I would honor my hubby's wishes and I'll tell you why. We get to bond with baby before birth regardless. But for my hubby, he doesn't feel that. It's not his body. He has no real way to begin that bond. Until he knows the sex. We usually call the baby by its name immediately from the ultrasound. "Tori kept me up all night kicking." "Lucas thinks we should have dinner at Pizza Hut." It really helps my hubby feeling more a part of things.
I appreciate all the comments made...gives me some food for thought both ways. To answer Heather's question, YES we did find out with our other two. With our first, it was a no brainer - we both desperately wanted to know. With our second, I mentally toyed around with the idea of waiting, but we both were hoping for a boy since we weren't sold on having a 3rd yet (although a girl would have been great too! A healthy baby is 100% most important to us). Plus we had zero gender neutral clothes so we easily agreed on that one too. But now we have both genders, all the clothes for the right seasons, etc. it just seems like there's no reason to really find out.
We are both thinking on it ATM and will talk about it more in a week or two and make a decision. We definitely aren't the kind of couple to go behind each other's back or make a "my way or the highway" decision so I'm sure we'll come to some sort of agreement that we can both be at least satisfied with.
Oh, I had another thought...when a baby comes home...how is a boy different from a girl apart from the clothes? Since you have all the clothes, that's not really an issue.
Personally, I'm about experiencing different things in life. With DD we found out her sex at 13 weeks and had a c-section. This time I'm hoping for a v-bac and staying team green. I feel like I want to know what it's like to do things a bit differently this time.
We have LOADS of girl clothes but no boy, so I'm going to pick up or borrow some boy sleepers before baby comes...that way we'll have a few things for the first few days if we do get a boy. No big deal.