Thread: for BTDT moms with more than one.....

At what point would you consider putting a bunkbed in a child's room? We are planning on redoing DS's room before baby comes and we were offered a futon bunkbed from the MIL. I LOVE the bed and its big on the bottom for DS who loves a "big bed" but at the same time.. I am not ready for him to be in a room with a bunkbed. (yet that is in the room he sleeps in at his Mom-moms. I'd rather him just have a twin for now. but I hate to pass up on the futon bed bc its a NICE one. What would you do??

How old is he? My son has one and got it a 7, but I think he would have been fine a year or two earlier. We just had ground rules about it and it's never been a problem. We started with it against a wall and a rail on the other side.

He's 3 now. his birthday is in July

Hmmm, 3 would have been young for my son, but it really depends on how your son would act. Would he sleep on the bottom and stay off the top? I would be a little nervous putting a bunk bed in a 3 yo's room.

I LOVE futon bunk beds!! They are the best. Anyway, I don't think there is a right or wrong to this... just what you feel comfortable with. It depends on how the parents feel and the personality of individual kids I suppose.

That being said... this is what we have done in the past, and what we are "currently" doing. My first two started sharing a room when my oldest was 2 and the younger one was 14 months. No bunk bed at that point. We got a futon bunk bed when we were ready to put # 3 in the room with them. At that time we put my 3 year old on top (she is a wild sleeper and can't really sleep with someone else) and my 5 year old and 20 month old slept on the bottom together. We kept that sleeping arrangement for a year and it worked great. Then we moved. In our new living situation we actually had three bunks stacked right on top of each other. My oldest was on top (6 years old), next one was in the middle (3, turning 4), the next oldest was on the bottom (2 years old), and the baby slept in bed with DH and I. We did that for about a year. Then we moved again. Now, in our current house we have two "regular" bunk beds in the girl's room. My two older girls each have one of the top beds, and the younger two each have one of the bottom beds. They were 7, 5, 3, and 20 months when we started the current sleeping arrangement. It has been that way for a little over a year now and it works great for us.

But again, ultimately it boils down to what you feel comfortable with and what you think is right for your kid/s!

We got my kids bunkbeds this past June when DD was about to turn 5 and DS1 was 3. My 3 year old sleeps on the bottom though. Obviously they play up on the top bunk, but as far as sleeping, I was not really comfortable with younger than 4-5 to sleep up top.

I agree with what's been said about it depends on how you think he'll act. I'd put my 3.5 year old on the bottom no problem knowing she wouldn't climb up there if I told her not to. But not sure my DS would be as compliant even if he was that age because the temptation would be too strong. Is there anyway to set it up without the top on yet? I know a lot of bunk beds break down.

possibly. He would sleep on the bottom and not the top which is what he does at Mom-Moms. However I am fearful we would end up with our first broken bone...because though we tell him NOT to go to the top... Im sure he would. It would be nice to have it for when company comes there would be a bigger bed for company. but Im not sure where to go with this one

Honestly, I wouldn't put bunk beds in DD's room but she's a little younger than your son. She is a very cautious child, but still!

Is there anywhere you can store the bed for a few years? Can the top bunk come off and be stored while he uses the bottom?

My DS1 will be 5 in May and we are going to get him a bunk bed this year for his room. Our plan is to have DS2 (16 months) share a room with him when he turns 2, but I still think it might be alittle unsafe that young. 3 is young for one but not unheard of. I would get it anyways and you could always use it when he's older.