QOTD 2/26

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QOTD 2/26

For those of you planning to have more kids after this, how long do you plan to wait before TTC again?

For those who are done, how do you plan on preventing?

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We are D.O.N.E. after this and in a year or so will likely have DH get the big V - we're very sure we're done but want to give ourselves a little time just to be SURE sure. In the meantime, I'll either go back on the mini-pill or get an IUD...haven't talked it over with my OB yet so not sure which route I'll go.

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I'm not 100% sure we are done. We'll see.

Either way, I will go back on the Nuva Ring as soon as I can because I would like to space them out again, probably 2-3 years between. That would make DS 7-8, DD 3-4 if we were blessed to have another. After 3 DONE, DONE, DONE! lol!

DH I think wants to be done at 2, I'm not sure yet, so we'll see Wink

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The chances that this is our last is probably about 95%. We always said we'd have 4. Then when we found out this one was a boy, it made me sad and SORT OF wish for the chance to have another girl, but I highly doubt we will ever decide to do that. Besides, we'd probably get a boy again LOL. Our kids are grouped in 2's - 18 months, nearly 3 years, and 18 months are the age gaps. So each kid has a buddy close in age.

As far as preventing after this time is over, I am thinking of some sort of IUD. Any recommendations? In the past the only thing I have done is the pill and I am terrible at remembering to take it. We have only used a condom like....once. LOL. I think I'd like an IUD this time so I don't have to worry for 5 years!

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DH and I always wanted at least 4 (I want 7), but after this hard pregnancy idk what will happen. As far as I know the likelihood of having these complications with the next pregnancy does not increase because I have them with this pregnancy, I want to talk to my doctors about that when I know how this ends... That being said I want a longer break this time. I don't want to try for 2 years if we do.

As for prevention it's a sore subject. I have very bad experience in the past with bc, and DH'S family doesn't believe in it. I guess until we figure that out I will chart and we will be careful.

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DH wants to be done, mostly cause the pregnancies are not so easy on either of us. I'm not 100% sure, but it will definitely be a while. I joke that we can always start again in 10 years.

As far as prevention - this is where I have no clue where to start. I've never been on anything, but I do know that we need to think of something if we are done. I won't do hormonal bc or anything like that, so I need to look at the safety of non-hormonal options. Just a matter of research I guess.

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DH would like to start trying again as soon as possible. I think I am about halfway with him on this point, it makes sense to me to have them with a year of each other if possible (most of my siblings are only a year apart), but we are homeschooling again next year, and I am thinking of taking online courses or maybe some in school classes (might as well get it over with, it's only been 8 years since I got out of highschool.... sigh). I think I am still in shock that DH has decided for more kids, he was so so so against even having our first, I accepted that it would be just the one for us. If we decide to wait a bit, I will likely get another IUD, I am bum with taking pills (which reminds me I need to take my prenatal still today...).

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I do not have the physical or emotional strength to do this again. It's just too hard on my body, which results in it being very difficult on the entire family. We are all struggling right now. I can't do this to them again.

Jons getting the big V is August. I don't believe in chemical birth control (I just struggle with how the long term screwing with your hormone levels can possibly be safe... my OB actually stopped prescribing it due to his own serious concerns!) and we used to just go by my ultra regular cycles (I could predict ovulation to the hour). But obviously iI'm it so regular anymore it we wouldn't be here! So permanent things are going to happen and fast! Jon has two weeks off in August and that's when we will do it. I'm kinda excited to not have to worry anymore!!!

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We are also very done after this one. DH is going to get a V just not exactly sure when. I'm also excited about not worrying with it anymore. I'm really happy DH is so willing to take care of it on his side b/c the only thing I'm really comfortable with for BC otherwise is charting and avoiding/condoms during fertile time. I don't like to do anything that messes with my hormones as it can cause too many problems...I'm sure hitting menopause will be bad enough; don't want to mess with things otherwise. It seems a little snip, snip for a guy is typically of little to no effect to them except for the tempory discomfort following the procedure.

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We are done after this one. If I happen to have a c-section I will get my tubes tied. If I have him naturally, I will probably have a mirena again. I do not well at all on the mini pill, and I am not crazy about form of hormonal bc. Mirena isn't perfect, but it definitely was worry free for me!

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Im done, but DH says he's not so I probably will put an IUD in like i did with DS and hopefully he will change his mind and be done. he works 6 days a week and only has tuesdays off and i work mon-fri and have the weekend off. I really dont want and feel like lugging 3 kids around by myself every weekend, if we had the same schedule than maybe i would consider another one but i think 2 is enough for me

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I think we're done. We haven't super discussed it or anything but I'm sure hubby would probably agree.

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This is our first. With my first husband, I never wanted kids. One - I just didn't want kids. And two, he had a form of muscular dystrophy that could be passed down and I was too freaked out about that to risk it. When I met Tim, he was on the fence about kids. We dated awhile and all the sudden - he wanted kids. Two of them! And for some reason - I all the sudden wanted kids too. I don't know if it's just because DH is SO much better a husband than my ex was or what - but we were both on board.

However.. I'm not one of those people who skip through pregnancy. I've had m/s the entire time. The past few weeks have been killer on my hoo-hah and my back. Pregnancy has been a hard pill for me to swallow. So, we both want two kids. But I'm going to need some time after this pregnancy to hopefully forget about how sucky it was LOL