex or anything like it. You ladies know about all kinds of stuff that I don't know about!!!
I'm still about 15-20lbs over my prepress weight, which is a good 20-25lbs above my ideal weight. I'm also only 5'3", which means every lb looks like five. Sigh. I was using sparkpeople for about a month and lost about 7lbs. I took a break this week, and I hope I didn't undo all my progress (but based on the pants I'm wearing today, I don't think so)- if I find out I'm not pg, I'm going to start back next week and make a point of staying within my caloric range. But yeah, dealing with weight SUCKS!!!!
I hate the whole weight thing.. I was always super skinny growing up I was 4" 11 and 95 pds until I hit 21 and then it just went down hill from that. slowly it just keep adding up when I had DS I was 130 and not loving how I looked but dealt with it. I only gained 28 pds with him so i was sure it would all come off. well lets just say i was dead wrong. 3 years later I still have 15 pds to lose :(..
Ladies, ladies: what is all this negative weight talk doing for you??? Stop it right now! Seriously, negative self abuse is uncool. There is absolutely such a thing as a "happy weight" for your body. Cait--you talked about living a healthy lifestyle without starving and pretty much staying at the same weight--THAT is your happy weight. We are not meant to live in a state of constant deprivation and self loathing. So, eat right (most of the time!), exercise (30-45 minutes, 4-5 times a week is fine) and LOVE YOURSELF! Seriously.
Okay, done preaching, but I can't stand it when beautiful accomplished women bash themselves for something as utterly meaningless as the width of their hips!
I don't know anything about using Mucinex or anything like it. You ladies know about all kinds of stuff that I don't know about!!!
haha... It takes forever for me to conceive! With DD it took 17 months. I'm now on cycle 9 this time. When it takes that long, you do more research.
Erin- Thanks for the pep talk. You are absolutely right. AFM, my goal is to get healthier. I know I'll never be model skinny or even close. But I know I can be a heck of a lot healthier. I'm going to work on eating better and being more consistently active.
You ladies rock !!Erin you are soo true its just hard when you think being unable to conceive os because of your weight ! Your really great!Elizabeth since we are on the same cycle my friend i think i want to try that whole cough syrup thing ! Ive read that before to be honest ! Hope it works either that or preseed Karen ahh your adventure begins did you do the whole everyday have sex thingy ? I was thinking that i want to do it but closer to the date where the opk gets darker
Hey Mara when are you going to test again ?
Tasha- Meet the sperm plan says to start Bding everyday and use OPK's starting on CD 10 but I ovulate early at times so I started BDing on CD 8 and OPK on CD 9 we got into a fight on CD 10 which was our next night to BDing so we didnt do it until CD 12 and I did it 2x's on CD 13. I looked at my chart and the chart that i conceived DS and its exactly the same. so im hoping i can catch the egg
With DS I didnt think I had enough sex and was convinced we werent pregnant and boom I was and same thing i feel like we didnt have enough sex so im hoping its the same result.
I did a reading a while ago and it said I would either conceive or September would be a birth month. so im hoping this is it.
Is your ticker updated?
No its not i need to fix that its two days off!! Where did you get a reading ? I want to do one But im a little reary abt it ... Did they say the year ??Ohh mannn this is excitinggg !!
Ive heard about the mucinex and rob. too and kinda wanted to try it as well.. Its funny now that im actually TTC my cycles are all messed up, I O too late, too short of a LP, ANDDD barely any CM!! Go figure!!
When I was off BCP and just "tracking"... all was well!!
Worth a try!!
I tested again this morning with a locally bought cheapy (they are called Orange brand and say they are manufactured in Canada) and it was a BFN. Even though we did that whole week of every other day BDing, I'm not convinced I ovulated yet. Last month I ovulated on like CD 30- so I'm also waiting to see if that might happen. I just heard from DH that my package of good tests arrived today, so, I will use one FRER tomorrow morning, and then get back on the OPKs if it's negative! Period is due Sunday based on a 30 day cycle!
Tasha- I want to say it was sherri that did it, there is a website i think it cost 10 dollars. alot of girls here on these boards have done it. They dont give you the year but they say a month its its either the month you conceive or the month you give birth. so far september has passed once so im hoping its this september
Hope a bfp for you Mara!!
