No Circumcision?

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No Circumcision?

Are we the only ones who didn't circumcise?

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We did with DS1, so we were probably going to do it with Asher, but when he was born he has hypospadias. So he looks somewhat circumcised on his own, but it will have to be fixed later.

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That is a funny question to me. I didn't want to with DS1, and DH did. So we did. Now with J, DH didn't want to all of the sudden. But we did, because I thought it might be weird for my boys if one was and the other wasn't. If it had been up to me, we wouldn't have in the first place.

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We did but I felt horrible afterwards. DS1 handled it just fine but Ethan was very tender and sore for a couple days. He was a little swollen too. Not sure if it has anything to do with him being more tender but Ethan is very well endowed where DS1 is average so I don't know if maybe that's why he was more tender. Either way I felt bad and if we were to ever have any other boys (we won't I got a tubal) I would never have them circ'ed.

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I'm kind of like Leah. I was a more on the fence about it with DS1 and DH wanted to so we did. I really didn't want to with DS2 but felt since we made the decision to circa DS1 I wanted to keep it consistent. I don't personally see it a big deal for the boys not to be "like" DH but with them so close in age I didn't want them to be different from each other.

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I wouldn't have, but religion won out. And it sucked since he had to have two mini procedures since he had a tight foreskin so it couldn't all be done the first time around (in front of lots of people in a ceremony, would have been awkward) so the guy had to come back the next day to finish. But Matan was a champ.

For a long time circumcision was the norm, and now it's shifting back to keeping boys the way they are since it's being proven that there's no real benefit. But many men like to have their sons the same as them, and then of course there are religions that "require" it. Definitely a trend towards not circumcising happening though which is great!

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I didn't really want to with DS, but I let the decision up to DH. We did because he is and he didn't want any "why am I different from daddy" questions. IT really was his choice.

I felt so horrible though when they brought him back from it.

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No circumcision here... only had to make the decision once. Wink It was easy for us. DH is European!

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When the doctor took J to the nursery to do his circumcision, my MIL was taking my kids out to go home. She said they saw them cover him and start cleaning his bottom. She said they high tailed it out of there! The kids have asked me a few time what they were doing to baby brother.

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I wanted to with ds1 but dh didnt want to so we didnt

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We did. I left it up to my DH both times. If it were up to me, I wouldn't have.

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Haven't had to yet but dh wants to so it's up to him to "teach" our future boys so his choice. If u have questions, ask my sister kier, she has 3 with none like their daddy and a story of what NOT to let your doctor do.

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If DD had been a boy the fight would have been on. I'm fairly anti-circ and at the time DH hadn't done any research on it and thought it was fine to do. I don't mind letting hubby decide as long as his decision is an educated one. The whole 'it worked fine for me' thing doesn't fly for me. Also, you can't get your foreskin back once it's gone. If M wants it gone later in life, that's his call.

Luckily for me DD was a girl so we didn't need to go there. Since her birth he has actually educated himself on the topic and believe it to be unnecessary. Phew!

I often hear the argument about father and son looking alike but I don't buy it. When boys are potty training they will look different that DH, circumcised or not. I bet they'd notice pubic hair before any sort of foreskin differences. Then by the time their penis looks like Hubby's (I.e. puberty) will they really be comparing them?

I do, however, agree that siblings would be best if they matched, although children old enough to notice the difference are also probably old enough to understand why they are different.

Anyways, wow! I'm very surprised that Laurie and I are the only two. It really is a regional thing. I hope more cultures start to leave their boys intact.

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I meant they are not circumcised.

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Heather, I completely agree with you. I am thankful that I didn't have to have a discussion with DH about it, because obviously he saw absolutely no point in doing it. Wink