Did your previous labor and delivery go mostly to your plan?

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Did your previous labor and delivery go mostly to your plan?

I thought it might be fun to talk about what happened in the past with labor and delivery and what we are hoping for this time.

I guess my first labor kind of went according to plan since I didn't really have one! LOL Anyway, I was kind of hoping to not have an epi, but once the pain really hit, I found that I really had no clue what I was doing and I went ahead and got one. The labor progressed well, and my first dd was born without issue.

My second labor I was again really hoping to avoid and epi, but hadn't done much more to prepare. I again ended up with an epi, and my dd was born without issue... Oh, well my BP did crash after they gave me the epi, and as I was in a complete fog I heard them say, "we're losing her," but they gave me a shot of something (of course the baby got it too) and I "came back."

I did a ton more in terms of prep (reading, lots of reading, on natural birth) before my third and I did have a natural delivery with her. It wasn't easy, but I got through it.

I was much more confident by #4 and I knew my body better. Number 4 was a very easy, natural delivery for me.

My fifth baby threw me a couple curve balls in labor, but I definitely know how my body works at this point, and his delivery was really without issue. ANother natural delivery.

My first 4 were in a hospital. My 5th was in a stand a lone birth center. I'm hoping to give birth in the birth center again, and have a delivery, ideally, close to what my #4 was!!

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Mine was anything but to plan. It was very long and very traumatic and I had a lot of unwanted interventions and some terrifying side effects to medication. I also had significant tears and spent four days in the hospital. I actually had PTSD following the delivery and went to counselling. Needless to say I am a little terrified of going through another birth so soon!! I am currently considering a home birth in a pool, because I can't face the hospital again. But I'm not sure.

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Hilary, I'm so sorry you went through that! I have a good friend who had a similar first birth. I don't remember what her second birth was like, but her third child was born at home after a very peaceful labor with absolutely no interventions!!

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Wow, you are a total warrior! I love to hear that your last was at a birth center. How wonderful.

Well, my DD's birth went nothing like we planned. We went with a midwife early in our pregnancy because we love the more laid back approach of midwives. Birth isn't an ailment like a heart condition, so why should surgeons look after you? Anyways, the plan early on was to try to be as natural as possible but to go with the flow. I didn't want to put too many expectations on myself and then feel badly if things went a different way. We went to child birth classes and I did a bunch of reading.

A couple months before my due date one midwife thought DD was breech. The other midwife disagreed. So off we went for an u/s a month before my due date. It was great to see DD on New Year's Eve...but she was indeed Frank breech. We talked to an OB about turning her manually or doing a breech birth. Unfortunately my fluid was measuring low, so they weren't comfortable with trying to manually turn her. Also, because she was my first and her head was measuring big they weren't even sure she'd fit if she were head first...so they didn't like the idea of her coming out feet first and then finding out her head wouldn't fit. Sad

So we scheduled a C-section with the hopes that she'd turn and we could do a vaginal birth. I tried so many things to get her to turn. I used DH's weight bench and did inversion after inversion. I also went to the chiropractor multiple times for adjustments. They work on the muscles that hold your uterus hoping to relax them and give baby more of a chance to turn. By the end of it I scared of how it might feel if she did flip and hoped she'd do it at night! LOL.

So we went in on our C-section day and they checked her position. Still breech so we had the c-section. Had she been head down, we would have been sent home to wait for labour. Her position was the only thing making me high risk.

So ya, that was not at all what I had hoped...but I'm really hoping for a VBAC this time. The midwife says I'm a good candidate as my c-section was ALL DD's fault. Blum 3

This is me holding DD's head. She was crunched right up next to my ribs. OUCH!

