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How often do you and your SO get out for a date night?

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Not very often. Lately we have been trying to save money for our trip, so we haven't really gone out much. On a regular month, maybe once? My mom always watches DD for free so it's great. If I had to pay someone I'd probably never get out. I'm so cheap.

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We probably only make it out just the two of us 1-2 times a month, then another 1-2 times a month with friends (but w/o the kids).

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We've had 3 "dates" since dd was born. She's 16 months and one day... We r bad.

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There is a group of families at our church that have organized a once a month deal where we can drop off the kids and go out. The parents take turns providing childcare for each other so once in the fall and once in the spring we have to stay with the kids but it's mostly free...just $3 per kid for pizza. If we didn't have that group we would probably go out like twice a year. Wink We do also have a family across the street who have a 13 yr old and she has stayed with the boys once before. I'm just so bad at planning ahead so I just don't do a good job of setting that time aside for us so the church group makes it easy b/c the dates are set and we just drop off the kids.
I do think it's really important to make some time away from kids but I'm lazy about implementing. :rolleyes:

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"akpufa" wrote:

We probably only make it out just the two of us 1-2 times a month, then another 1-2 times a month with friends (but w/o the kids).

Wow Ashley, y'all do a good job...sounds like you have an actual life. haha Smile

Disclaimer: I love my kids and family time is a great part of life too. Wink

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Once a year. Our birthdays and anniversary all fall in a two week span and the inlaws feel obligated to take them for a night. Otherwise, I've been told that since I refuse to put the kids in school and get a "real job" I don't deserve help in the form of their babysitting services. I try very hard to only leave my kids with family so the end result is that we don't get out much.

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Date night??? What's that?

We really should, but it is very, very rare. We had one for our anniversary on saturday. If we do others it is usually with people and not solo. We need to go back to having a night a week, even if it is just dinner after DS goes to bed and a movie. I really need to make it a priority?

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Maybe once a month, or once every two months. We have to pay for sitters, and we need sitters for other occasions (like DH was busy volunteering this weekend and I had choir concerts, so we had to get a sitter) so date night isn't the priority.

Honestly though DH and I prefer to just wait til the kids are in bed, then watch something and eat some snacks together.

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We go out by ourselves, like once a NEVER...lol, really like maybe once or twice a year. Even though I have a giant family of built in babysitters, I don't like asking other people to watch him, I feel like if something big were to happen then I am saving up my babysitting time for it.

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"PCCGirl813" wrote:

Once a year. Our birthdays and anniversary all fall in a two week span and the inlaws feel obligated to take them for a night. Otherwise, I've been told that since I refuse to put the kids in school and get a "real job" I don't deserve help in the form of their babysitting services. I try very hard to only leave my kids with family so the end result is that we don't get out much.

That is simply rude! (I actually have other choice words for those comments)

Do you have any friends that you could trade nights out with you? You take care of their kids and then they take care of yours?

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My in laws keep my kids one night a month. My MIL also keeps them every Friday for 4 hours so I can have time to get my hair done, go to the doctor, just have a quiet house, etc. My pastor and his wife also have volunteered to keep the kids. We have only done it twice, they won't take payment, and I don't want to take advantage of it. But it is nice to kinda have them as a backup. I try to avoid payin someone to keep the kids, but we have had to a few times. Sometimes we don't even go out. Sometimes we will take them and come back home just to have a quiet evening.

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It seems like majority of us use family and not babysitters. This is true with my friends around here too.

It's strange to me because from 12 - 17 or so, I babysat at least 1 night a weekend for a handful of neighbors and my parents had sitters for us too. (sometimes grandma & grandpa, but mostly sitters)

I wonder if babysitting is something of the past? Also, some of the amounts people charge for babysitting seems crazy in comparison to what I would get. I have friends that said that the babysitters charge per kid, per hour. Crazy to think getting $20 for the night back in my day (I'm 34) was big bucks! Wink

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I think we've been out twice by ourselves since DD was born. Once for our anniversary, and once for breakfast. But I do have a lot of help with DD since I'm pregnant, so I always feel bad asking for at night. Also, she only started sttn recently, so we could never really get out before unless it was during the day - and then I just felt bad since I needed to save all the time away from DD for when I was sick/tired.
Also, I'm kind of nuts since I've only ever left her alone with my mom and DH. But I was just thinking about this recently, and thinking that I would love to go out on a date with DH. So perhaps if I can get her to bed early enough one night (we are limited since DH has so much stuff at night and I get so tired)

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I think with the cost of babysitters these days, it is becoming more a thing of the past.

Anyway, our last date was close to two years ago, unless you count the night Aidan was born. Wink We were really only gone in the middle of the night though...

We usually manage about one date a year. Most of the time the youngest baby is with us though (we don't bottle feed at all). By the time you get past the first couple babies though, having a nursling along is hardly noticeable. Smile

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We mostly used family too, but since we moved away from family, it has really sucked. But sometimes we can't avoid it! In February we had a babysitter 5 times. This month it will probably be only 2-3 times.

I miss my family!

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We use mostly family too. My mother in law watches them for me so I can go to work about 4 times a month. So we usually don't go out on date nights because we feel guilty asking her to do more. I would say we do go out about once very other month though because we usually have some kind of wedding or concert or birthday party that we need to go to. Which is nice Smile

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I love using family, but when they get a little older I think a teenage or pre-teen babysitter is fun.

I used to LOVE babysitting and the kids I babysit for I am still in close contact with. They were very important people in my life..