Sorry this is sort of long....
Okay so you all know I've been battling with DH on whether to stay Team Green or find out. Initially he said he definitely wanted to know, then he said he would let me decide, now he's back to he HAS to find out! I didn't know I felt so strongly about wanting to wait until we started talking about it last night and the thought of finding out at the ultrasound completely bums me out.
DH's solution was just he'll find out and keep it a secret. I told him to think on this for a while and we'll talk about it again - there's a lot to consider doing that! I mean, he could slip up and tell me for one. For two, he refuses to lie to people and say he doesn't know so he'll have to tell people he knows but can't tell. I just don't know if he can do it!
I want that big surprise of what the last member of our family is going to be as long as possible. Plus I love the idea of an extra labor motivator! DH's argument is that he needs to adjust to never having another boy/girl (whatever the baby isn't).
One other suggestion I had was to have the u/s tech write it down and he can find out towards the end of the pregnancy so he can "prepare" or whatever but lessen the chance of my finding out. But it bums me out a little thinking I get the big surprise at delivery and he'll already know. Ahhh sorry I'm driving myself nuts with this...just need some opinions here of whether this is a terrible idea or anyone who knows someone who has done this successfully.