I'm out too - M/C mentioned

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I'm out too - M/C mentioned

Hi Everyone,

I know I haven't been very active, and I'm not sure if it's cause I had a premonition or just wasn't feeling up to it. I've been thinking about you all recently, but never got around to updating. We were away for Thanksgiving for almost two weeks and I just started a new part-time job last week.

So, I lost the baby. I started bleeding last weekend and didn't have a good feeling about it. I tried not to freak out, it wasn't a ton, but enough to be concerned about. I waited till Monday to call the doctor's office and they had me come in that afternoon. By then, I wasn't bleeding very much, so I was feeling ok about it. Well, the doctor did an ultrasound and I could tell almost immediately there was something wrong. There was no heartbeat. I should have been 10w6d and he said the baby was only measuring 7 weeks.

Monday night was pretty rough, DH and I mourned our loss together. The hardest part for me was trying to decide how to handle it, pills at home or D&C. Luckily, I didn't have to make that decision. Things happened naturally yesterday. I'm feeling fine today. It's still a little emotional, but overall I feel okay with it. As I was researching on the internet, I read a statistic that said 1 in 4 pregnancies end in a miscarriage. This was my 4th pregnancy, so I make a pretty good statistic. I feel so fortunate to have had three pregnancies with no complications. I think DH and I are in a good place. When he got home, I was in tears and said, "So now what?" and he said, "Well, we try again." So there's your answer. We will probably be trying again fairly soon. I'm glad that the only people we told was our immediate family because I am NOT looking forward to having to tell them this.

I wish the rest of you the best of luck!! I will probably be checking back in occasionally to see how you're all doing. Take care. Rachel

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I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I'm glad at least that things happened naturally and you didn't have to add any more stress on yourself. Take care of yourself.

My first pregnancy ended in m/c at 8 weeks, and we were able to get pregnant with DD within 2 cycles. I wish you all the best of luck in the future!

Big hugs.

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:bighug: I'm so sorry to hear about your loss! I lost my second in a very similar circumstance...

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Oh Rachel. I'm so sorry to read this. Sad I'm glad you were able to m/c naturally though, with no additional trauma or meds. I'm glad to hear DH is on board with trying again soon. *hugs* and stay well.

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i am so sorry for your loss. I have been pregnant 5 times now and have 1 daughter. For me the worst one was when i had to take meds to resolve, and should have been 20 weeks and the baby only measured 8. having a natural m/c was so much less trauma on my body. I wish you luck in the future with getting pregnant and will look for you on the boards.

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I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. Sad

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I'm so so very sorry for your loss. Sad What a great DH for such support and being ready to try again.. :bigarmhug:

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I am so sorry. Good luck to you in the future.

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I am sorry for your loss.

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Oh no Rachel, I'm so very sorry! :(. I have been wondering about you...thank you for updating. I know how hard this is but I am glad it resolved naturally for you, especially since you seem more relieved with that path. With my first loss I ended up having a D&C at 12.5 wks after waiting and no signs of my body realizing it was over. I remember the day I found out and facing the decision of how to deal with the physical part...I actually wanted it to end naturally b/c to me, at the time, I felt it would give more closure to the pregnancy, if that makes any sense. My second loss was a natural m/c and I did find it easier physically. I also believe its best if you are ready to try again soon b/c you don't have to wait on your body to "reset".

I'm just so sorry you had to go through this. I pray emotional healing for you and your DH. Best wishes for you when you try again. :bigarmhug:

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Sad im so sorry for your loss, its so difficult but Im happy to hear that your guys are planning on trying again.

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I'm so sorry to read this. *hugs* Best of luck to you in the future. Please pop in when you can.

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Thank you all for your warm responses. It feels good to be able to share it with 'someone.' It's also reassuring to hear that others have been through the same thing. As I was going through this process, I was realizing what a new found respect I have for anyone who's gone through this. It is much more complex than I had imagined and I feel like there is a faux pas when it come to talking about it. So, thank you all for 'listening.'

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I'm so very sorry!!!

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Hugs -- I'm so sorry! When you are up to it, join us on the TTC after a loss board. The ladies are very supportive.

I can totally relate to the question of meds or D&C. I elected the D&C simply because my body wasn't preparing at all -- I wasn't bleeding, I was still having morning sickness, etc. If I elected the meds, I was told I probably would have needed two doses and if I waited on my body alone, there was no telling how long it might take. It was hard even after we decided to go with the D&C -- We also plan to wait until I recover (I was told to wait at least 2 cycles) and then I think we will try again; maybe we will end up on the same board Smile