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I was pretty stupid when I was pregnant with DS. I didn't make a birthplan, and had the doctor induce at 40+2 (or 37+2 depending on if I trust the ultrasound from Planned Parenthood), He was 7 lbs 13 ounces, so I am pretty sure we were closer to 40 than to 37. But I was tired of being pregnant, and impatient, and so darned uncomfortable. So we had the cervidil the night before, then pitocin started at 7 am, the nurse "accidentally" broke my water while checking me (I told her not to) when I was at a three. I had an epi. I was blacking out pretty much the entire time from when my water broke till I got my epi, then I just slept mostly. He came out easily with about three pushes.

But looking back on it, it was far from ideal, and I hope not to do it again like that. I have think I may have finally got DH on board with having a birthing center birth. I don't want to have an epi this time round and will not induce unless absolutely needed. I also don't want to stay in the hospital for days if it's not needed.

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Mine went pretty well to plan. I had a very loose plan. It went something like this, Go as natural as possible! That really was as detailed as I got. With #1 my water surprisingly, and suddenly broke and 5 1/2 hours later he was born naturally. With DD my doctor broke my water, I did have Nubain, bad idea! She was born 2 hours and 20 minutes later. I may been through it twice before, but I am still dreading labor!

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Laurie - You're amazing!!

Oh Hilary, I'm sorry! I hope this one is much smoother!

Heather - That pic is really neat! Hope you get your VBAC

AFM - My first two I was induced at 38 weeks for what I now think we're B.S. reasons. I had 12 hour labors and epi's with both. Labor was slow until my water broke and then it went very fast.

With Malia I refused to be induced. I also planned on having an epidural. Well, when I got over 40 weeks my Dr. was really pushing for induction and my resolve was wearing thin. So on Saturday, 2/19 I tried the dreaded castor oil, knowing it was my last shot before my appointment Tuesday where my doc would probably insist on induction and I would likely agree. I had all of the unpleasant side effects, but not quite to the degree I feared and had a few contractions, but I had been having contractions every evening for a month so that wasn't very exciting. When they fizzled out hubby and I went to bed. At 5 AM I woke up to pee and thought maybe I was having contractions. I woke hubby up and called my sister (who lived 45 minutes away) because she was going to keep my kids. Well long story short, I had M at 6:20, 7 minutes after getting to the hospital, while my big kids sat unsupervised in the lobby. I didn't have time for an epi and it was completely not what I planned, but so much better.

This one I will plan for natural child birth. I would like to use a birthing center, but dh is not on board with that. O-well.

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My first birth was NOTHING like I had planned. I didn't actually have a plan, but my son's delivery was FAR from ideal. He was delivered via emergency c-section at 31 weeks and 3 days and weighed 2lbs 12 oz. He was in NICU for 7 weeks. I really hope to make it to 34 or 35 weeks this time, but we'll see. I have a unicornuate uterus, which is essentially half a uterus, so my son ran out of room at 31 weeks. Hopefully my uterus will stretch further this time.

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"muppetplus2" wrote:

My first birth was NOTHING like I had planned. I didn't actually have a plan, but my son's delivery was FAR from ideal. He was delivered via emergency c-section at 31 weeks and 3 days and weighed 2lbs 12 oz. He was in NICU for 7 weeks. I really hope to make it to 34 or 35 weeks this time, but we'll see. I have a unicornuate uterus, which is essentially half a uterus, so my son ran out of room at 31 weeks. Hopefully my uterus will stretch further this time.

One of my best friends just had a baby at 31 weeks after a long and trying 10 weeks in the hospital. That is a very scary time! I hope this time you baby can hang on a little longer, I know each day they can stay in there can potentially make a big difference!

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It's nice to hear everyone's stories.

Ahhh...to know then what I know now... I guess we learn by experience, luckily mine wasn't too traumatic.

My first was textbook ob with no complications. They kept pushing me for an induction and luckily I didn't take the bait. I pushed them off as long as I could and went into labor the day before they had scheduled it (10 days late). I had no real plans except to go as natural as I could. I used the birth ball, got in the tub in the bathroom, and rocked in the chair. I got an epi and then proceeded to stall at around 7cm. They started pit and a total of 26 hours later my baby girl was born with an unannounced episiotomy.

