I'm not going to get in the middle of the FF v RF debate because I'm not an extended RF'er (I just go to current guidelines). But I will say it makes me nuts this time of year seeing kids in their car seats with HUGE winter coats on!! Hello?! I know it is SUCH A PAIN to get them out of the coat, strapped in, then unstrapped, back into their coat.... but if it keeps them safe, it's worth the effort.
Worse than that, my BIL/SIL let my 4 yo niece sit with her straps loose because she "doesn't like them tight" WTH?!?!?!?! That's on top of her winter coat if she has one. She'd probably be better off in a seat belt! They're the kind of people who if you tell them in any way that they shouldn't do something, you'll get a lecture and then they'll keep doing it to spite you anyway. So there's nothing I can do. When I've tended her, I put her in our spare car seat and do it tight and she whines and I'll tell her tough stuff girl and she gets over it. Drives me nuts when people let their kids dictate their own safety.
I agree Ashley! I'd be so frustrated to see your BIL & SIL do that! Safety is non-negotiable in our house! When K says her straps are too tight I double check that they aren't pinching, that they aren't too tight and that they aren't on her necklace. I try to fix what might be bothering her but bottom line is they HAVE to be tight!
It's really hard to watch someone you love have their safety compromised like your niece does.
The issue with puffy coats is in and accident they compress and then the straps aren't tight anymore! This image shows you the seat tightened with a coat on...then the child put back in with no coat. Look how lose the straps are? In an accident the puff of those big coats disappears. You're better having them in a light hoodie or a fleece jacket with a blanket over them.
I also will not let my kids wear their coats in their seats.
I just throw a baby blanket in the vehicle and then tuck that over them once they are strapped in. Keeps them warmer and no trying to strap in with a big winter coat.
I also am not as diligent with car seat safety as I really should be. My DH is the worst at not strapping them in tight enough and it drives me crazy but I let it go all too often to avoid always having to nag. I have been inspired to get back on it though so let the nagging begin. I think also since we are about to be installing 3 seats I'm going to take DH and myself (with the kiddos) to get the installations properly checked and I'm going to have them lecture us about how to strap everyone in safely so DH can hear it from someone else. Then I will bug him to enforce what we are taught.
We did that with DS1 and I always do the reinstalling of carseats b/c I know DH won't be ticky about getting it right. But I think we are way overdue for a refresher.