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Heatherbella's picture
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So I need to decide when to change DD's daycare from 5 days a week to 2 days a week. I'm due June 11 but I hope to work until baby comes. I just don't want to 'waste' time off when baby isn't here yet AND we could use the money.

DD's daycare is $600 a month for full time or $260 for 2 days a week. I'm trying to decide whether to move her to PT on June 15th or keep her in full time for all of June. Obviously since it's only 1/2 month difference it's only $170 extra to keep her full time...but ??? it's not like we're rich so $170 would be nice to have.

My mom is planning on helping out with DD and baby in June but not sure she can cover enough to let me work full time.

I'm just wondering if baby is early or on my due date, will I want to take DD full time for the whole rest of June or will I be lazy and not want to take her? Also, I've told her that once baby comes she won't be going to daycare as often, so if baby is born and she still has to go full time she might get sad.

The other thing to consider is if I pick June 15th to change to part time, then I need to stop working full time regardless of baby being here or not.

Ugh, it was SO much easier when I had a planned c-section last time! LOL

Thoughts?

quonsetmom's picture
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First, what does dn think? Second, I'd say by the first of June your going to be uncomfortable enough to enjoy the part time hours. But that's me. I'd take dd home full time when baby is at least a week old, does dd have to be cut down the whole month?

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I'm not sure I can change my work to 'part time' or if I want to. My maternity benefits will be impacted if I don't work full time to the end.

DD will be 2 days a week (or 1) for the whole year of maternity leave. Never home full time.

I can do half a month, so full time till June 15th and then 2 days a week. I'll probably have to stop working on the 15th though.

quonsetmom's picture
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I'd say yeah, keep her in daycare full time for a bit to get yourself used to the newbie. Smile how exciting to be planning!

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This is just me and my experience, but I wanted my DD around when my DS was born. When my mom would take her to run errands or something to give me a break, I'd feel bad like she got "kicked out" for the new baby. DS was a dream baby though and slept most of the day so it made it easy to make sure DD was getting enough attention. So I'd save the money and have her around more after the 15th, but again that's just me. Not to mention, I don't think you'll really want to be dragging baby around in the car 2x a day to drop off and pick her up 5 days a week :shrug:

sandraleigh's picture
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Good point about the pick up and drop off Ashley. Never thought of that.
I guess the real predicament is having to now "plan" when you stop working, if you wanted to work up to the end. I know personally by the time I am overdue, there is no way I'd want to still be working. If you stop by the 15th, it really will only be a matter of days before the baby comes at the latest though, right?

Switching to 2 days at June 15th is probably wise. Save some money.

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I was thinking about the issues with drop off and pick up...but my hubby works from home so either he can do them or my mom can do them. OR, I can feed baby and leave him/her with daddy for the 20 mins it takes.

That said, I totally get what you're saying about feeling like I'm kicking DD out. She's going to have a lot going on and even though daycare is her consistent thing, it could still be upsetting to her to be going 5 days a week once baby is here.

I was thinking about the 'working past 40 weeks' and I probably won't be super keen on it...but sitting around waiting sucks too. I work from home and I sit on my bottom all day...so it's not like it's physically hard...but it's mental.

I'm leaning towards June 15th...hummmm...

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I'd absolutely do June 15th. The extra money will be good, you won't feel like working anyway (likely), and it really is good for your dd to be around as much as possible once the baby gets here, so everyone has a chance to adjust and love on the new little one. Smile

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I agree with PP's, if you are wanting DD to be around more as soon as baby comes then go ahead and do June 15th. The 15th is a Saturday anyway so really it's like the 17th and you'll be nearly 41 weeks at that point. If baby hasn't come it won't be long. Smile

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"Clarkton" wrote:

The 15th is a Saturday anyway so really it's like the 17th and you'll be nearly 41 weeks at that point. If baby hasn't come it won't be long. Smile

Ba ha ha ha! I didn't even check to see what day of the week the 15th was. Blum 3

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haha, yeah I only know b/c I told my work I'd be there through the 14th or until I go into labor, whichever comes first. So I knew it was a Friday. Smile

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I have the same issue. Since I don't have the option of going down to part time, I'm waiting to the last minute to pull him out of daycare.

Luckily (I guess) We actually pay a week ahead, so when I pull him out I will theoretically have week where I have already paid anyhow.

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I wish I could give last minute notice but they need to fill her spot ahead of time. I think I have to give 1 month's notice. Booooo!

This morning the head woman told me the owner wants us to do Monday and Friday because those are their 'low number' days. Ugh! I want two days together!!!! She said I should call and talk to him. I'm SO not in the mood for that today so it will have to wait.

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That's kind of crappy, Monday and Friday. I hope you can work something else out!

elleon17's picture
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That does make things quite inconvenient to space them so far apart. Monday & Wednesday seem more reasonable than Monday & Friday.

Heatherbella's picture
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I'd rather have two days together so she gets into the swing of daycare. Know what I mean? If they'll only give me Mon & Fri then I'll maybe just do one day and not two. I don't know. I was liking Wednesday & Thursday so that we could go camping early if we like. Ugh.