1st child and 1st nights home

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1st child and 1st nights home

DS is being very sweet with saylor and I have a feeling he is going to want to be all over her including sleeping in our bed so he will be near her.
It's right, but I'm ok with it. I'm lonely worried that it will disturb his ability to get a good nights sleep.

Are or did your sleeping arrangements change with older siblings wanting to be near when you brought the baby home?

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Tori was 2.5 and that seems like a lifetime ago. I honestly don't remember.

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We did not change sleeping habits when my DS was born. And I don't plan to this time either. I feel like it will make things harder for me later. So I will try to keep everything consistent. But everyone is different and if you feel that it is best for you guys than you should definitely go with what your gut is telling on to do.

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I'd like to keep if consistent, but I have a feeling we will have an escapee several times in the night ;).

He typically gets to fall asleep in mommy and daddy's bed on the weekends only

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We aren't co-sleepers so it's a different situation. I'm mainly worried baby's crying will wake DD and she'll worry about baby and get up.

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So far the crying hasn't woken DD. She's still sleeping in her room, and hasn't asked to come to ours, although she has asked for the baby to come sleep with her in her bed. She comes and snuggles in the morning, and right now there is no way I would let her come back during the night cause frankly no one would sleep at all. Also, she had her own bed in our room when she slept with us since we don't all fit into our queen if we actually want to sleep.

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Aww Sad That's sweet!

I don't think I'd let him change his habits, personally. I'd rather have a well rested 3 year old. Tell him that snuggling with baby is something he can do during the day, but at nighttime, it's important for everybody to sleep in their own bed and get good sleep - so we have energy to play and love baby the next day!

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My kids used to come to our room and sleep on the floor in the middle of the night. We worked hard during the winter to change that. I didn't want the baby to wake them when he cried at night. They have said they haven't heard him crying at night from their rooms so far (not that he cries much). I have learned the hard way that bad sleeping habits are hard to change!

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We've never changed anything with the addition of a new baby. We try to keep things as much "like normal" as possible during the transition. Every time we have had a new one, all the others have been sleeping through the night in their own bed (except for this time). Never been an issue. This time Aidan still wakes up most nights and comes in bed with us... we just let him continue to do this now that baby is here. We will work on transitioning him to his sister's room in another 3-4 weeks when he doesn't associate getting "kicked out" with the new baby being here. Last night was too funny though. He came in bed with us and Madelyn was nursing, and making little "baby noises." Aidan kept looking over at her and smiling, rubbing her head, and then kissing her. Needless to say, it took him about a half hour before he was back to sleep, lol! Smile

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Aweeeee so cute Laurie!

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Laurie, that was more what I meant Wink

DS woke up last night at 11pm and drifted in and out @helping" mommy last night till too late. He was so sweet though and just wants to make sure she's ok.

It worries me too though because I can't turn away for even second.

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Laurie, that was more what I meant Wink

DS woke up last night at 11pm and drifted in and out @helping" mommy last night till too late. He was so sweet though and just wants to make sure she's ok.

It worries me too though because I can't turn away for even second.

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Does your DS normally wake up at 11 to come see you? If so, let him continue, but probably a good idea to break the habit in a few more weeks. If not, gently re direct him back to bed and say, "You can help mommy during the day." and then stick to it!! It is cute when they are loving and want to help, but you have to set a good routine in place, and helping in the middle of the night is not a good routine.

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"pollo_la" wrote:

"You can help mommy during the day."

Well said! I'm going to use that!!!! (if i have to)