AFM- Feeling slightly down today, probably because my friend told me her period is now 4 days late.. sigh...
Do you ever feel like your turning into an expert in getting pregnant, yet cant do it?!?
Three of my friends have been "clueless" about getting pregnant- all they knew was it took sex- which is true- but had no idea of ovulation, or when they were fertile, or how long cycles were, blah blah, so they asked me to help, so I'd text them when it was time for them to BD, tell them when it was time to test, all of that fun stuff (its fun for me too!!)
And.. two got their BFP within 1-2 months! jeez!!! and now my third friend, after just coming off BCP for 10 years, period is late... this is only her second cycle, so we'll see tomorrow when she tests what the result is..
I hate it because I WANT to be over the moon, and I am excited for her, but it makes me a little..okay.. a lot.. jealous!!! and trying not to let any hateful mean feelings inside my head..
So today I texted my aunts wife- whose an obgyn in LA (so she's not my doc because she lives far away!) and she kinda acted like I was dumb "How long is your cycle? a cycle is the start of one period to the start of another..." "What day do you get your positive OPK surge.. have sex within 24-36 hours after the surge" .. Um... duh?????? haha
I said i thought i had a too short of a luteal phase and she said that was probably unlikely then after answering all her questions she said yes it is short its about 9 days and I said yes... I know... and she told me to buy opks and use those for three months and that should work, and Ive said i've used those for over 5 months.... and just giving me terms "after one year its considered infertility... after having one child already it'd be considered secondary infertility"
Sooo needless to say no questions were answered and I was slightly annoyed, and then she asked me to put in a good word to my grandma who dosent like her...Like that she helped me?? haha... Umm no no help there...
Anyhoo-- Still no pos OPK, not really expecting one til Sundayish anyway ...
Just hoping this is my lucky month!!!
Oh I hear ya on wanting to be happy for your friends. My BFF emailed today to say that she's pg. Had one period when her son was 12 mos old, and now she's pregnant a month later. Of course, the same thing happened to me, but then it was a chem pregnancy. Of course, I don't wish that on her, but it's super hard to not be jealous, especially when the whole timing thing is soooooooo important for us.
i totally agree, its so hard to be happy for your friends especially when you know you want it so bad and your all about timing and ovulation to only get AF at the end. I went on facebook today and a girl that I dont like that didnt want anymore kids is 2 months pregnant. Its like really? WTF
Sorry you ladies are feeling so down! :bigarmhug: I'm only my first cycle into TTC #2, so I'm not quite there *yet*, but I can totally understand how hard it is! Two friends and I all had our first kids around the same time, and now all THREE of us are TTC again at the same time. It makes me anxious, and excited at the same time. I have this huge fear of being left behind! I want to be excited for them, but I am scared to death for me!
AFM - My OPK's were calling my name, so I caved and used some! :doh: My CM is kind of crazy, but relatively normal for me. It's (TMI!) opaque (almost like frosted glass color?) and kinda like gummy worms, but it's also a little watery and will stretch a little. It's the most insane stuff, but not fertile for me. As the days go on, it will get less gummy and more watery until it's shimmery and clear. At least, that's what usually happens. I've been on the pill for 2 months, so we'll see since this is the first cycle off. Anyhow, all that CM so early in my cycle scared me I was going to have a freakishly early O, so I used an OPK yesterday, and of course, there was barely any line. Like, you have to tilt it just right to catch the faintest color of pink. So I called myself crazy and told the OPKs to stop calling my name until Sunday on CD 10 when I could start taking them. Haha. But then I had all this CM today that was a bit more watery than yesterday, so I caved again! Only today's was WAY darker! Definitely not positive yet, but maybe halfway there. So who knows! I'm only on CD 8, which is super early for me. I guess I'll just keep using them now until I get a positive! It still could be a week away for all I know!
