Come on babies!!

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Come on babies!!

Hummmm, haven't seen any new arrivals for a few days. We were getting about 1 a day there for awhile. Come on out babies!!

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Still having painful contractions all night long that quit when the sun comes up. I've found that two Tylenol takes the edge off just enough that I can kinda sleep through them (plus I am super sensitive to pain meds, so regular Tylenol knocks me like a Tylenol pm in most people!). I am aware of them, but able to not fully wake up.

At this point, I really would rather make it to the end of the month. Specifically, the 28th. Tori and Lucas are both the 28th and I wouldn't mind completing the set, hehe. Plus we have a ton going on the next two weeks. I've decided I can totally wait. Is it possible to be 3 cm for a whole month???

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Oh Chelle, you don't want to know how long you can be 3 cm, lol!! I was 4 cm with my 3rd for a month. Finally I jumped to a 7 and THEN labor finally started!! With my last 2 I was only checked one or two times though, found to be about 3-4 cm, and then went into labor. You just never know. Well, if baby stays in longer I sure hope he doesn't make it too painful for you. I'm glad that you have found you can at least get some semi decent sleep if you take the Tylenol.

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I'm still here. The FB world is getting me down. If I don't post people ask about baby and if I do post people offer me all sorts of unwanted advice. I'm just trying to find the setting that will close my wall from posts. I don't need this!

Yesterday was pretty quiet BH wise. Midwife is 4:30 tomorrow and I'll see about a sweep again.

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I am still here too. Mom called at 9:15 last night (which is waaaay past her bedtime) I thought something was possibly wrong with my stepdad (he is very injury prone) but she just wanted to check to make sure I hadn't forgotten to call her, pppfffftttt lol.
I have been napping a lot, too much to be healthy I think, this kid needs to come out just so I can be awake more.

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"MJDttc" wrote:

I am still here too. Mom called at 9:15 last night (which is waaaay past her bedtime) I thought something was possibly wrong with my stepdad (he is very injury prone) but she just wanted to check to make sure I hadn't forgotten to call her, pppfffftttt lol.

Ya, because you'd just forget to call your mom. Right. WHAT is with people? UGH!

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My mom has done the same thing, calling just to check! Like I would ever not call! Honestly!

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We'll probably have a big boom of 3-4 babies born all at once!

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LOL, about calling mom. I was talking to my mom before my placenta was even delivered!

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My mom is the one who is going to watch DD, so I'll phone her....probably....

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Pending my mother is not working, she is supposed to be in the room with me. lol.

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Ya, speaking of moms...mine works 'on call' and accepted shift yesterday, today and tomorrow from 3pm - 7pm....then gets all bent out of shape when I mention that perhaps X person can cover if I go into labour, or maybe Y person. "Please don't take this opportunity away from me". Ummmmmm...say what? You're the one who accepted these hours ON my due date and the 2 days after. And as for taking anything away from you, how is someone watching DD for a few hours until you're off work taking anything away from you? Then she proceeded to tell me to not have the baby till Friday. I wanted to slap her!

Ugh...go away world.

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Oh my Heather!! :doh: Sorry youre getting it from your mom too!

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Heather! Ugh! Everything I said yesterday about my mom? I talked her out of coming by saying it was too expensive and too hard on her health. Well my grandmother thought I was being so kind and self-sacrificing SHE bought my mom a flight out here to reward ME. God help me. Sigh.

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"PCCGirl813" wrote:

Heather! Ugh! Everything I said yesterday about my mom? I talked her out of coming by saying it was too expensive and too hard on her health. Well my grandmother thought I was being so kind and self-sacrificing SHE bought my mom a flight out here to reward ME. God help me. Sigh.

WHAT? NOOOooooo! That's the last thing you need right now! Sad I'd lose it! Is she sleeping at your house too? I'd almost pay for a hotel to get her the F out of my face. You poor thing. Sad

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I at least talked her down from 10 days to 6. Now I have new resolve to get this baby out and fast because the more established our breast feeding is, the easier this visit will be.

FYI: my mom thinks breast feeding is foolish and only done for bragging rights. She will spend the whole visit trying to persuade me to let her give baby a bottle so I can take a nap/go out/etc. we do one bottle day starting at six weeks but not before. And it's more for necessity. I serve on a couple of boards and need to be able to attend meetings, etc. But I'm off duty until late August so there's no need for bottles right now.

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I could not handle my mom going off like that about BF. It sounds to me like she wants you to bottle feed for selfish reasons...so SHE can feed the baby. What do you think? It sounds like something our insecure moms would do. Because it's way more important what you want vs what is good for the baby, mom. UGH!

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I think it's guilt that she didnt breast feed us. One of those "if formula was good enough for you, it's good enough for your kids" issues.

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"PCCGirl813" wrote:

I think it's guilt that she didnt breast feed us. One of those "if formula was good enough for you, it's good enough for your kids" issues.

