Plans for other kids during labour

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sandraleigh's picture
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Plans for other kids during labour

I just realized that I am so convinced that I will be going overdue (as usual) that I have no plans made for my other kids if I happen to go into labour before or even in the 10 days after my due date. *facepalm*

My other boys were 10 and 11 days late. I have sort of just assumed that this boy will be just as late. Since my EDD is June 1st, I've kind of been thinking that he'll arrive on June 10th (the date I'll be induced). My mom plans to arrive around June 8-9th and will stay until the 12th (she doesn't have much time off available, so we planned her visit for the latest possible time for baby to arrive - no point in her coming around my due date if baby is not ready to come out!) My MIL is coming to help out towards the end of June for a week.

But if I happen to go into labour in late May, or even in the first week of June, I have NOBODY set up to watch my kids! Uhhh.....poor planning. We don't have family in town - I do have 2 cousins who live here but they are nearly an hour away, and the cousin I am closer to has 3 kids of her own, one of them only 5 months old. I can't be calling her at 3 in the morning. And I can't be driving 2 hours to drop my kids off there.

What are your plans for your older kids when you are at the hospital? What if you don't have family nearby?

I guess I better start thinking about this.....

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DH thinks DS will come to the birth center with us, I think DH is nuts. While our kid is usually well behaved, how long will I be in labor for? will it freak him out? they do have a play area out in the waiting room (but this is an everyone waiting room for appointments and other laborers) and I can bring school work for him, games and videos for him to watch on the phones, but even after a few hours of that he will start to get antsy I imagine. Ideally, I would like for DHs mom to watch him at our house and he can come up afterwards since we live maybe 8 minutes away.

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I got very lucky this time. My sil lives across the street from the hospital. She's a teacher and will be out of school long before even my 37-week mark (Tori came at 37w).

Lucas was a lot more complicated and of course he came on the one night I had nobody lined up. It was crazy.

My big fear is heavy labor kicking in mid day. If Jon is out at a customer far away , he can't just leave. He can be as much as 80 miles away.

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Sandra, you can always call me, I know where you live Wink

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We are lucky because my parents live on the street the hospital is on and aren't more than 1/2 mile away. DS will stay with them.

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I think my mom will come over...but we haven't talked specifically about it. She is taking time off in June to help...so I assumed. My issue with her is she turns her ringer off a LOT so ??? My MIL could probably come or DH's sister if need be. DD knows my mom best though.

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My in laws will have dd till We get home.

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My plans are someone will watch them! Either my mom (if she is here when the baby is born), my MIL, or whatever family member is available. One of my fears is my water breaking in a public place, I will freak out. DH suggested them being present for the birth, but I think he is nuts!

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My mom is moving close so she will come over ... When Malia (2) was born my sister didn't make it in time ... She is 45 min away. My older two were sitting in the waiting room unsupervised in their pj's and no shoes, lol. Thankfully at 7 & 9 they were fine and my sister got there not long after we got to the hospital.

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I'm really fortunate that both my mom and my in-laws are about 15 minutes away from us so we should be covered. I haven't really discussed it with them because a)I figure they assume I'll need help with the kids and b)like you, I think I'll go over and schedule an induction therefore will have plenty of time to figure out the logistics. If I suddenly went into labor and couldn't wait, I have a close friend who lives 5 minutes away who could take my kids until one of our moms could come get them

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"PCCGirl813" wrote:

My big fear is heavy labor kicking in mid day. If Jon is out at a customer far away , he can't just leave. He can be as much as 80 miles away.

Same here. DH works on the road and his territory is at least 200 miles in diameter.

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"Momma Leah" wrote:

My plans are someone will watch them! Either my mom (if she is here when the baby is born), my MIL, or whatever family member is available. One of my fears is my water breaking in a public place, I will freak out. DH suggested them being present for the birth, but I think he is nuts!

Mine broke at my desk at work. Wink

I cleaned it up, wrapped a sweater around the back of me and held my purse in the front and high-tailed it out of there. I called my boss from the car.

I was so mortified!

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The only time my water broke out of the hospital was with DD. It broke at home, I had to call DH to come get me and take me in. When we got to the hospital, he dropped me off at the front doors and went to park quickly. In the 20 seconds it took for me to walk in the doors to the lobby, i soaked right through the giant pad and my pants. I proceeded to leak a GIANT puddle all over the floor of the hospital lobby while I waited for admitting to let me in and get me a wheel chair LOL. At least it was summer and I was wearing flip flops.

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"Heatherbella" wrote:

I think my mom will come over...but we haven't talked specifically about it. She is taking time off in June to help...so I assumed. My issue with her is she turns her ringer off a LOT so ??? My MIL could probably come or DH's sister if need be. DD knows my mom best though.

When my niece was born, my mom had gone to sleep and didn't hear the ringer, so my SIL called me to tell me she was in labor, and I drove over to my mom's and woke her up in her room to tell her she had to get get my nephew. The labor was so fast by the time she got there the baby was born 20 minutes later!

We were just discussing this actually. We'll play it by ear. Since we're doing a homebirth, if it's during the night, I'll try to let her sleep through it. But my mom lives one minute away. If for some reason I need my mom and DH with me again, then I also have other family in town which I'm sure would be happy to help according to their availability (depending on what day/time).

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I'm not sure yet. I haven't talked to anyone but I have a couple of neighbors I could call to come stay with the boys until we could get someone else here. My mom is about 45 minutes away but she works and may not be able to come right away. I think I could also call our sitter who stays with the boys when we work but would have to pay her so wouldn't want that to be longer than necessary. I think I have enough options that I won't have a 4.5 and 2 year old in the delivery room anyway ;).

Both times my water broke at home, well while staying with my IL's the first time...but not in public. It was like 2:45 in the morning with DS1 and at the IL's I wasn't prepared for that, had no pads or anything so I was stuck in the bathroom constantly leaking. I sent DH to ask MIL if she had anything or any ideas and she opened a bag if diapers I had just gotten from baby showers we had while visiting. That worked perfectly and I had no leaks on the way to or getting into the hospital Biggrin

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DS will be staying at my parents house. they live right across the street so i'll drop him off when i go into labor. my mom works at the hospital so she'll be on of my coaches

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I had to use a diaper too!

angelover02740's picture
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my water broke at the hospital when i got admitted, this time im praying for it to break at home or again at the hospital because i'll die if it breaks at work i'll be so embarrassed