I thought it might be fun to talk about what happened in the past with labor and delivery and what we are hoping for this time.
I guess my first labor kind of went according to plan since I didn't really have one! LOL Anyway, I was kind of hoping to not have an epi, but once the pain really hit, I found that I really had no clue what I was doing and I went ahead and got one. The labor progressed well, and my first dd was born without issue.
My second labor I was again really hoping to avoid and epi, but hadn't done much more to prepare. I again ended up with an epi, and my dd was born without issue... Oh, well my BP did crash after they gave me the epi, and as I was in a complete fog I heard them say, "we're losing her," but they gave me a shot of something (of course the baby got it too) and I "came back."
I did a ton more in terms of prep (reading, lots of reading, on natural birth) before my third and I did have a natural delivery with her. It wasn't easy, but I got through it.
I was much more confident by #4 and I knew my body better. Number 4 was a very easy, natural delivery for me.
My fifth baby threw me a couple curve balls in labor, but I definitely know how my body works at this point, and his delivery was really without issue. ANother natural delivery.
My first 4 were in a hospital. My 5th was in a stand a lone birth center. I'm hoping to give birth in the birth center again, and have a delivery, ideally, close to what my #4 was!!
Mine was anything but to plan. It was very long and very traumatic and I had a lot of unwanted interventions and some terrifying side effects to medication. I also had significant tears and spent four days in the hospital. I actually had PTSD following the delivery and went to counselling. Needless to say I am a little terrified of going through another birth so soon!! I am currently considering a home birth in a pool, because I can't face the hospital again. But I'm not sure.
Hilary, I'm so sorry you went through that! I have a good friend who had a similar first birth. I don't remember what her second birth was like, but her third child was born at home after a very peaceful labor with absolutely no interventions!!
Wow, you are a total warrior! I love to hear that your last was at a birth center. How wonderful.
Well, my DD's birth went nothing like we planned. We went with a midwife early in our pregnancy because we love the more laid back approach of midwives. Birth isn't an ailment like a heart condition, so why should surgeons look after you? Anyways, the plan early on was to try to be as natural as possible but to go with the flow. I didn't want to put too many expectations on myself and then feel badly if things went a different way. We went to child birth classes and I did a bunch of reading.
A couple months before my due date one midwife thought DD was breech. The other midwife disagreed. So off we went for an u/s a month before my due date. It was great to see DD on New Year's Eve...but she was indeed Frank breech. We talked to an OB about turning her manually or doing a breech birth. Unfortunately my fluid was measuring low, so they weren't comfortable with trying to manually turn her. Also, because she was my first and her head was measuring big they weren't even sure she'd fit if she were head first...so they didn't like the idea of her coming out feet first and then finding out her head wouldn't fit.
So we scheduled a C-section with the hopes that she'd turn and we could do a vaginal birth. I tried so many things to get her to turn. I used DH's weight bench and did inversion after inversion. I also went to the chiropractor multiple times for adjustments. They work on the muscles that hold your uterus hoping to relax them and give baby more of a chance to turn. By the end of it I scared of how it might feel if she did flip and hoped she'd do it at night! LOL.
So we went in on our C-section day and they checked her position. Still breech so we had the c-section. Had she been head down, we would have been sent home to wait for labour. Her position was the only thing making me high risk.
So ya, that was not at all what I had hoped...but I'm really hoping for a VBAC this time. The midwife says I'm a good candidate as my c-section was ALL DD's fault. :P
This is me holding DD's head. She was crunched right up next to my ribs. OUCH!
I was pretty stupid when I was pregnant with DS. I didn't make a birthplan, and had the doctor induce at 40+2 (or 37+2 depending on if I trust the ultrasound from Planned Parenthood), He was 7 lbs 13 ounces, so I am pretty sure we were closer to 40 than to 37. But I was tired of being pregnant, and impatient, and so darned uncomfortable. So we had the cervidil the night before, then pitocin started at 7 am, the nurse "accidentally" broke my water while checking me (I told her not to) when I was at a three. I had an epi. I was blacking out pretty much the entire time from when my water broke till I got my epi, then I just slept mostly. He came out easily with about three pushes.
