How many children do you want in total?

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flockoflambs's picture
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How many children do you want in total?

What number baby are you pregnant with and how many more do you want?

This is my 4th and I'd like 6 or 8 in total. We have suffered a few losses though (3 between #1 and #2 and 2 between #2 and #3) and I'm now 30 so I don't know if we'll have as many as we'd like.

sandraleigh's picture
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This is baby #4 and it will be our last. We've always said we'd have 4, and I think that is all my sanity will handle!

But I am only 27 (and super fertile LOL) so who knows. I do plan on being serious about BC after this baby, because we're sure that we're done. Who knows, if I get baby fever again 5 years from now we might add another but I doubt it. When this baby is born we will have 4 kids under the age of 6....which will be PLENTY of work for me for many years! Smile

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We're planning on this baby being our last. We really struggles whether to stay at two or have one more so I don't see a #4 happening.

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This is baby 2 for us, but DH has a biological daughter already and he is 'dad' to her older half sister (yup confusing). The older one is 18 and at university now so not really a factor. My DSD is 15 but has a genetic condition making her forever 1.5 years mentally...she'll never grow up.

Years ago I thought I wanted 3 kids. Now that I have DD and the prospect of DSD being a child forever, I'm thinking this will be our last.

I'm 37 and had my first at I think you have time for more!

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After two losses, this is #1 for DH and I. I never wanted kids before I met DH, but he did and when I met him, I knew I wanted to have kids with him as well. He wants 2 total, but I'm on the fence. One, this pregnancy morning sickness crap SUCKS and it makes me feel miserable and I'm 27 weeks pregnant!! I know every pregnancy is different, but just thinking about how many people have bent over backwards (my boss included) makes me think we're going to wait a couple years before trying again. However, I do want to have a little boy too, so...we may have to try more than once for him. So I dunno what's going to happen.

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This is our first and for a long time, I only wanted one. I am 31 and DH is 36. He has always want two and is slowly convincing me. Smile Trouble is, he wants them really close together. Eek!

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This is #4 and will be my last for sure. 100%.

quonsetmom's picture
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This is my second and i want 7... DH wants 4. I will be happy with whatever is meant for us as this has been a complicated pregnancy thus far. But i dont want to think of it as my last time being pregnant either. i love being pregnant...

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This is number 2 for us. Right now we're not sure. We're thinking we're done after this, mostly since the pregnancies seem to really take it out of us. I'm feeling better, but the last 10 weeks have been pretty miserable, and really hellish for DH. And with DD I was sick the entire time. We won't do anything permanent, but we're still thinking this is it for us. It sucks since I think we're good parents - and we have an awesome DD. But I also like being able to be with her!

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This is number three and likely the last. We won't be doing anything permanent for now though. I will probably go back on mirena.

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This is our third and our last. I had a very very difficult time convincing DH for this one. Also after this one, we won't have any more room for more unless we move. So this is it and I'm trying to enjoy every minute of my final pregnancy!

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This is #3. We planned on two. Oops!

I am 31 and Jon just turned 30 in August. We got married straight out of college and have been married almost ten years now. We always agreed that it was foolish to do anything permanent about birth control until we were both 30. I just felt 30 was a good age to know for sure if you are done. Jon had his birthday three weeks before our big vacation so we decided to make a decision when we got home. So a few weeks after the trip, we decided he'd go get snippe first of the year when our Health Savings was refilled. My pregnancies were very rough on me and we just decided it was best for Tori and Lucas that we not ever go through that again. We are very busy and beingbsick all the time waa just not the best thing for the kids we already have. Only by the time we had that conversation, I was already pregnant! I guess it was meant to be and we are just doing our best to get through this. Its a real team effort! It's not that we didn't want more children, we just didn't want more pregnancies. We'd thought about adoption some... So it's not devastation over the baby or anything. Just being pregnant.

As soon as I'm healed up enough from this pregnancy to care for Jon, he's getting the big V. I can't do this again!!!!

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I hear ya on not wanting to do pregnancy again!! It sounds like you have had it worse than me so I can only imagine.

I always knew I wanted 3 and DH and I always said 2 maybe 3 when we talked about it earlier in our relationship. Once we had 2, DH said he was fine being done but I still couldn't get over wanting 1 more. I totally would adopt if the opportunity arose too...I did not desire another pregnancy but it's the "simplest" route to another child. I am useless the first half of pregnancy, just so sick and tired all the time. I can't hardly function, I have to work and that is about all I can manage. By the end of the day I just come home and crawl in bed and it takes away so much from my family. I hate that part of it but it will be worth it in the's just getting there. :/

Anyway, we are definitely done with this one. DH will be getting surgery very soon after this baby's arrival. Plus, I just turned 36 in December and had wanted to be done having babies by 35 but long story short life got in the way and it pushed a little past that original goal. I am getting too old for this Wink

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"Clarkton" wrote:

Plus, I just turned 36 in December and had wanted to be done having babies by 35 but long story short life got in the way and it pushed a little past that original goal. I am getting too old for this Wink

Life often doesn't work how we planned. When I was in my 20s I decided that if I didn't have kids by the time I was 30, I'd get pregnant. Single. Pregnant. Smart, right? I turned 30 and revised that. Blum 3 Hubby and I got married when I was 31 and I got pregnant with DD when I was 33. Life doesn't always turn out the way you think it will. Sometimes it's for the better. Smile

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I always felt after my other ones that I wasn't quite done. This time I do feel done. DH feels done. Our finances say we are done. A family of 8 is "nice" number. I have issues with most forms of birth control though, so I really don't know what we will do after this one... I'm 32, so I definitely still have some fertile years left in me.

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I wanted to adopt siblings who were school age kids... In another 3years. I don't do babies very well. The dad said just this one... I definitely don't see me ever being pregnant again. But I have an aversion to having 3 kids. So... I'm still game for adopting a singleton when this one is school age.