hormones are going crazy
It took us 2 years to finally conceive this baby so why do i feel so emotional about having her. I sit and think in less than 12 weeks I'll be bringing another beautiful baby that we've wanted so much home and i start to cry to. Im not crying cause im happy im crying cause i feel sad my little boy that will be 5 will now have to share his attention with everyone. He wont be the only little one i attend to and I dont want to let him down.. He's my little cuddle bug and def a mama's boy..
Im sure my emotions are normal but im having a hard time dealing with it. Im scared as hell about having 2 children and i dont want ds to feel like im pushing him aside because that would be the last thing i would ever do, but i know having an infant/being sleep deprived and exhausted can do that.
Has anyone else felt the same way when pregnant with# 2
I'm definitely feeling the same way. It didn't take us as long to conceive this time (thank goodness) but this baby was definitely wanted/planned. Now that I'm pg I sometimes wonder why I wanted this and what have I done? Things are so great with just one. I also keep thinking DD has no idea the changes coming and I feel so sad for her. I feel sometimes like I'm ruining her life.
On the flip side though, I think about all the only children I know....and how so many of them would have given anything to have a sibling. I think about how they'll hopefully have each other as they grow old...long after DH and I are dead. I think about them sharing our family fun days and holidays together. Giggling at each other. In all I think the benefits of 2 kids vs. 1 are everywhere...and there is no doubt in my mind that giving my daughter a sibling is a wonderful gift.
I have several friends with 2 kids now. One in particular told me about how upset she was when number 2 was about to arrive. #2 is 1.5 years old now and obviously she can't imagine life without her. It warms my heart to see her, and my other mom friends, post pics of their kids playing together, laughing together, enjoying life together.
*hugs* it will be ok for both of us I think. My DD will be almost 3.5 when baby is born and your son will be 4.5, right? I think they will be great helpers and protectors for their babies.
I sometimes worry because i am already missing so much with DD. Tho at the same time, she is already so attached to her baby sister that I know she will be happy when she comes. She carries around her baby doll and hugs her, rocks her, gives her kisses, and even has me "feed her". I think for the most part DD will have more of my attention once Em comes. I have a great model in seeing my sister when her daughter was born her son was 13 months and she was so hands on with her son it was amazing. She also was blessed with a daughter that did not care to be held. I hope to be half the mother of 2 or more that my sisters are.
I even have the same feelings and this is #4! My youngest right now, Emerson, is only 16 months. He is the most mama-attached baby I have ever had. His temperament and personality are the perfect "baby of the family" personality. DH and I keep saying "He should have been our last!" Sometimes I feel like he was meant to be the last so he could be the baby forever, but we always planned on 4. He is so attached to me still and spends all day following me around and hanging on my every word. I know being a big brother will be good for him - he needs to toughen up, and some attention taken away from him will probably be a good thing! LOL!
Plus, I know in about 18 months he will be BEST buddies with the new baby. My first 2 kids were 18 months apart too, and they are AWESOME friends. I am glad that we will have 2 sets of 2 that are close in age - a play buddy for everyone.
Don't worry - it will probably be hard at first but you will all be surprised at how much your bigger kids will love your new addition! It is hard to divide the attention at first, but soon you will get in a groove and everyone will find their place.
Watching Tori go from only child to big sister was one of the most difficult, emotional experiences of my life. It's so normal to feel that way. Everything is going to change. For the better? Definitely. But even good change hurts a little. You will all come out the other side better for it, though.
My struggle this time is guilt that this baby won't get the attention the other two have. Tori and Lucas are involved in so much, they take up 100% of my time and energy as it is. I can't quite figure out how another kid fits. I keep telling myself it won't make sense, but somehow we will just do it when the time comes.
I was talking with a friend last night (she is expecting her 5th) and she said "No matter how many kids you have, they will take up 100% of your time. You can have 4 kids and they will take up 100% of your time, or you can have just 1 kid, and they will still take up 100% of your time."
he will be 5 when she is born he turns 5 May 1st.. i didnt want the big age gap but since it took 2 years to conceive its just kind of happened that way.
Lucas will be almost six when Oliver is born. I'm a little worried about he will handle not being the baby anymore after six years. I'm sure they both will be great big brothers, though!
I definitely felt that way when I was pregnant with DS. I was so worried about DD being the big sister and me not being able to baby her anymore. And i cried many times before DS was born. But once I had him and the second we brought him home she was so in love with him. I then knew we gave her the best gift and they are so close! I'm a little nervous about this one because she will be almost 4 and DS will be 2.5 yrs. so the age difference is larger and DD and DS are already best friends. So I'm worried that this one wont have the same bond with them. But I know DD is already in love with this baby and rubs and kisses my belly and talks to the baby everyday. I just want them all to be best friends.
any time you bring a child into the world it brings change to your life and change is scary! But once everyone involved gets into the groove of things, it then all make sense. And then you will never imagine your life to be any other way!
Im so glad others are feeling this way. Im a big emotional mess this past week and I feel like nothing is getting done the whole day I have been a mess. DS is at his grandparents for the weekend so we could redo his room and the whole time Im doing it I can only think about how behind I am on getting work stuff done. DH and have been steady arguing today and I am so stressed tired upset etc I could just sit here (am sitting here) crying. I dont ever sleep as it is and I am to uncomfortable (probably over did it) today to be able to even want to keep working but at the same time... I have GOT to get stuff done around the house. I hate I havent been able to make the time for DS that I need to. and I feel guilty because I know he's not going to be the only one and I already feel as if Im not giving him the time he needs so how is it going to happen when there's 2?? I need to go back to school and get 2 classes done so I dont lose my certificate and thats more time away from the kids. I need to find some kind of balance so that I can have my time with DS now. I feel guilty because the things he wants me to do with him all involve being on the floor etc and I cant do that now. Im terrified because I dont know how Ill do it with 2... or how I will give them both the attn they deserve. sorry for the vent. (hormones everywhere)