For my second one I changed OB's so I could stay at the same hospital. I really liked this OB, as far as doctor's go. Again, no complications, went into labor on my due date. Had an epi, but told the anesthesiologist to cut the potency in 1/2 from what he normally did. Doctor wasn't there when I was complete, when she got there he was out in two pushes. I tore a tiny bit and got to feel a whole lot more than the first time. I also ended up with a spinal headache from the epi.

With my third, I switched to a free standing birth center around 20 weeks. The experience was great overall, except for a few minor complications. I didn't tear at all and my recovery time was amazing. I couldn't believe how good I felt.
I'm having trouble deciding what to do this time.

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My first wasn't exactly according to plan, he came early. I had a drug free delivery 7 hours after my water broke. I only felt contractions with him for the last hour and a half, he was 3 pushes, and OUT! (and the first push was the one when the nurse screamed, "Stop, we need the dr and NICU team!") My second was 45 mins after my water broke, he was face up (more painful) and 6 pushes, and again, natural. My goal this time, full term delivery and not on the side of the road.

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"batbird" wrote:

My first wasn't exactly according to plan, he came early. I had a drug free delivery 7 hours after my water broke. I only felt contractions with him for the last hour and a half, he was 3 pushes, and OUT! (and the first push was the one when the nurse screamed, "Stop, we need the dr and NICU team!") My second was 45 mins after my water broke, he was face up (more painful) and 6 pushes, and again, natural. My goal this time, full term delivery and not on the side of the road.

I understand, if my labor time gets cut in half again I will be at about an hour, and I am so scared I will be one of those crazy stories you hear about. You know the ones about the lady having her baby in the car on the way to the hospital! We live a good thirty minutes drive to the hospital. But you never know how long labor will be.

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Neither of mine went as planned. Tess was supposed to be born in a free-standing birth center in Monroe, Mi. I caved and was induced at 43 weeks. After 22 hours of labor and 4 hours of pushing we decided on a c-section since she wasn't coming down. She was too big for me and had her hand up at her face. Quinn was to be a scheduled c-section at 40 weeks. He ended up being delivered at 38 weeks, 3 days when my swelling, headaches, etc got out of hand.

Number three will be a scheduled csection (if I ever get pregnant).

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"Momma Leah" wrote:

I understand, if my labor time gets cut in half again I will be at about an hour, and I am so scared I will be one of those crazy stories you hear about. You know the ones about the lady having her baby in the car on the way to the hospital! We live a good thirty minutes drive to the hospital. But you never know how long labor will be.

In Alabama it is illegal to willfully deliver at home, midwives can't practice here legally. But, I have been told if my water breaks at home to stay put and call 911. We are 55 mins away from the hospital, and 45 from any hospital that can actually deliver a baby.

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"batbird" wrote:

In Alabama it is illegal to willfully deliver at home, midwives can't practice here legally.

WOW! Just wow!

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Heather, there is a walk this weekend to raise awareness of the need for the law to CHANGE!

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"batbird" wrote:

In Alabama it is illegal to willfully deliver at home, midwives can't practice here legally.

It is illegal in NC too. Luckily, I'm very close to SC where it's not.

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"batbird" wrote:

Heather, there is a walk this weekend to raise awareness of the need for the law to CHANGE!

I'm so glad to hear that. I was thinking for a minute that your senator must own shares in the hospitals or something!

I watched a couple documentaries on Netflix last week about the how birthing is in the USA. I was shocked and very saddened. I'm not sure if any of you have seen them but I watched 'The Business of Being Born' and 'Pregnant in America'.