But looking back on it, it was far from ideal, and I hope not to do it again like that. I have think I may have finally got DH on board with having a birthing center birth. I don't want to have an epi this time round and will not induce unless absolutely needed. I also don't want to stay in the hospital for days if it's not needed.
Mine went pretty well to plan. I had a very loose plan. It went something like this, Go as natural as possible! That really was as detailed as I got. With #1 my water surprisingly, and suddenly broke and 5 1/2 hours later he was born naturally. With DD my doctor broke my water, I did have Nubain, bad idea! She was born 2 hours and 20 minutes later. I may been through it twice before, but I am still dreading labor!
Laurie - You're amazing!!
Oh Hilary, I'm sorry! I hope this one is much smoother!
Heather - That pic is really neat! Hope you get your VBAC
AFM - My first two I was induced at 38 weeks for what I now think we're B.S. reasons. I had 12 hour labors and epi's with both. Labor was slow until my water broke and then it went very fast.
With Malia I refused to be induced. I also planned on having an epidural. Well, when I got over 40 weeks my Dr. was really pushing for induction and my resolve was wearing thin. So on Saturday, 2/19 I tried the dreaded castor oil, knowing it was my last shot before my appointment Tuesday where my doc would probably insist on induction and I would likely agree. I had all of the unpleasant side effects, but not quite to the degree I feared and had a few contractions, but I had been having contractions every evening for a month so that wasn't very exciting. When they fizzled out hubby and I went to bed. At 5 AM I woke up to pee and thought maybe I was having contractions. I woke hubby up and called my sister (who lived 45 minutes away) because she was going to keep my kids. Well long story short, I had M at 6:20, 7 minutes after getting to the hospital, while my big kids sat unsupervised in the lobby. I didn't have time for an epi and it was completely not what I planned, but so much better.
This one I will plan for natural child birth. I would like to use a birthing center, but dh is not on board with that. O-well.
My first birth was NOTHING like I had planned. I didn't actually have a plan, but my son's delivery was FAR from ideal. He was delivered via emergency c-section at 31 weeks and 3 days and weighed 2lbs 12 oz. He was in NICU for 7 weeks. I really hope to make it to 34 or 35 weeks this time, but we'll see. I have a unicornuate uterus, which is essentially half a uterus, so my son ran out of room at 31 weeks. Hopefully my uterus will stretch further this time.
It's nice to hear everyone's stories.
Ahhh...to know then what I know now... I guess we learn by experience, luckily mine wasn't too traumatic.
My first was textbook ob with no complications. They kept pushing me for an induction and luckily I didn't take the bait. I pushed them off as long as I could and went into labor the day before they had scheduled it (10 days late). I had no real plans except to go as natural as I could. I used the birth ball, got in the tub in the bathroom, and rocked in the chair. I got an epi and then proceeded to stall at around 7cm. They started pit and a total of 26 hours later my baby girl was born with an unannounced episiotomy.
For my second one I changed OB's so I could stay at the same hospital. I really liked this OB, as far as doctor's go. Again, no complications, went into labor on my due date. Had an epi, but told the anesthesiologist to cut the potency in 1/2 from what he normally did. Doctor wasn't there when I was complete, when she got there he was out in two pushes. I tore a tiny bit and got to feel a whole lot more than the first time. I also ended up with a spinal headache from the epi.
With my third, I switched to a free standing birth center around 20 weeks. The experience was great overall, except for a few minor complications. I didn't tear at all and my recovery time was amazing. I couldn't believe how good I felt.
I'm having trouble deciding what to do this time.
Last edited by momto3toB; 10-19-2012 at 04:17 PM.
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