Finding Out Gender

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akpufa's picture
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Finding Out Gender

DH & I had a long talk about the gender last night and I decided it means more to him so I'm giving in. I feel like if it's the one way he can connect to the pregnancy, it's hard to take that away from him since I obviously am experiencing everything else. We discussed only him finding out but he is really afraid he'll blow it and I don't want him to feel bad about it forever if he does. So decision made. Plus we think it'll be easier on DD if she has a gender to connect the baby (she is convinced it's a girl so if it's a boy, at least she'll have time to adjust). I'm already "over" it and starting to get excited about finding out. It just isn't worth dwelling on now that the decision is made.

However, we did figure out that DH is probably not even going to be able to make the u/s appointment due to work so if he doesn't, I'll just have her take the gender shot pic and put it in an envelope so DH & I can open it together later. We're actually leaving town later that day too with his family so we might have to wait until we get home.

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Aweee, I'm a little sad for you but it does sound like you've come to terms with the whole thing and are fine with it now. That's great news! I can't wait to hear what you're having! Did you keep all the clothes from DS and DD?

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"Heatherbella" wrote:

Aweee, I'm a little sad for you but it does sound like you've come to terms with the whole thing and are fine with it now. That's great news! I can't wait to hear what you're having! Did you keep all the clothes from DS and DD?

Oh yes! And they were both summer babies so I'm set for at least the first 6 months! Smile

ETA: There's always the off chance baby won't cooperate and hide it's gender. Wouldn't that be hilarious after all of this?? Lol

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"akpufa" wrote:

ETA: There's always the off chance baby won't cooperate and hide it's gender. Wouldn't that be hilarious after all of this?? Lol

HaHa! I'd laugh SO hard!

DD was born in late January so I might be in trouble! That being said she was a slow grower so I have most seasons in each size.

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I'm glad you were able to come to a decision together and your reasoning makes a lot of sense. Maybe you won't be able to see anything and it'll work out in your favor. Smile

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yay im excited for you guys.. i do agree i think it will help him connect more with the baby if he knows the gender. Smile

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I'm so glad you both were able to make a decision that you were both able to agree upon. Though I secretly hope that baby doesn't cooperate too ;).

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I am glad that you came to a decision. I feel that it is important for everyone to feel involved. Smile

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I'm glad that you made a decision and you are comfortable with it. It would be funny if baby "doesn't cooperate. " Smile

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Yay for having a decision. I'm glad you are comfortable with the decision and even getting excited about it. I think you're a great wife for considering hubby's feelings. It's tough when there is no acceptable compromise...I would not have been happy with DH knowing and me not so I would have gone the same way as you. Smile

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"Clarkton" wrote:

Yay for having a decision. I'm glad you are comfortable with the decision and even getting excited about it. I think you're a great wife for considering hubby's feelings. It's tough when there is no acceptable compromise...I would not have been happy with DH knowing and me not so I would have gone the same way as you. Smile

I would have been fine with just him knowing to be honest, but after thinking about it for a while, I know he'd feel HORRIBLE if he accidentally let the secret out and I don't want him living with the memory of "blowing it" for me. So this is just the best route to go in the situation for us Smile