I'm not quite there yet, but I'm thinking of spilling the beans on FB at 11 weeks...we'll have seen the baby again and be leaving for a family trip where we'll pretty much HAVE to tell DH's extended family so we've decided to tell my family that they can quit being tight lipped at that point as I know it'll be hard for them to keep the secret with Thanksgiving a few days away. That being said, I won't have internet/cell service that whole week (going on a cruise) so I'm afraid a family member will find out and comment about it on FB w/o my knowing causing people to wonder why they are hearing "through the grapevine" instead of my having said it. SO I figure it's better to come out and say it rather than risk that even if it is a few weeks earlier than I would've liked to leak the news.
My other option is to send a mass email to extended family before we leave telling them the news and asking if they'd please refrain from mentioning it on Facebook as we don't plan on announcing it there for a few more weeks. Thoughts/opinions??
So aside from that little dilemma, I have a friend on FB whom I am not at all close with but know from high school who has made it very clear via status posts that she is struggling with infertility. She already has one child who is older than my oldest and it seems they've been trying to have another for quite some time. Again, this isn't someone I'm good friends with so this info is just based on comments she's made, one very recently about how depressed she is. I'm really struggling because I know it'll totally bum her out and I hate to be the cause of that, but I also don't feel like we're good enough friends that it would be better to PM her beforehand or something. Is anyone else in a similar situation? Just not sure what the "politically correct" thing is to do here! Excluding her from the announcement post won't work since we have many mutual friends and she'll see it anyway and probably be more offended. *Sigh* At a loss here.