Thread: Drive

I completely have NO drive at all. and quite frankly it irriates me when DH even tries to touch me. Im that irritable this time. I used to have a HIGH drive before we got married... then it went downhill... and after DS it REALLY went downhill. The full time job and 3 yr old doesnt help bc Im exhausted all the time. and at this point even the times that I HAVE had the desire to... I would get irritated by the slightest thing (like DH always asks if he's "getting some" and Im at the point a back rub, or something like that when he DOESNT jsut want some would turn me on more) I've also been sick since October and that kills it,...ya know the inablity to breathe, constant cough....... not a turn on for me! I was loing my drive before this ttc time.... mainly bc we think I have exercise induced asthma. so everytime we'd dtd I'd not be able to breathe. and the inhaler I had didnt help. so that to me is a general turn off......... SIGH. DH would be so jealous of you ladies that are dtd 3-4 times a week! Im going to ahve to get better and give in this weekend (irriated or not) because he was upset he didnt get any on new years...and his birthday is coming up.

Aweeee Patience! I hear ya. Being sick and tired never helps. We work from home so it's often easy to make time when no kids are around and we aren't exhausted. Most days by bed time I'm shot for any of that.

Well if I didn't 3-4 times a week, I know our marriage would have major problems. Intimacy is probably the biggest "Issue" that would ever cause trouble for us. DH believes (and I DO agree, i just have a hard time admitting it ) that a healthy marriage involves healthy intimacy. Just because I'm pregnant doesn't mean I get a break!

Obviously when I get enormous and huge I won't feel quite as bad about saying no if I am particularly uncomfortable and grumpy.

I normally have almost no drive. It's a little stronger this pregnancy but I'm still too sick to do anything about it.

I completely agree with you Sandra!

I agree with Sandra ... We normally dtd 2-3 x a week and it would probably be more except hubby works evenings/nights and I work from home during the day, but I do daycare and can't exactly go dtd with a bunch of kids here. Right now, however it's been closer to 1 time a week, but hubby is pretty understanding aaaaaaand he doesn't want to get puked on. As soon as m/s is past we will resume our normal loving. And I have to say the more we dtd the more I want to dtd.

LMAO, he doesn't want to get puked on!

Mine isn't very high.. that's for sure and I think that's the biggest issue in our marriage too. The more we DTD the more I want to DTD too.. but it's hard to get started sometimes. Especially right now being pregnant and tired all the time. I just want to relax and SLEEP! I get frustrated with myself sometimes honestly bc I want to DTD and I even think about it but when it's bed time.. all I want is to sleep. I have 3 good friends that all have high sex drive.. I envy them sometimes lol my DH is always game too!

It is also the biggest issue for us. And even at the rate we are goin DH is still complaining! Part Of the complaining is the fact that I am not that much into it, but I tell him that he should be thankful that we are doing what we are!

Originally Posted by Momma Leah

It is also the biggest issue for us. And even at the rate we are goin DH is still complaining! Part Of the complaining is the fact that I am not that much into it, but I tell him that he should be thankful that we are doing what we are!

Yes, Leah.. yes! My DH will tell me to talk to him dirty or take charge more.. I am just not like that though and never have been. Sometimes I think about it and never act on it.. like I'm embarrassed or something. Weird, huh?