We were team green with DS2. I just loved the anticipation of it...I agree it is a surprise no matter when you find out but I just loved not knowing and guessing right up to the end. I thought it was so exciting and really neat to have that to focus on during labor knowing we were so close to finding out. I totally thought he was a girl too so it was neat when DH said it's a boy?!? I just said "really?" haha but I would do it again however leaving it entirely up to DH this time and he wants to find out. I do think it'll be good for DS1 to know earlier too to bond with his sibling as brother or sister instead of not knowing. It's obviously not for everyone but if you're at all on the fence I'd say just try it, don't miss out on the experience.
With my last one I was team green. I was in the exact same situation as you. I already had one of each and it didn't matter. I really feel like it was so much fun not knowing. Finding out she was a girl when she was born was so exciting. I was kinda on the fence this time, like Lynn, I was gonna let DH decide but when I mentioned it to him I was pleasantly surprised that he was all for team green again. I think it will be fun to wait again. For me, the only reason to find out would be so that I could get rid of some clothes early, but I feel like that's not a valid reason to find out, what's another couple of months. I say go for it!!
Rachel & DH
loss at 11weeks 12/4/12
#4 Due 11/1/13
Thanks everyone for the opinions. I'm still strongly leaning towards waiting, mostly just to have the experience since I've done it the other way twice. I don't feel any different knowing the gender (I don't have that big bonding moment or anything) so I don't see that being a problem. The only thing that will deter me is if DH decides he HAS to know. I'll give him the option of finding out and not telling me, but it really is up to him whether he thinks he can keep it a secret (should he decide to find out). We'll see. I have about 8 weeks to make a decision