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i guess my birth plan went like planned, i had gone to see my dr for my weekly check up and she said that i should go into labor no later than this weekend this was wednesday night, around 6ish had contractions and ready to go into the hospital by 10 water broke on its on at 10:30 while waiting for the dr to check me. Grabbed my epi at midnight and things were progressing very well and rapid, out of no where around 4 am DS heart rate started dropping when she was trying to flip me to my left side. Things started getting a little scary because every time i pushed his heart rate dropped, they prep me for a c section and my dr said she was going to do a csection and let my body bring him down natural, 4 pushes and help with the vacuum my ds was here at 8:55 am. if it wasnt for the heart rate dropping it would of been a perfect labor, the best nurses ever i had a really good experience

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So with my first DD I went in the hospital at 38 weeks for being in labor. I had just gone off my preterm labor meds and was in labor yet again. So I went in that night for observation because I was not dilating but was having regular long and intense contractions. The next morning they started Pit to see if they could get me to dilate. I got to 3 cm by that night so my OB broke my water in the hopes to get me to dilate faster. By 6 am the next morning I was still only 3 cm. So after 36 hours of labor we opted for the csection. At that point I was exhausted and that baby just need to come out!!

DS was a scheduled csection because I did not want a repeat of my first labor experience.

This baby will also be a scheduled csection which works out well because I'm planning on having a tubal ligation at the same time.

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"Momma Leah" wrote:

I understand, if my labor time gets cut in half again I will be at about an hour, and I am so scared I will be one of those crazy stories you hear about. You know the ones about the lady having her baby in the car on the way to the hospital! We live a good thirty minutes drive to the hospital. But you never know how long labor will be.

Our hospital is a good 30 mins away. with DS I was only about 5 cm at 7:15 when they checked me and decided to do an emergency c-section.... DS was born at 7:22 no c-section....... I pray that its not as quick with the next!
I def cannot say it went as planned. I wanted to try to do natural, no epi...and 2 weeks before DS was due I had a migraine.and excessively high blood pressure. We went into the hospital and around 11 pm we were todl that after the test results came back we'd be heading home 5 mins tops. THEN like 2 mins later they came in and said htey were going to induce me htat night. I tried to go without an epi but eventually the nurse told me that when induced with the pitocin it sometimes helps to move it along with the epi. At that point I went for it because we were getting close to needing a c-section. (AND THEN IT DIDNT WORK!) I honestly dont know how long I would be considered to have been in labor for and that makes me feel bad. (does it count from the start of indcution or the pushing time etC) My migraine was so bad that I have no idea what time they actually started induction (is that when the labor would be considered to have starteD?) I know they broke my water the next day (it was overnight they started the induction) but I ahve no clue what the actual time was. I didnt dilate past 5 cms by the time they were going to decide to do an emerg csec..... Then all of a sudden DS and my body decided they wern't going t have a c section.. so he came and he came quick. 6 mins of pushing and the nurse having to find a dr to deliver (or she was going to do it) SO for this one, I hope to be more aware, and avoid induction AND an epi....since Ill be teaching still I am HOPING my blood pressure is ok this go around! (sorry for my horrible typing tonight. I still feel like crud, and my computer is being nutty)

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"muppetplus2" wrote:

My first birth was NOTHING like I had planned. I didn't actually have a plan, but my son's delivery was FAR from ideal. He was delivered via emergency c-section at 31 weeks and 3 days and weighed 2lbs 12 oz. He was in NICU for 7 weeks. I really hope to make it to 34 or 35 weeks this time, but we'll see. I have a unicornuate uterus, which is essentially half a uterus, so my son ran out of room at 31 weeks. Hopefully my uterus will stretch further this time.

Your uterus should stretch more with baby #2. I hope you make it to at least 35-36 weeks!

"batbird" wrote:

In Alabama it is illegal to willfully deliver at home, midwives can't practice here legally.

yep, Illegal in Rhode Island too. Sad

I have had two natural births, no drugs. DS was sunny side up which sucked because it was all back labor and I had an episiotomy which also sucked. DD they had a hard time finding her HB in triage and I'm planning on not consenting to being monitored flat on my back this third time! Otherwise DD's birth was picture perfect IMHO! So I'm hoping for basically a repeat of it! Smile

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Some of you have mentioned fear of shorter labor times. Just to let you know, they don't always get shorter!! Mine were like this...

