Hubby is worried about having a girl

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elleon17's picture
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Hubby is worried about having a girl

He told me the other day that he is uncomfortable with the thought of wiping a little girl.

He can be wierd about stuff and thinks that it will make him not want to DTD anymore because of having a little girl and seeing her private parts.

I told him that as much as I respect his issues, he has to get over it, because I will not be the only one ever changing a diaper because we are having a girl.

Anyone else have experience with an overly sensitive hubby/SO?

quonsetmom's picture
Joined: 10/10/12
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I know My mil is weird abt it. She covers dd when she changes her in front of my fil and bil. She is also worried that my dh will not be gental enough when wiping her. He rarely changes her but there were no problems when he took care of her while I was in the hospital having surgery.

akpufa's picture
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He'll be "over it" by the time you are up for DTD again Wink

My DH always worried about wiping our DD too because he didn't want to hurt her and I think just felt a bit awkward. It's normal. He really doesn't change diapers all that often though unless I've left the kids with him and he HAS to so it wasn't an issue. Plus he's still do it if it needed to be done. The only thing I had to advise him on was wiping from front to back.

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Plenty of men have changed daughter's diapers and gone on to have sex another day....LOL. He'll get over it. It's good that he's been open with you about his fears though - I'm sure it will all work itself out in the end.

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My DH was too when we had a girl. He doesn't change diapers anyway so that wasn't much of a problem. He never has been comfortable seeing her private parts, but he has definitely mellowed out about it. It never has affected his need to DTD! I think once she is her, it really won't be a problem. I think it is fairly normal for men to feel that way.

angelover02740's picture
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DH is the same way, he says he'll feel uncomfortable about cleaning her. I told him he shouldnt feel that way i dont feel that way about cleaning DS you just do it. Im sure when it comes down to it he'll get over it and realize its not that bad

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I felt that way a little about having a boy last time around. I mean, not like I can't look at those parts but just being afraid if hurting him if not cleaning him properly after an extra messy poop or whatever. It's weird at first.

My inlaws are overly modest like that too with covering up and not doing diapers changes in front of people. So silly. They've also tried to tell me I need to go in the bedroom to nurse in my own home when they visit. I made it very clear that in my own home, if they don't want to see it, they can go in the bedroom. I don't nurse in public without a cover f some sort but I am not going to be banished in my own home. Sorry. Off topic but the in law comment brought back all kinds of memories!!!

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"PCCGirl813" wrote:

I felt that way a little about having a boy last time around. I mean, not like I can't look at those parts but just being afraid if hurting him if not cleaning him properly after an extra messy poop or whatever. It's weird at first.

My inlaws are overly modest like that too with covering up and not doing diapers changes in front of people. So silly. They've also tried to tell me I need to go in the bedroom to nurse in my own home when they visit. I made it very clear that in my own home, if they don't want to see it, they can go in the bedroom. I don't nurse in public without a cover f some sort but I am not going to be banished in my own home. Sorry. Off topic but the in law comment brought back all kinds of memories!!!

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WTF!?! :shock: My response would have been more like.. don't like it? GTFO! It's MY house!

Wow..

elleon17's picture
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Its nice to hear that he is not strange with this. I'm sure he will get over it. He's not a the biggest fan of diapers in general, really who is, but I'm sure it will be different once she is here.

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Luckily I don't have this experience as my hubby had been changing DSD's diaper for 12 years before DD was born (DSD is special needs)...but I do have some weirdness about having a boy...all the penis stuff with boys is weird...like how much they play with themselves and erections. Part of me wants a girl just so I don't have to deal with that. I know it will become normal...it just seems weird right now.

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The thought never bothered me with a boy. I found it hilarious when he found his penis. He would pull on that thing like he was trying to make it come off. lol!

I'm big on using names for genitals, penis, vagina.....DH is way more modest than me and prefers nicknames...wee wee, etc. Its one of the only parenting things we disagree on. I don't like to make a big deal and he is a bit awkward about it. Then again, I'll walk naked in front of a window (which seriously no one can see in on) and he freaks on me, lol! I guess that part of me is kind of a hippie. Wink

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"Heatherbella" wrote:

Luckily I don't have this experience as my hubby had been changing DSD's diaper for 12 years before DD was born (DSD is special needs)...but I do have some weirdness about having a boy...all the penis stuff with boys is weird...like how much they play with themselves and erections. Part of me wants a girl just so I don't have to deal with that. I know it will become normal...it just seems weird right now.

It cracks me up how my DS has to have his hands on his penis any time he has access. :rolleyes: I had two close friends with boys the year before I had mine and they "prepped" me for all that comes with little boys. The hardest thing for me was getting comfortable stretching on things a bit to get him completely clean when he pooped - it's hard to know what is okay because I don't have that "equipment" so I don't know if it hurts or not. DH laughed at me Blum 3

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Oh, I so hear you...boys and men are SO rough with their junk. I'm not looking forward to cleaning poop out of that area either. Part of why I'd be happy with a girl. I also feel uncomfortable when little boys are constantly grabbing/touching themselves in public. It seems like it's not the place...not sure how I'll deal with all that. Anyways....if I have a boy, I'll deal with it then!

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