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PatienceW's picture
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has anybody told?

HAs anybody told family yet? I am ready to tell mine but at the same time Im scared to! we will be at 6 weeks soon, but I also need to ahve somewhere for DS to go for my appt on Friday...... AS of right now a few at work know, but other than that family doesn't. Just wondering who has told/how?

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i told my cousin and a girl at work because they both know i was trying and was having a hard time so i kinda felt like i needed to let those 2 know. i was going to wait but honestly whats the point cause if i have another miscarriage my family will need to know to take care of ds so i think im going to wait until next week or the week after. i bought ds a shirt that says Im the BIG brother and im going to have him wear it to my parents and in laws and see if they can guess

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we did family pics today and added a few in with ds wearing a shirt. I thought about putting it on him and going to Mom-Moms.

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we have told family already. I waited until 12 weeks to tell anyone with my first two kids and just felt like doing it differently this time. We saw my family last weekend and just told them then.

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Yeah it's pretty much out to everyone now lol. I tried to wait but didn't last long. I told my mom and sister and they told the rest of my family. I told my mil last week since my mom knew and she cuts mil's hair.

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We've told my parents, a friend each and my trainer at the gym lol - I told him in case I passed out he could tell the paramedics.

I think DH is trying to tell his parents right now, but his sister is in the room and we're waiting a little longer for siblings - which is funny since we told siblings at 7 weeks last time around. We were going to wait until 8 weeks for parents (except my mom who I told right away), but we ended up jumping the gun with my dad last week (which was good since he said he already suspected).

It's really unclear right now when we're going to tell siblings. My BIL just had one, and my SIL is due in Dec. So we're trying to get somewhere in between to tell.. maybe 10 weeks or so. And then other people I'm planning on just telling when I'm showing or if they ask me.

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We haven't told family. 2 of my mom group friends know and many of my online friends. We are waiting for the Big Sister shirt to arrive to tell my mom. She will need to watch DD overnight when I have my test at 10 weeks, so she needs to know early. I don't want to tell anyone else until the test results come back...probably at 13 or 14 weeks. I'm not sure that's going to happen though.

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We have told MIL, and my mom and dad/step parents. My uncle was at my dads and dad told him, which I am ok with. My sisters know (all three of them) and one of my three brothers and his wife, cause they asked.

I was only going to tell one of my little sisters, but she guilted me into telling my mom. Which kind of spiraled into telling everyone else.

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u kept it a secret for a day. the world knows. lol. i suck at hiding anything

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We haven't told a soul! The only ones who know are the people at my doctor's office. I would assume noone suspects. The only one who would suspect anything would be my MIL.

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We haven't told a soul either. First of all, I think we're still in shock and need a little time for this to really sink in. We don't have any family close to us, so that makes it easy. We're going to visit our family for Thanksgiving, so we'll probably tell them all then.

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We never tell until it starts to get obvious that I'm showing... so early second trimester really. With my last one my mom didn't find out until I was 26 weeks because she lives out of town. She tends to freak out every time I get pregnant, so I don't really look forward to telling her for the most part... Sad I feel like telling people early with this one though. "Early" for me is around 12-13 weeks! I have told one of my closer friends. She will also be watching my kids when I go for my ultrasound later this week.

Patience, do you really need someone to watch your son? I think he would probably be fine at the appointment. Doctors/midwives are use to siblings coming to appointments. I always bring mine. The only reason I won't for the ultrasound is because I will be lying down for too long without being able to contain baby boy. Normally, I can pretty much hold him for my whole appointment. Also, my oldest dd is old enough now that she would know what is going on... and if things are not looking good, that wouldn't be good for her. Otherwise I think you could totally bring him!

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Nope; won't until at least 12 weeks. Might wait until Christmas since we will be home at my families in ND. We live so far apart, this will be the first time we have to tell them in person Smile

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"quonsetmom" wrote:

u kept it a secret for a day. the world knows. lol. i suck at hiding anything

:lurk:

u kept it a secret for a day???? dont you mean I kept it a secret for a day? lol. you never were a good secret keeper Wink

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Everyone knows already. And more find out everyday. Dh can not keep a secret lol

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"pollo_la" wrote:

Patience, do you really need someone to watch your son? I think he would probably be fine at the appointment. Doctors/midwives are use to siblings coming to appointments. I always bring mine. The only reason I won't for the ultrasound is because I will be lying down for too long without being able to contain baby boy. Normally, I can pretty much hold him for my whole appointment. Also, my oldest dd is old enough now that she would know what is going on... and if things are not looking good, that wouldn't be good for her. Otherwise I think you could totally bring him!

DS does NOT do well at dr appts.... usually he only goes with me if DH is coming too.... and that's rare. He is not one for sitting still for too long ever....haha. when I put my pic up you will be able to see how much he wont' hold sitll!

