I have to share this with you ladies. A kind soul from my previous birth board shared The Wonder Weeks with me, and it made such a difference for me, I have to pass it on!
So, it's a book... and here's what it's about: (taken from thewonderweeks.com)
Ever wondered why your baby drives you crazy during certain times? Or, that no matter what you do, you can't seem to make him happy or comfort him? Or, that he doesn't eat well; doesn't sleep well?
Have you ever thought - based on your child's erratic behavior - that there is something wrong with your parenting skills?
Most probably you can answer a couple of these questions with resounding "YES!" We know this because decades of scientific research have shown that all babies go through the same fussy phases at the same time. Frans Plooij, Ph.D., and author of the worldwide bestseller The Wonder Weeks spent almost 40 years exploring the reason and timing of these fussy phases all babies go through during their first years.
Here's the good news! You, dear parent, are doing nothing wrong, and there is nothing wrong with your baby. On the contrary: the fussy phases ARE good news! These fussy phases signal great and drastic changes your baby's mental development. During these times, his brain is giving him new possibilities. So many possibilities, in fact, that the world around him seems totally different and new. No wonder he is fussy! He needs to get grip on this "new world" suddenly in front of him. As a result, he acts out and becomes more Clingy, Cranky and Cries more.
During a leap it is possible your baby:
Sleeps less or wakes up a lot of the times
Seems to go back in his development in stead of forth
Clings to you all the time
Is ill more often
Is not satisfied, no matter what you do.
The Wonder Weeks gives you a "heads up" as to when these periods are expected and explains to you what is going on in the head of your child. Forewarned is forearmed! By knowing what is changing in the mental development of your child, you can help him go through these difficult phases and it will help you as you know why he is not the easiest baby in the world right now. It's no wonder that new parents everywhere who have read the book calls it a "sanity savior."
It's as good as it sounds if you ask me- because there are so many times in a small child's life where they enter one of these phases and people start giving you all kinds of advice that is usually all horse $hit! All of our babies are in or near a leap now- so if you start noticing extra clinginess, crankiness or crying- you can know that it isn't something you're doing or not doing, it's just normal. The best part about this book is that it ISN'T a style or method of parenting...it's just about bringing awareness of what your kid is going through so you can support it and get through it yourself.
I have a copy of this book, but it's in Laos. Remember when I posted about thinking Z was on the verge of colic? Hello! That was the first leap! I'm so glad a friend of mine to whom I recommended the book was able to remind me of this!
So, yeah, I recommend checking it out for sure!