Ladies i feel one with you !! It is soo hard to get pregnant for me for some reason ! I do what im supposed to do as far as timing and yet nothing works smdh ! And now my friend who has two children but she doesnt take good care of them may be pregnant again and im like are you f-ing kidding me ? Is this some kind of sick joke ??? Ughhh and the girl at my job is pregnant and i just find myself sometimes just staring at her stomach wishing that was me especially because she looks sooo cute ! Ughh this is really getting ridiculous .. To be honest sex isnt fun anymore because its like i dont even want to do it and get a bfn on a frer ! I must admit my dh is very supportive and keeps telling me to keep on trying it will happen but when ? Ughhhhhhh i just want to scream sometimes because i just soooo confident that is was going to happen last month and blahh it didnt .. Its approaching a year in Feb and now i have to deal with the reality that i may in fact be infertile at the age of 23 and it hurts but what can i do? My stupid uterus and tubes are malfuctioning... My mom told me it took her a year of trying to have me so i dont feel so bad but still ... Omg last cycle i was soo darn sure ... Ughh sorry for venting so much but NOBODY else really understands but you guys and if ONE MORE PERSON tells me just wait it will happen i and going to jump off the george washington bridge lol ( drama queen ) i know!!
So confused! I took my first O test yesterday and so a line but it wasn't as dark as the control line. This mornings test was even lighter. WTH? Could this mean that I O'd super early?
I hope nott Dawn !! Have you DTD at all yet ? Plus maybe your urine was diluted ?
Are you testing in the morning? LH isn't synthesized in the body until mid-morning, so they say the best time (generally) to test is between 2 and 4pm. Are you testing too early? And make sure you're testing at the SAME time every day.
We have dtd several times in the past week. I guess I'll test again tomorrow. Idk
Hopefully you covered all your bases !
I'm not sure which CD you're on but I'd keep OPK'ing!
For about three months I figured I "missed it" b ecause my OPKS got lighter, and then later realized that no, I hadn't even O'd yet! So I stopped BD'in and everything too early!
Mine often get darker and lighter before/after my pos, so I 'd just take a few more, at different times in the day and try not to water it down with too much liquids before hand!
(I had an ALMOST pos OPK yesterday @ my 2nd "pee of the day" and then the one after was lighter.. but then the one at night was darker...)
I've always read that the 2nd "pee of the day" is the most accurate- but I've noticed on here that each person seems to get positives at different times of the day
Soooo I'm really hopeful for this month!
Im not sure if I got a positive or not yesterday, I POAS and left the room and forgot about it and came back and it was as dark as the control, so then I POAS a few more throughout the day and they were ALMOST positive but not quite..
Today's is pretty dark too, but I'd say not QUITE darker then the control so Im not gonna "call it" yet..
The good news is we "deposited" on Friday, but didnt get to yesterday GRR~!!!!!!!!
So hopefully If I don't O until tomorrow, tonights deposit will be good enough...
AND also, im excited because I feel like I'm O'ing a little early this month so hopefully its my new vitamins getting my body back in working order!! Yay!!!
Second pee of the day for me wouldn't work! It's usually 2 or so hours after FMU because my coffee/tea/whatever goes right through me! And I definitely couldn't test with an OPK at 10 in the morning! I mentioned before they say the best time is 2-4pm, but I know when I was using them the cycle I conceived DS, I used them around 1pm when I went home for lunch. I guess it doesn't matter so long as you wait until lunchtime, since LH doesn't show up in your body until late morning.
I start my OPK's today, but I'm holding it for another 40 minutes to hit the 2pm mark. Haha.
Cait - Yay for nearly positive OPK's!! Hopefully tomorrow it will be blazing positive and you can BD your heart out!
Yeah I think drinking has a lot to do with it!!
When I drink coffee/water/tea in the mornings I can never get a positive opk @ "2nd pee" but if I hold out then I can, and have to have a long hold!!!
If I wasnt at work i could post a pic of my opks, I wish I could rewind and wait for my OPK test yesterday to see if that was my positive or not (since I didnt come back in the 5 min window)
Buttt if I did already get a pos hopefully fridays BD will still be good enough incase I dont BD intime today
I am so tired today and feeling sick, and DH is away. Who am I supposed to b*tch to when he's not home? I am not feeling very optimistic for this month, especially since I should be Oing sometime this weekend, and DH is not here to take advantage of it. The only thing that might work for us is that my cycles have been about a week longer than normal lately, which means I could O late. I hate this....Wish I would just get pregnant already!!!!!