1st - 11 hours
2nd - 2 hours
3rd - 4 hours
4th - 6 hours
5th - 8 hours

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My labour was 30 hours from start of regular contractions to birth. Lord help me if this labour is longer.

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"pollo_la" wrote:

Some of you have mentioned fear of shorter labor times. Just to let you know, they don't always get shorter!! Mine were like this...

1st - 11 hours
2nd - 2 hours
3rd - 4 hours
4th - 6 hours
5th - 8 hours

ahh, so there is hope of not delivering on the side of the road Wink

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First I want to say that I loved my labor and delivery, in spite of its complications. It was the best and most fulfilling way to spend a day I have ever experienced. I felt so accomplished by the end nothing mattered.

My labor plan was simple, no pit, no interventions, just an epidural.

My daughter started coming first at 29 weeks, when i started with contractions and leaking amniotic fluid. I was told after tests and u/s that the fluid was nicely regenerating so they were able to send me home each time i went in (about 5 times lol) and be on light activity.

At 36 weeks i started getting very light headed and dizzy and found out that i had toxemia (pre eclampsia spelling?) My legs were swollen through my thighs, couldn't get on shoes, socks, or sandals even. My bp was very high. I was sent home on full bed rest laying down.

I went in a couple times besides my regular twice weekly appointments thinking my water had actually broken, but was sent home each time. At 37 weeks 2 days my water officially broke when i was getting off the couch to go to the bathroom. I went into the hospital and was admitted right away.

The doctor on call was very busy with emergency c-sections that night so didn't want to deal with me. She gave me a sleeping pill to slow labor and left me till 5am. I was put on pit at 5am (though should have refused that and the sleeping pill in hindsight but wasn't one to speak up for myself at the time). Shortly after being put on pit my contractions came on heavy, and were all in my back. They went to a baseline of 6 and never came down, one right on top of another. My daughters heart rate went into the 60s with each peak and it was very scary.

After three hours not being able to catch a breath and her low heart rate I asked for the epi, as well as the pit to be stopped/slowed down. That's when she flipped and I progressed very well. I feel if i never had the pit or sleeping pill it would have been much much easier. I pushed for 2 hours and had a mirror, that was amazing to see her as she entered the world, and also i could see how i was doing and better focus the push where it was needed. i dint rip and had no apesiotomy (?spelling) which was amazing. I was in labor for 19 hrs not including the 8 weeks prior of leaking amniotic fluid, which ended up being from a second sac that had formed. (turns out I had two, one inside the other). She was born 5lbs 6.7 oz 19.5 inches long. she went home at 5lbs 4oz and dropped to 4lbs 12oz before working on my milk supply with help.

I held my daughter, completely oblivious to the new complication, for 40 minutes. Then my Dr got my attention and told me my placenta was not detaching. Before I could question what he was doing, and after my epi was completely worn off, he reached in and tore out my placenta. I screamed bloody murder and asked someone to take my daughter, because i felt like i was squeezing her. It hurt much worse than pushing her out because she was smaller than the doctors fist by far, and no medicine.

I was in physical therapy for 3 months till El was 7 months old. I have not only switched ob's but also hospitals for everything. At the new hospital my Dr. will be with me when I am in labor and deliver no matter what. I will also stick up for myself this time as i know my body and what it is capable of. I hope to still have an epi but no pit or sleeping pill. I look forward to my labor and delivery with number 2!

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Wow that is truly horrific. I'm glad you're in better hands this time.

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First one was sorta to plan (she was having heart decels so ended up being monitored both external and internal and had an epi in case of emergency. She was also assisted with forceps to get her out faster because of the heart issues), second one was mostly to plan (born drug free 18 minutes after we got to the hospital).