Ahhh ok. My MIL had 4 kids and they were a combination of the two. I think hubby was BF but some of the older ones weren't. When they were born, it was the formula push.

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"PCCGirl813" wrote:

Heather! Ugh! Everything I said yesterday about my mom? I talked her out of coming by saying it was too expensive and too hard on her health. Well my grandmother thought I was being so kind and self-sacrificing SHE bought my mom a flight out here to reward ME. God help me. Sigh.

Oh no... !!!

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Wow, I am sorry your moms are that way! I'll let you borrow my Mom she is great.

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I'm sorry your moms are pains in the tushes. I hope it all goes well

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UGH. my mom is the opposite! With DS I had a horrible time breastfeeding and she made me feel like poo because I wanted to stop and go to formula... so I kept going bc everyone was on my case.. and i ended up with severe PPD. So now Im here with DS2 due ANY day and can't decide what I want to do if I want to nurse or if I want to bottle. bc I feel bad either way. AGH! we have some severe weather coming, school is done and now I can relax so it wouldnt surprise me if he makes his appearnce soon!

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What problems did you have BFing Patience? Personally I'd try again...but that's because I'm cheap and formula is EXPENSIVE!

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My mom is a major breastfeeding advocate, but that's okay because I am too... and I find if you're really wanting to do it, then you need someone in your corner. Not to be annoying, but to support you.

I would flip out if my mom tried to push a bottle on me/baby. I know my MIL has questioned the length of time in which I nurse (present) DD. And I know she made a comment about us not calling. Why are they so paranoid?

My mom on the other hand was taking DD during labor, and was so reluctant to go - she was at DD's birth and I knew she really wanted to be at this one too.

DH was also calling before the placenta was delivered. My mom came back with DD like 20 minutes after the birth to see the baby.

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Heather- it was triggering migraines (I think because of the hormones since that is one of my biggest triggers) and I ended up dreading every nursing session (as soon as the migraine would go away it would be time to nurse again and it was back) . I feel like I missed out on bonding time with DS bc I was so upset everytime we had to nurse. I felt like a failure because I struggled and I had everyone telling me how awful it was that I wanted to stop and go to formula. so then I felt like Iw as being "forced" when it wasn't what I wanted to be doing. DS was also a comfort sucker so he wouldnt be eating just sucking and then nursing sessions were longer (worse migraine) and then I had severe pain because I was so raw... I ended up with severe post partum depression from it. (to the point that I was on anti depressents for over a year...and then only taken off bc the dr felt I had been on them long enough...though I know I was taken off too early) I think Im going to do both this time or at least try to pump and go from there. The difference this time is if it doesnt work, it doesnt work and Im not going to beat myself up over it.

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Patience, I just wanna tell you that the second time around was so much better for me with PPD. I was so scared and then I was fine. Mine lasted 18 months and I refused meds because I was an idiot. I suffered major paranoia among other things. The second time I had a few things going for me--I knew my triggers and how to avoid them. I knew the warning signs. And I wasn't afraid to admit if I needed help. If bf-ing causes that kind of deep depression, I don't blame you for not wanting to do it. I think the pumping idea may suit you--by associating any negative feelings with your pump instead of baby, it might help the bonding issue. And you can control the amount of time, etc. and if it is still too much, well, it is what it is. I believe strongly in breast feeding but I believe with all my heart that a baby needs a mentally healthy momma more than Mona's milk.

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That's Momma's milk! Stupid phone.

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I really think the ppd wouldn't have been as bad if I hadnt been made to feel so horrible for wanting to stop breastfeeding. What made it even worse is that for as much sh... mom gave me for wnating to stop. she's very quick to tell other new/to be mommies that it's not for everyone and its ok if you cant. ... I know now its OK if it doesnt work, and that it doesnt make me any less of a mom. so I am hoping to avoid the ppd or at least not have it as severe... Im more worried abotu going back to work in August!

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I hope Rachelle is right and it isn't so bad for you this time. Perhaps try and see how it goes? I had NO depression at all with K and then this pregnancy I'm a mental wreak. Every pregnancy is different. Also, the whole 'human pacifier' thing is a big problem with BF babies...the unfortunate truth is that needs to be nipped in the bud so to speak...especially if it's causing you issues.

Personally, if I were you I would try, but not tell anyone. If my mom asked, I would honestly tell her that she caused a lot of anxiety for you last time and so you'd prefer to not discuss this with her...well, at least until baby is bigger. You can hide in another room to feed baby if you want to be away from glaring eyes.

As for the raw nipples, it's an unfortunate thing that happens to lots of us. Sad They to make nipple shields to help that (I think) and it will pass...nipples toughen up. With the mental state you were already in last time, I'm not sure knowing that would have helped any though.

*fingers crossed* for no PPD this time!