My last 3 births have been pretty ideal for me! My "perfect" birth would replicate my fourth dd though. For some reason the pain just wasn't as intense with that birth. It had nothing to do with what I did or didn't do, she simply made a more graceful entrance into the world I guess, LOL! Also, her labor was 6 hours - perfect in my opinion.
One thing I do have to say though. My first 4 were in the hospital, and #5 was at a stand a lone birth center. In the hospital they "make" you stay at least 24 hours. In my mind 12-24 hours is the perfect stay - so the hospital is perhaps a little too long. The birth center, however, has you only stay about 4-6 hours, just a tad short. Ideally I would get 12 hours before I need to home. It would just be nice to have a few more hours alone with baby before my crew descends on the new little one. Oh well, I'll take the shorter stay for all the other many perks that the birth center has to offer over the hospital. I guess you can't have it all.
For me i would change quite a bit i guess. First NO SLEEPING PILL! I want my labor to progress more naturally. The pill led to many more interventions than necessary in my opinion. I don't want pitocin, internal monitoring, or baby heart decells. In addition I want my doctor or a doctor i trust to be there the whole time. I don't want my placenta to have to be ripped out, and maybe a shorter labor would be nice. (19 hrs with 2 hrs of pushing). I felt so accomplished when i was pushing to so I would def keep the mirror and that feeling.
My second was an "ideal" induction experience for the most part. Got to the hospital, my doc ran by to break my water, they set me up with my epi, THEN with pitocin, only took a few hours and I was ready to push.
The only complaints I have are that I've had epidural issues both times - the first it wouldn't take on one side until they removed it and redid the whole thing (this was after many hours of feeling pitocin driven contractions while they "waited" to see if it would fix itself...dumb anesthesiologist!), the second time I warned the anest. that I had had issues last time so he was so sweet and came back to check on me every 10 minutes after and sure enough, it initially worked all over, but then the right side died off. So he really amped it up to "unstick" the nerves on that side, which worked great but then half of my body was FROZEN to the point that I couldn't walk for several hours after the birth even and had ZERO feeling in one leg (DH bumped it off the bed and I didn't notice...it was that bad). So I'd LOVE for an epidural that could take without having to overdose it this time!
The other thing I'd like to change is that both of my kids tried to come out diagonally and both got stuck on my pelvis. With my DD, they had me push on my side for about 20 minutes to move her (which did end up working). With my DS, my doc was there from the moment I started pushing and he decided to just use the vacuum to pop him out of my pelvis, which turned out fine but pushing was so painful because of how he was laid out - it felt like my ribs were breaking to curl around my stomach to push! But I'd love for this one to come out STRAIGHT! I blame these partially on getting induced before my babies dropped (I was overdue with both though so they had plenty of time!).
Oh and if I could go into labor on my own, that would be amazing but I'm not counting on it. My body just seems to need that little "push" to get going. Who knows though, maybe it'll surprise me this time
Sorry that got really long!
Both of mine were pretty similar. I wouldn't mind a repeat like either one. With DS (he was smaller) I tore and had to have a couple of stitches. With DD (1lb 2oz bigger) no tearing! I would defiantly prefer no stitches, it makes the world of difference! The doctor did break my water with DD, I would almost prefer that again. You can control the timing of labor that way. I have always been scared of going into labor in the middle of the night. So far I haven't had to deal with that!
I can pretty much count on stitches every time. I have big babies and I am a small woman, especially small down there. When I saw my OB while pregnant with my first, she said, "Oh.....let's use the speculum for teenagers. You're just a tiny lady!" After I have each one, I tear pretty bad and they have to stitch me up tight so i don't even get nice and "stretched out" after birth
I was induced with #3 but went into labour naturally with the first two. I would prefer not to be induced this time, but really, my last labour wasn't all that bad, and it was the fastest. (DD 24 hours, DS1 13 hours, DS2 10 hours) My pushing time also got shorter with each one (even though the babies got bigger! DD 2 hours, DS1 50 minutes, DS2 25 minutes)
I'll be happy with my epidural as usual One thing I am adamant about is getting my cathether out ASAP after birth. I usually end up having to get a catheter shortly before I push because my bladder is too full by that point. But with #1 I had the catheter in for a full day after I gave birth and it was dreadful. With #3 they took it out right away....thank goodness.
No changes here. This one will be a scheduled c-section. Which I'm totally cool with. I just don't dilate. Had 36 hrs of labor with DD and was only "a generous 3cm" as quoted by my OB. So, I'm good with not having to go through that again. That was a rough recovery for me because I was overwhelmingly exhausted after!