If I get pregnant soon, my daughters will be nearly 8 and 5.5 when he/she is born. I have no doubt they will be a great help!!
J's wife, mama of 2 wonderful girls
TTC #3, cycle 17
I'll also add - please don't push the older sibling to help if they don't want to. It can create resentment. If they want to help, then let them. Do encourage the older sibling that the baby is fun to play with and makes silly faces etc. Get them involved, but don't push too hard.... Just my opinions of course but I think the biggest problem with my sister and I was that I was always made to help out, pushed to play with her a little too often etc. I was very much an introvert and needed my own space which my parents didn't facilitate. And as a disclaimer - I do/did (mom is passed away) love my parents and my sister very much. I just wish my sister and I were closer when younger.
We are getting close to a 3 1/2 year age gap which is more than I wanted. I think we will try to have #2 and #3 closer together. I think a bigger gap is good for us right now though since dh is still in school, I work etc.
There was a 6 year gap between me and middle sister and then an 11 year gap between me and baby sister. I will say that I remember when each of them was born and it was fun and exciting for me but I was not close to my middle sister until recently and i'm still not close with my younger sister, who is only 15. I was made to babysit way too damn much and that created some resentment for sure.
Our kids are about the same age (and I recognize you from the 2/11 board). I'm relieved to see someone else that will have 3 children 4 years old and under. I've been getting nervous about how I'll be able to handle 3 children. I think for me it's one of those things that I just have to jump into and it'll all work out in the end.
If I get pregnant this cycle my kids will be 4 1/2 years and almost 2 1/2 years.
I'd love to share another bb with you, hopefully this one