My cousin texted me last night and asked if I was pregnant. I was waiting to tell her in person, but she knows I haven't been feeling well lately. (she lives in Michigan and me in Florida)
I wanted to also wait till the ultrasound for real confirmation.
I don't want to lie to her though.
If someone knows you well enough to be ballsy enough to ask then I'd probably tell her. Just let her know it's still early and you aren't announcing anything yet, and you're really waiting for an ultrasound.
I have a friend that I ALWAYS tell right away before anyone else. It's nice to have someone to talk to about it while you're busy keeping a secret from the rest of the world!
It depends, I mean; will she tell others that you don't want to know or can she keep a secret? Would she be really upset if you lied to her?
I guess, knowing me, I would be really private about it in the first place if I really minded people finding out (like not mention I'm sick on facebook or whatever...) so I wouldn't have anyone guessing because no one lives near me but my mom and I'll tell her right away.
I think it really depends how bad you want to keep it a secret at this point...
J's wife, mama of 2 wonderful girls
TTC #3, cycle 17
It would depend on the person and my relationship with them. My sister asked me the other day after my DH made some sort of joking comment about me being pregnant again, and I went ahead and told her - even though we are NOT telling people yet. There are some people that I wouldn't tell at this point though. This time I really feel that it is important to tell my kids before the rest of the world knows. And of course once the kids know - the rest of the world will find out shortly thereafter.
I also have to say that I don't really view not sharing this information with someone as the same as lying. I think this is a completely private issue, and other people need to respect when you are comfortable sharing. I am also equally annoyed by people who continually ask people about their "family planning." For people who are privately struggling with infertility it can be extremely hurtful to have people continually asking them when they are going to have a baby!! Bud out and mind your own business! Now, if people choose to share their family planning with other people, then that's great, and they obviously want other people involved, but I feel like it's up to the couple to bring it up, NOT other people!
I think it depends on how close you are to your cousin, and how likely she is to go and blab to everyone else.
I have made it "facebook official" (I really hate that term), I just kept posting random things until more and more people asked. In the beginning I turned it back around and asked them if they were pregnant (since I basically the only people on my facebook is family), but when DHs uncle (who we lived with for a couple months) figured it out I just went ahead and told.
now that im getting closer to my appointment I probably would and im obviously showing, the only people really left to know is my co-workers and i swear i feel like people are looking at my stomach. my IT guy asked me yesterday if my boobs had gotten bigger cause they looked bigger than usual (he's comfortable enough to ask that) but i could tell he really wanted to ask if i was pregnant but was scared incase i wasnt
I'm at a point now where if someone would ask me point blank, I'd tell them. My cleaning lady made a comment 3 weeks ago, and I didn't say anything, but when she came back last week, and I was sick as a dog, I told her since it felt silly to keep up a ruse. I agree that it's more fun to tell in person, but sometimes it's just not possible. We told in-laws over the phone even though they're only 2 hours away. Turns out it was a good thing, since we haven't seen them since! My aunt and grandfather are coming in soon, so I'd like to tell them in person, but I told my mom that if it really comes up as an issue with my aunt, she can tell (ie why aren't you getting anything done, oh because adina is pregnant and feeling like crap and needs all my help). I also don't wait for u/s to confirm since if we have one, it will only be at 20+ weeks. We heard the hb this past week, but we were telling long before that.
ETA: When I was pgn with DD, I told a couple friends at 9 weeks cause they knew something was up - they told me they thought I was either dying, or maybe had a m/c since I looked so awful. It was much nicer to share happy news.