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akpufa's picture
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Nicknames

So DH and I have a few names we both like, although for each one of us likes it much more than the other of us. I finally found a name we both really like BUT neither of us like the "shortened" version (think Samuel/Sam, Zachary/Zack, etc). We can only control what WE call him but who knows what will happen with family and once he gets in school.

Do you think this is reason enough to not use a name you otherwise love? I'm really torn.

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I'm not a fan of shortened names in general. Its hard to control what others will do, but I specifically choose names that didn't have an inherent nickname associated with them for that reason.

I liked William, but not a fan of Will or Willie (I do like Liam though). My middle name is Christina and I like that name, but I'm not in love with Christy, tina, etc.

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For me, it's enough reason not to use a name. That's why all my kids have names that can't really be shortened. I wanted to name them what they would be called.

Babymaybe2's picture
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I would probably use it anyway but that is just me. We named our daughter a long name that has lots of nicknames associated with it but everyone asks us what we "use" before they try using their own nickname. And whatever she wants to be called when she is older is fine with us.

elleon17's picture
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Speaking of what family calls your children, my MIL calls my son Reedster....I can't stand it! But I pick my battles, lol!

quonsetmom's picture
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I purposely picked names that I like the shortened versions, is that bad. Elora - el, and Emalyn, Em or ema.

LaurenE's picture
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My son is friends with a little boy named Joshua. He came over to play one day and my son was calling him Josh. When dad picked up I said, "Cody and Josh had fun today." He jumped all over me. "His name is Joshua, not Josh. A josh is a joke and my son is not a joke." I remember thinking, "why name your son something when you find the nickname offensive?" I think if you just don't like it, but go into with the attitude that it's ok if other people use it, it's not a big deal, but personally I wouldn't name my kiddo something and then get upset at people for using a common nickname for it. Does that make sense?

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"LaurenE" wrote:

My son is friends with a little boy named Joshua. He came over to play one day and my son was calling him Josh. When dad picked up I said, "Cody and Josh had fun today." He jumped all over me. "His name is Joshua, not Josh. A josh is a joke and my son is not a joke." I remember thinking, "why name your son something when you find the nickname offensive?" I think if you just don't like it, but go into with the attitude that it's ok if other people use it, it's not a big deal, but personally I wouldn't name my kiddo something and then get upset at people for using a common nickname for it. Does that make sense?

I definitely agree with this! I had a co-worker who would constantly correct people if they called her son by the shortened version of his name. It was majorly annoying! I am really okay if anyone else were to call him that, I just wouldn't, but I don't know if DH feels the same way. For now, I think we'll just keep it on the table as a possibility since we aren't deciding on anything until he's born anyway. I appreciate everyone's thoughts :giveflower:

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My brother is Daniel and we have always called him by the full name. In h/s and university people started calling him Dan (including his wife and inlaws) and my mom found it weird, but uncontrollable, and he was older and chose that himself. If you always use the full name and introduce him as such, in general people will follow suit. Later in life things might change, but he could always end up with a weird completely unrelated nickname as well! P.S my husband is Josh and I only call him Joshua when I'm being mad or cheeky since I like the name Josh, but not Joshua.

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There were a couple names we liked (boy names actually) that eventually were off the list because we didn't like the shortened versions either. Both DH and I have names that are easily shortened, and I don't mind it...but for the kids, I wanted them to be called by their full names for some reason. So the name we picked for this baby isn't easily shortened. I suppose you could have a few shorter variations with this one and my DD's name but they aren't as easy as shortening Hilary to Hil haha!