sad and hoping I made the right choice

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sad and hoping I made the right choice

I plan on announcing on facebook very soon. I have a friend (not a close friend but a friend) that has pcos and is struggling with fertility. I think I posted abotu her earlier... but they ended up getting a neg when they tested. I feel horrible bc she feels like everyone else is preg. so I messaged antoher friend who has pcos and just entered her second tri about how to approach it. If I should message her privately etc before it gets posted. (since she had been there) She said that she private messaged a friend of hers who she knew was struggling (despite how hard she had tried herself) so I am hoping I made the right choice! At the same time Im excited to finaly be going completley public (well with everyone but my students) sorry for the typos I have had a migraine all day

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Sorry about your migraine, but I think that was a good way to handle it. Smile

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she responded and made me cry. she said she couldnt hide me on facebook and that shes happy for us. she asked if I could promise one thing... "I want us to be close again like we used to. I could always trust you and depend on you to make me happy" I am tryign to get her to join us here on preg.org bc she's had bad experiences on other boards.

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As someone with PCOS and long standing infertility I know that I would appreciate a message to me directly. I think you did the right thing.

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I'm glad things went well. I think that was the right thing to do. I have a friend who very recently had a m/c at about 15 weeks. Sad I think I need to pm her first before my reveal. We have on talked about her loss so I think that's the right thing to do. It's so hard though!

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I have a friend who's been TTC for 7 months and I handled it the same way. A bit different situation, this friend has a 1yo and was still nursing a lot but hoping she wouldn't have to wean to get pregnant. She's since concluded that she has to wean and hopefully that'll do the trick for her. But she knows we weren't even trying and I was so scared of her reaction... It went well, though. I think most people appreciate that you come to them directly.