Scary kids movies...

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Heatherbella's picture
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Scary kids movies...

Ok, I need some advice. DD is a bit of a 'wimp' when it comes to anything scary in a movie or TV show. Ok, not really SCARY, just mean. For example, we watched a Dora show once where there was a witch. She didn't like the witch at all and wanted me to turn the show off. When she doesn't like what's going on she'll start saying "NO!" to the screen or ask me to pause the show or turn it off. I'm at a loss as to how to handle this. We tell her that the character is just pretend...but it doesn't really work. LOL. A lot of times I'll just skip the part that she doesn't like.

Any advice/thoughts? She got an Arial doll for her birthday and hasn't even seen The Little Mermaid yet. Problem is, I know the evil sea witch will freak her out. I thought about talking to her about it ahead of time and telling her we can watch the show but that there is a witch in it...and that she is just pretend. I'm not sure this will help. LOL. We also have open dialogue about how these characters are not kind and need to treat others nicely. Eeeek!

How do you handle this? I know a lot of kids aren't super freaked about this sort of thing, but mine seems to be!

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I think it's pretty normal, she is still pretty young! DS1 is almost 5 and he loves batman but the shows are not appropriate and kinda scary, so I try to find learning shows instead, like Dora or Diego. Shrek the movie scares him too but we saw a huge live charactor of him on the cruise ship and he was fine! Kids are weird!

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She is still quite young. My kids watched Little Mermaid for the first time last year and I totally forgot how dreadful the sea witch is at the end of that movie...and she's IMPALED by a ship mast. Totally scary.

I'd keep skipping the scary parts! She is just barely 3. Stick to other Disney classics that aren't quite as scary - Cinderella doesn't have "scary" villains, just sisters who make "bad choices" Smile That might be a good way to ease in to the "villain" role.

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OH, good to know about Cinderella. I always think all the Disney ones have crazy mean characters. Don't the sisters say some pretty mean stuff though?

The one show she really likes is Tinkerbell. She's not scared of anything it in really so that's good. I just put it on the iPod so she can watch it on the plane in March. I thought it would be nice to have a few options for her.

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DS used to be afraid of the "Big Red Chicken" on Dora. He suddenly just got over it. He watched Lion King hte other night and was screaming and squealing with it. he was TOTALLY into it. but He's also a boy. He watches stuff that some would see as "scary" but then says he's scared of his toys at night...
silly

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as far as things to download. Ben LOVES Sid the Science Kid. we watch it on the Ipad through pbs kids.

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"PatienceW" wrote:

DS used to be afraid of the "Big Red Chicken" on Dora.

LOL, I had to giggle at this. So cute!

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My DD is just starting to understand some things are PRETEND and she's 3.5. That being said, I do censor what she watches obviously, but I let her watch Little Mermaid and she was like "Whoa Mom, look at that mean lady! She got huge!" and that was it. She also likes Happy Feet but the first few times, the seal scared her. But DH watched that part over and over with her and now she thinks it's hilarious because they'd come up with funny things to do while watching it.

Look into Rio, nothing very scary in there other than the villain bird is a little creepy in parts. We also like Toy Story, Tangled, & Monsters Inc (which isn't scary despite it's title, unless you think she'll think monsters really come out of the closet even though by the end they are making the kids laugh...if you haven't seen it).

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That's so cute about what she said about the sea witch! LOL. I don't know Tangled but we currently don't have nightmares around here, so I'm not sure I'm ready to introduce her to them via Monster's Inc. Sad I'm also not sure about the neighbour boy in Toy Story. I do have those DVDs though.

I showed her that I put Tinkerbell and Olivia on her iPod and she was excited.

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The evil stepsisters in Cinderella do tear her dress off and yell at her, but at least they aren't monsters or anything!

My kids love Rio too, and Tangled!

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:lurk:
Robbie is 7 and still a wimp about movies, for him it is the scary music. He will not go to the theater because of trailers... It will just take time.

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"Heatherbella" wrote:

That's so cute about what she said about the sea witch! LOL. I don't know Tangled but we currently don't have nightmares around here, so I'm not sure I'm ready to introduce her to them via Monster's Inc. SadI'm also not sure about the neighbour boy in Toy Story. I do have those DVDs though.

I showed her that I put Tinkerbell and Olivia on her iPod and she was excited.

My kids both sort of overlooked him (my DD says he's a naughty boy haha) but that's a good point to maybe wait on that one if you're worried about it. TS2 is pretty mellow - there's the nemesis toy that shows up and when Woody fights with the Prospector, but both scenes aren't too intense. TS3 is good too but probably the most morbid where they almost "die" at the end although DD doesn't get that really other than that there's a fire. It's tough, you never know what weird things your kids are going to grasp onto as "scary" and what they'll just accept and move on.

