Can PPD start early?

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Can PPD start early?

I got on teensy little disappointment this weekend (my side job foesnt need me anymore) and since then I'm spiraling into an emotional depression this whole weekend. Everything is upsetting me and rationally I know I'm overreacting and added fuel to this fire by thinking about other things that upset me, but I can't seem to help it.

I just can't seem to cheer up. DH is not good with me being sad, he just gets upset and thinks I have an "attitude" towards him, so he is no help. Not that I think he or anyone can be anyhow.

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I think the high amounts of hormones are probably playing a part in magnifying the feelings... I am sorry your DH isn't very understanding, maybe taking a day for yourself would help on both counts?

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I have been fighting depression on and off this pregnancy. Luckily I've been happy more than depressed...but it's lurking in the background. It just takes a few little things in one day to throw me off. Then I just want to hide in my bed and cry. I had a really rough day Saturday but Sunday was better. It's so unpredictable and I hate it!

Sorry to hear you're having some similar issues. Around here your doctor/midwife can give you a depression checklist to complete. I did one a few months ago and I was borderline depressed. It helped hubby understand that this is real and it's not just me making it up.

*hugs* I hope things lighten up for you. We're almost done baking these babies!

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I think it can. I had it for 18 months after Tori and not at all with Lucas. This time Jon and I are already discussing our game plan if it happens because I already feel very on edge and down and think its a very big possibility.

I would tell your doctor. Even if its just end of pregnancy hormones, your doctor can keep a close watch and help you right after the birth if needed.

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I got out of the house and that helped a bit. Hubby isn't a bad guy he just gets frustrated when he can't "fix" what's wrong and when I'm in these moods there is not much I can do other than distract myself and wait for it to pass.

I will tell my OB on the next visit though

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I got out of the house and that helped a bit. Hubby isn't a bad guy he just gets frustrated when he can't "fix" what's wrong and when I'm in these moods there is not much I can do other than distract myself and wait for it to pass.

I will tell my OB on the next visit though

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:bighug: Glad you are feeling a bit better after an outing. I hope it continues to improve.

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Getting out of the house helps, for sure. He could help by taking up some of the duties with DS so you can have more time to yourself. Wink

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I'm always a mess the last couple weeks of pregnancy. I have NOT been a pretty sight this week. For me, I'm just on edge temper wise. ANYTHING sets me off... Oh, baby needs to come. At least for myself I know once the baby is here (after the first week or so anyway) my hormones start to regulate and I'm much better.

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I'm getting pretty mental too Laurie. Ugh!

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ive had my moments where I've spent the day crying over dumb stuff and thinking about the future etc. I def think its hormones and its hard to deal with them.

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Definitely not fun to feel sad, but thanks to you ladies, you make me feel normal Smile

I'm just so easily irritated or sad or whatever right now and it feels like everyone wants me to be "normal". I would really like for them to leave me alone, lol!

Other than DS, he's been so sweet. He gives me kisses and covers me with a special red blanket of his that he says will make mommy feel better. I try not to cry in front of him, but he's caught me a few times. Love that little boy. :biglove:

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Noelle, honestly, hormone wise, I don't know why the last few weeks of pregnancy are never really discussed as a "rough time." It's always been the worst time emotionally for me. First trimester is never particularly different for me, and yes, I'm a little on edge just after the birth for a week or two, but the last few weeks are SOOOOO bad compared to any other time. I guess the good news is that it doesn't mean you will have ppd or anything like that. It simply means that right now things are rough, but recognizing what's going on should at least help some.

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There are so many scary things about the last few weeks! How will labor go? What of baby has a health issue the ultrasound didnt detect? What if I can't reach my babysitter for the older kids? What if baby is fussy? How is our family going to change? What if I need an intervention I don't want? What if I want an epidural and can't get one? And on and on and on. It's a wonder we aren't all sobbing and having panic attacks 24/7. It's a pretty intense time. It's all so close to being real and it's all so out of our control. But I remember after Lucas having a big huge cry of relief. And then I was fine.

Tori was a different story but our situation at the time was bad. It was the perfect storm of all the causes of PPD rolled into one. We were so young, only married two years when she was born and basically just out of college. We had no money, we were in a new city and I had no friends. My MIL refused to help me because I quit my job to stay home and that was lazy. With all the health issues I was not able to breast feed, it just wasn't an option and the guilt was awful. And Tori wouldn't stop crying. And I didn't know it at the time but my thyroid was completely out of whack.

But I was never sad during the pregnancy. In fact, I was so sick the whole time, I expected the PP time to be smooth sailing. And it definitely wasn't. So I definitely agree that being sad now doesn't mean you will fall apart after.

But if you DO, it's ok and there's no shame in it. I sure wish someone had told me that!

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"elleon17" wrote:

Other than DS, he's been so sweet. He gives me kisses and covers me with a special red blanket of his that he says will make mommy feel better. I try not to cry in front of him, but he's caught me a few times. Love that little boy. :biglove:

My DD has been sweet like this too. It's very refreshing to see her caring so much for me. When I'm on the sofa feeling yucky she'll bring me her teddies to cuddle and cover me with blankets. Sometimes it's her absolute favorite blanket too. SO sweet. It warms my heart to see her so kind.

What Rachelle said about the last weeks is SO true. So many things are out of our control. I'm normally a bit of a planner so it's hard for me to let go. I'm having an easier time this go-round but with DD I was a wreck. Well, once the c-section was planned with her I was less stressed because I had a date...but I still worried about my water breaking EVERY time I left the house. This time I don't much think about it.

Anyways, I hope things start looking up. Just remember, we don't have to figure everything out today and that some of the things you feel you NEED to get done before baby comes can actually wait. Life will go one once the wee one is here.