I think I might have started testing too late and O'd really early! What do y'all think? Here are my tests for CD12-14
And this one is from this morning CD15. A very faint line.
i would say CD 13 seems the darkest. I hope you got some BDing before that day
Well, back here again! For this cycle, I'd be due July 1 or 2, so still kind of in it for June...just straddling with July instead of May now. 12 days til the big BD fest begins. DH is happy we have to "try" for at least one more month
men!!! good luck Im hoping this is your month
I think I might have started testing too late and O'd really early! What do y'all think? Here are my tests for CD12-14And this one is from this morning CD15. A very faint line.
I would keep testing, you might be too early still!!
Super dark one @ 2nd POTD (pee of the day) haha..
It doesnt show up really well on my camera phone, makes it look really light but the test line is definately darker than the control so I think I'm finally gonna call it a positive!
Hope last nights BD was good, because I dont think I'll be able to tonight :(:(
Does this show up?
Hey Cait!! I am right there with you. I got a positive OPK yesterday and another one this morning (~11:00am) and then a super dark, definitely positive one at 1:30pm today. Got BDing in last night but DH is out of town until tomorrow night. So nothing tonight but I will definitely be pouncing on him tomorrow. Good luck Cait!!! I would love it if this was our month.
Dawn - I'm not so sure you missed your surge yet, since you're testing at 7am and that's not an accurate time to test. OPK's are best taken after lunch: http://www.peeonastick.com/opkfaq.html#10. I say keep testing at 4pm! Good luck!
Cait - Those are beautiful positives!! I hope you can BD tonight (and tomorrow, too), but if not, yesterday and tomorrow should be quite enough!
AFM - CD 11, so still a negative OPK! Hoping to see a positive soon! Fingers crossed, and all. :dontknow:
Mandy- Sounds like were in the same boat!!! And isnt it your 5th cycle TTC too?! Maybe this is our month!!!
How long are your cycles? I always feel like we end up testing right around the same times.
Jen- When do you usually O? I don't get any lines til CD15ish So I sure waste a lotttt of opks because I test from CD10-20 hahaha :):)
Anyone know good sites about vitamins?? I'm totally stressing searching the net to find out how much of things I should take- I dont want to OD.. or underdose!
Things say stop taking when pregnant- does that mean after O incase you caught the egg, or after a pos test?!?!
Arghhh why is this so difficult?
Cait - Well, I normally O around CD 20-24, BUT (and this is a big but ;)), when I come off of BCP, I usually O on CD 14 or 15 the first cycle. This is my first cycle off BCP after being on for two months (went on briefly to "tweak" hormones after having an annov cycle in June), so I assume it'll be CD 14 or 15, but you just never know, I guess. When I conceived DS, it was my first cycle off the pill and I had a beautiful textbook chart and O'd on CD 14. I am hoping for the same this time around, but you never know! We'll see what happens. I went off BCP last August after being on them for 6 months PP, but AF was sooo messed up and I was spotting for weeks and it was just crazy, so I went off. I had, again, a textbook cycle the first month off, but the following cycle was 56 days! I O'd on CD 42 or something crazy. After that, they sorta evened out to my "norm" which was around CD 21ish.
So, really, I have no idea.
Oh, also, I'm a spaz and I would stop stuff after O. What exactly are you talking about?
Oh Jen.. Hmm... That's giving me some ideas..
I've been off/on BCP sooo many times, and usually I start right back to 28 day cycle... and this last time I got off, i've been soooo messed up.. I almost thought about going back on for a couple months just to see if it would straighten out..
Of course the one time I'm REALLY TTC it would be the time my cycles areall over the place!! Maybe I'll try it in a couple months!!
We are definitely cycle twins!! This is cycle #5 for me too...starting to get frustrated. That is why I haven't been on here too much lately. I lurk but don't really post. I really hope that this is it for us. Although my husband is enjoying all of this trying I am ready to be done with it. Here lately my cycles have ranged from 25-38 days but I was having a really short luteal phase while breastfeeding DS. But now that I am done BFing things are much more normal...I think. But I am just like you and got another +OPK today so I have no idea when I am going to O. Hopefully it will be today cause DH will be home tonight and we can :lovebed:!!!
Mandy- I'm feeling your frustration. I had to back off quite a bit because I've found myself just getting down when I'm on here too much.
Cait - It might be a thought (the BCP) in a few months if you're still having issues! Definitely talk to your doc, though, first!
AFM - Ugh, still negative OPK here. I have no idea when/if it will turn positive!