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We haven't told family yet, and probably won't until Thanksgiving. We have told a friend who will be watching our boys for the first ultrasound, and dh broke down and told a friend at church today. We'll see how long it stays a secret. Since we weren't planning for the next one now, and no one thinks we'll have a third, so no one suspects.

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We haven't told anyone yet, although I'm guessing my in-laws suspect I might be because we've spent a lot of time around them since getting our BFP and I'm sure they've noticed I haven't been drinking. My MIL is watching my kids when I go to the dr this week, but I just told her I had my yearly appointment.

We'll likely tell our parents after our appointment this week if everything looks okay, but we'll wait a while on everyone else.

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"akpufa" wrote:

We haven't told anyone yet, although I'm guessing my in-laws suspect I might be because we've spent a lot of time around them since getting our BFP and I'm sure they've noticed I haven't been drinking.

At least they haven't called you out on it. I HATE HATE HATE it when people do that when you aren't ready to tell. I have a friend (who has no kids) who did that to me when I was pg with DD and it didn't feel great.

We have a Halloween party this weekend which is normally a big party/drinking event. I'm going to be the designated driver (as my excuse) but I'm sure people will wonder. Almost makes you not even want to go.

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"Heatherbella" wrote:

At least they haven't called you out on it. I HATE HATE HATE it when people do that when you aren't ready to tell. I have a friend (who has no kids) who did that to me when I was pg with DD and it didn't feel great.

Oops - I've done that twice now. I called my sil out last summer when she was 7 weeks for puking. I literally pointed at her and said You're Pregnant!!! And then I immediately took it back and said "I didn't say that, you don't have to say anything!" Luckily no one else was in the room, since we were at a family event, and I know she doesn't like to tell until later.

And then back in April my other SIL was about to announce she was pregnant, and I kind of suspected, so I made sure not to call her out, but I did "accuse" my other SIL of being pregnant - and she couldn't really say anything because she was in her 2ww! Oops! Turns out she was like 3 weeks pgn at the time, just didn't know it yet. So she kept saying "not that I know of" which made me know she was at least trying. My dad had much more tact by not saying anything to me or my mom even though he suspected.

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I've told my sister, but she's the only one IRL so far. We need to plan road trips to tell parents, but we are waiting for a hb to tell them. At least that's the current plan ...

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I texted my mom and siblings the news a few days after I found out. I had already told one sister before that though b/c her and I were both pregnant together and both had a m/c recently so I wanted to tell her first. I called my grandparents and told them this weekend and my friend at work, my friend/neighbor and one other friend knows too. That's it for now. DH will tell his parents soon...just whenever he talks to them next and we'll probably start telling others after next Monday if I get good news at my u/s.

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Here is the shirt we used to tell my family. I was out of iron on transfer paper so I made stickers... (the top says "I'm not a lion" but he's so wiggly we didnt get that in the pic!

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Yeah I had a lady at church say something jokingly about me being pregnant, at least I think she was joking! I hate it when people do that!

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"Momma Leah" wrote:

Yeah I had a lady at church say something jokingly about me being pregnant, at least I think she was joking! I hate it when people do that!

I hate that too!

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UGH! So I totally hate being called out when I'm pregnant and not ready to tell people about it. So I get a PM on FB last from a woman I know. She's a friend of a friend, we aren't super close or anything:

Her: "are you pregnant?"
Me: "No, why?" (blatant lie, I know...but we aren't best friends or anything and my own mom doesn't even know)
At this point I'm freaking out trying to figure out what step I missed. How did she find out?

Her: "you have a lot of pregnancy related things on pinterest and newborny things that aren't related to yarn" (I sell crochet and knit hats)
Now I'm breathing a sigh of relief. Phew, I didn't screw up!

Me: "Well, we have talked about having another one day. I pin a lot of stuff I like. Smile "
Her: "Are you trying? I'm nosy". (WTF? Leave it alone! None of your business!!!!)
Me: "I don't really like to talk about stuff like that. It's kind of personal. Sorry."
Her: "That's all right. I will send vibes regardless, because everyone needs them".

Ok, so she was MEGA nosy but also nice about it. I just HATE being called out and I hate lying. Had we been close friends, I may have admitted it...but we aren't. Ya, So that all left me feeling like poop.

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What the French toast?!? I can't believe she did that Heather!!

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Woah, that chick is ballsy! I can't believe that either!

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It is hard to believe that anyone would be that bold, I never would! If I find things on Pinterest, I like them and am planning on repinning them later on. I get so paranoid that people will see and start to wonder... I've noticed that my SIL has been pinning baby pregnancy announcement ideas. Wonder if she is up to something Smile

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We ended up telling my family last night because we got some really horrible family news and I thought this might brighten spirits, but we are waiting to tell anyone else after our U/S and confirmation of heartbeat in 5 weeks.