BTW avoid the Strawberry Shortcake movies like the plague! My MIL bought them for my 4YO niece who is obsessed with them and when we're on vacation with them it's on all.the.time. and I hate it so much. Not because it's scary but because they're snotty girls IMO and I've seen some pretty nasty things my niece has picked up from them (for example: plugging ears saying "I'm not listening, lalalala!"). Just thought I'd throw that one out there! Wink

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Thanks for the tip on Strawberry Shortcake. UGH. So many bad habits to pick up! Years ago I took my friend's daughter to the movie. She must have been 4 or so. We saw Lilo & Stitch. Apparently after I brought her home she was REALLY mean to her little sister. She picked it up in the movie! I felt so bad! She's almost 14 now...wow, time flies.

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I would skip the scary parts til she's older. I do that with some movies still for my girls, 7 & 5. No harm in that.

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I'm a big scaredy cat and I think DS is taking after me.

We just fast forward if it is too scary or we make it funny. Monsters, Inc. helped with that. He tells me now that "monsters are silly mommy, not scary"

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My DS is a scardey cat when it comes to movies or tv shows. He is scared of basically any kids cartoon movie. There were even a couple of episodes of Max and Ruby! At this point it doesn't semi like he will outgrow it! Adult movies or shows with scary parts don't seem to bother him for whatever reason.

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Yeah, I really don't like Strawberry Shortcake or My Little Pony most of the time. The attitude on those girls and ponies is way too worldly and snotty for my 5 year old. She LOVES My Little Pony right now but I am really wanting to limit her access to it.

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That whole snotty way that girls talk really bothers me. I guess it's inevitable that DD will be around it in her life but I just don't like it. How do you handle it at home if/when they try to talk like that at home? We talk a lot about 'kind words' and so we often use that when she says something mean. She has picked up the teasing way of saying "You can't catch me!" which she obviously picked up at daycare. I know it's all in fun but the sound of her expression is teasing and I just don't like that! Some of my mom friends think I'm crazy to care and that kids all do that...but it feels like it will escalate into bigger teasing.

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I know, that girly, whiny, snotty attitude is something I guess we are all going to have to deal with when we have girls! (And some boys too!) We talk about kind words too, and because we are a religious family we also talk about "words that would make Jesus happy to hear". Obviously that is not for every family.
My DD is not too bad right now, and she doesn't often repeat lines from shows that she watches, which is a blessing.

I have such a big issue with that "you can't catch me" "Nana-nana-boo-boo" "I'm the king of the castle" sing-song tone. It irks me so much! Something we have trouble with here is name-calling. My kids call each other names and mostly they are both laughing about it, because they call silly names like "You're a donut!" :rolleyes: But I spend a lot of time explaining that even if both people think it is funny, it is a bad habit to start, because some people we play with will NOT find it funny and will get their feelings hurt.

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There are several cartoons I won't let my kids watch because of the bad attitudes of the characters. I noticed after they watched certain shows their attitudes would be terrible, so those got cut out. We limit tv time, but I also limit iPad time too, if they play too much their attitudes get terrible.

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We're pretty selective about tv/movies here. It's the snottiness that bothers me more than anything!!! Why does it seem that most of the little kid cartoons have snotty talk in them?!?! My friend had to ban my little pony from her home because her 4 year old was imitating the snotty talk from the ponies!! She said her dd really improved after she stopped letting her see it.

Anyway, about the scariness. Is it really so bad that things that are scary do in fact scare her? I think in our culture we have become so desensitized to scary things and violence in general that as adults things that should scare and shock us, don't anymore. Anyway, I wouldn't rush the "desensitization" process. As time goes by she will be able to handle more. Also, a child that is 3 can't separate what is true and what is make believe yet. To her, if she was to see "the sea monster" in The Little Mermaid, she would think it was absolutely real!

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I agree with others about just waiting on the scary stuff. She'll be able to handle more when she's older, but for now let her be little. My ds was scared of Tinkerbell in the Peter Pan cartoon when he was 3, lol. He had nightmares about her and everything. Now he's almost 9 and would be rather annoyed if he knew I said that! Wink

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She's pretty young. My daughter couldn't really handle Disney movies until she was closer to five. And we are HUGE Disney fans here so it killed me to wait that long. Toy Story 2 and the original Cars aren't scary... The first Tinkerbell is good I think. Lady and the Tramp.

For the record, Brave is really scary even though I think it's completely amazing. And the scary part is bears and bears are real so my kids were pretty jumpy with that one.

When they were little we watched alt Blues Clues. Pretty mild. Now they are obsessed with Phineas and Ferb, but so is my husband!