Thread: Name Conundrum

Ok, DH and I have a first name that we both really like but I have a first cousin by the same name. Here's the kicker, though. I have never met her nor do I ever communicate with her. My grandmother does, though. It's not as though we had a falling out or anything; she just grew up over-seas and we don't know each other. Is it weird to give our daughter the same name? Thoughts?

I would still use it. Personally. If you have no hard feelings for her at all and just love the name, why not? I take it the last name would be different?

I agree, it wouldn't be a big deal IMO to use the name.

My girl name has already been used by a second cousin but as a boy name. I asked my mom and she said no way would anyone be offended at all. Maybe ask a few family members? I don't think it's a big deal. Thanks to marriage, adoption of older kids and step kids we have four Kens, two Steves, two Mikes, etc. And my sister named her baby Caleb even though it's her husbsnd's first cousin's name--and they seem him every day!

I think it's fine as well.

In my aunt's family (big Italian family) every other boy is either a Peter or Vito and they all see each other all the time.

I say use it! Especially since you never see her.

Use it! My DH has a first cousin with his name. And a lot his grandmother's great grandchildren (6 to be exact) all have the same first and middle name since they were all named after his grandfather. I think one person naming after someone is enough, but apparently they don't lol! So YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You can 100% absolutely use it no questions asked! NO CONUNDRUM!

I would use it and not worry about it at all! I am not the kind of person who cares much about what other people think, though.

i say its fine especially if you love it

I think if it's someone most of the family doesn't speak with then the name is free game. I have a first cousin whose name I wanted to "steal" for my DS but we decided against it as he spends a lot of time with my family. But if it he had lived far away and not by most of my family and they didn't all know him so well, I would've totally used it!