Mine got bunks at three and five. This year (five and seven), they each got a loft. So now they both sleep on the top. No issues with inappropriate climbing or jumping. When Lucas was three, he would sometimes want to go sit up top with Tori but it was rare. He never fell. No broken bones here! At least, not from the beds. Tori fell off a slide at the playground when she was four and broke her elbow.
I would love to be able to get it and store it.. the issue there is if we get the futon MIL wants the 2 single beds we have back. which means we will still need to get a bed for DS. (I dont want juste the bottom. I'd like to have a twin bed in his room for now. I honestly don't know how well the futon bed woudl fit.
does the ladder come off? if so just don't put up the ladder...
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We had old bunk beds that could be separated to be two singles...but they were old and wood.
Personally, I hate futons. I can't stand sleeping on them!!!! Hubby had one when we met but it didn't last long as he wanted me to stay over and I just couldn't get comfortable on that thing!
You could always store the frame and throw the futon mattress on the floor for DS to sleep on. VERY safe being that low. :P
Futons with thin mattresses suck big time. However, if you get a nice thick mattress they are quite good.
No issues with my kids on the top bunk. In the beginning I just tell my younger ones to stay off, but by about 2.5 they are totally fine to go up there. They "know" how far they can lean and be safe and such. If you really don't want your son on top though, I think you can totally train him NOT to go up there. The day it arrives you simply tell him, "You can't go on top." So, you put the thing together, talking about how awesome his new bed is, and then you keep throwing out every now and then, "but we don't go on top yet." Now of course you know he is curious, and if he is use to "testing you" then he will absolutely still try and go on top at some point. So, you just make sure that whenever he is anywhere near that new bed that you are also there. The second he starts to climb you immediately get him down and there is an immediate consequence (important, give NO warnings... you already made it very clear the first day that he is not to go on top). If he tends to be a button pusher, you will probably have to stay on him like a hawk at first and make sure he is never alone with the bunk, because if he "gets away with it" for awhile even once to get on top, you lose your effectiveness. So, stay on him like crazy at first, then gradually give him some time alone (but try to check in very frequently at first). If you do catch him on top just immediately discipline again and go back to watching more closely. HOnestly, if he is use to getting away with stuff this might take awhile for him to know that you mean it, BUT if you stick with it it will absolutely work. If you are fairly consistent with discipline already, it shouldn't take all that long.
Anyway, just my style, but I don't avoid much of anything (other then I DO keep cleaning products locked and out of reach... that's not something to mess around with). I simply tell my kids what they can and can't do and then follow through and they know I mean it! They do still test me occasionally to see if I mean it (hey, don't we all), but for the most part... they listen!!
I agree 100%. We do very minimal baby proofing and just teach our kids from the day they can roll/crawl around what they can and can't touch. It's worked well. I stopped lighting candles and keep meds and cleaning supplies out of reach and lock the knife drawer. Otherwise, they just learn "No way, buddy!" Real quick!
DH and I haven't begun planning how to fit everyone yet. Aside of we already know we'll have the baby in our room for the first 3 or 4 months, at least. I'm really thinking after that, we'll get a bunk bed for the boys and have my oldest on top. They will be about 3 and 5.5 at that time. I wouldn't have a problem with putting a bunk bed in either of my boys room after age 3 but wouldn't probably let them up on top unsupervised or to sleep until 4 or 5. I think my 4.5 yr old would be fine now though.
We were at MILs today and I went and looked at the futon/bunkbed again. (it's been a while since I ahve seen it.. and even longer since I paid attn to it) The top half comes off so we could leave it unbunked. I think though that what we will do is put the top part in DS's room. and the futon (which folds out to full size almost) in baby's room. so It can be a couch in there and If im too tired I can jsut sleep there without having to walk back to my room. (which isn't that far..but when exhausted its like a mile!) Then when the boys are bigger we can bunk the beds. I was talkign to mil about it and told her that my biggest concern with taking it is that Ben will learn to climb to the top ladder or no ladder, and that while he is only using it for short periods of time at her house, itd be full access at ours.. She then admitted that he already knew how to get on top... apparently his cousin taught him already..... I love the idea of having somewhere to sleep in the nursery. (or even for company at first (baby will start off with us for a few weeks at least) )