My in laws keep my kids one night a month. My MIL also keeps them every Friday for 4 hours so I can have time to get my hair done, go to the doctor, just have a quiet house, etc. My pastor and his wife also have volunteered to keep the kids. We have only done it twice, they won't take payment, and I don't want to take advantage of it. But it is nice to kinda have them as a backup. I try to avoid payin someone to keep the kids, but we have had to a few times. Sometimes we don't even go out. Sometimes we will take them and come back home just to have a quiet evening.
It seems like majority of us use family and not babysitters. This is true with my friends around here too.
It's strange to me because from 12 - 17 or so, I babysat at least 1 night a weekend for a handful of neighbors and my parents had sitters for us too. (sometimes grandma & grandpa, but mostly sitters)
I wonder if babysitting is something of the past? Also, some of the amounts people charge for babysitting seems crazy in comparison to what I would get. I have friends that said that the babysitters charge per kid, per hour. Crazy to think getting $20 for the night back in my day (I'm 34) was big bucks!
I think we've been out twice by ourselves since DD was born. Once for our anniversary, and once for breakfast. But I do have a lot of help with DD since I'm pregnant, so I always feel bad asking for at night. Also, she only started sttn recently, so we could never really get out before unless it was during the day - and then I just felt bad since I needed to save all the time away from DD for when I was sick/tired.
Also, I'm kind of nuts since I've only ever left her alone with my mom and DH. But I was just thinking about this recently, and thinking that I would love to go out on a date with DH. So perhaps if I can get her to bed early enough one night (we are limited since DH has so much stuff at night and I get so tired)
I think with the cost of babysitters these days, it is becoming more a thing of the past.
Anyway, our last date was close to two years ago, unless you count the night Aidan was born. We were really only gone in the middle of the night though...
We usually manage about one date a year. Most of the time the youngest baby is with us though (we don't bottle feed at all). By the time you get past the first couple babies though, having a nursling along is hardly noticeable.
We mostly used family too, but since we moved away from family, it has really sucked. But sometimes we can't avoid it! In February we had a babysitter 5 times. This month it will probably be only 2-3 times.
I miss my family!
We use mostly family too. My mother in law watches them for me so I can go to work about 4 times a month. So we usually don't go out on date nights because we feel guilty asking her to do more. I would say we do go out about once very other month though because we usually have some kind of wedding or concert or birthday party that we need to go to. Which is nice
I love using family, but when they get a little older I think a teenage or pre-teen babysitter is fun.
I used to LOVE babysitting and the kids I babysit for I am still in close contact with. They were very important people in my life..<3 (One is actually getting married soon......OMG, I feel old now. I babysat her since she was 8 months old)