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Self conscious

Anyone else feeling really self conscious about their belly? I know I'm bigger this time than last, and people feel the need to point it out. I feel so self conscious about my belly and HATE the comments about it. I actually understand why women in the 1800's went into confinement when they started showing! DH said I look so big. My mom told me that another girl who is due a couple weeks before me is like half my size. My SIL said I'm so not used to you with a belly as I took off my coat - even though she's seen me 3 times this week. My dad said wow, you're really showing, there's certainly no hiding it now.

I'm so sensitive about it this time around. When I was 7 months with DD my brother made a joke about a beer belly, and then I promptly managed to break the chair I was sitting on and fell flat on my *** - and that didn't bother me nearly as much as how I feel now. I feel like my belly is probably pretty cute, but for 6-7 months. Not 5. And I'm feeling awful about it! I can't help how my belly grows - I eat healthy, and I'm not fat. Would people please shut up about my belly?!?

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Not really, I have a few people that think I am just huge. Most people think I am just now starting to grow. I still feel good, so it doesn't bother me. With DD I got huge, and I am hoping not to get that big this time though!

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I'm sorry to hear you're feeling self-conscious. Sad This is such a rough time emotionally for us and we sure don't need those sorts of feelings too! When I was pg with DD I had some older woman tell me I was FAT. How rude! Obviously it upset me and has stuck with me.

Right now I'm finding people are telling me that I've 'popped'. Like, what? I've been fairly big for a while now I thought! Perhaps they just didn't notice? I have a large maternity coat that I wear a lot and it sort of masks my belly...although if you look from the side, it seems pretty obvious!

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DP...grrrrr

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I like that i look pg earlier this time and not just "fat". I did get a comment last night that DH's friends girlfriends belly wasn't this big till she had her son. lol o well, 21 weeks vs 39. Im sorry you feel self consous. I think you look awesome and should be proud of your ability to create life! Biggrin :bigarmhug:

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I'm sorry everyone is voicing their opinion all of a sudden! People think they can say anything to a pregnant woman about her belly and not be offensive.

Personally, I am not offended by anyone's belly comments because I always get so big that I am SUPER used to it by now. I'm used to people saying "You'll have that baby any day now!!!" when I am 7 months pregnant. I just started nodding and smiling instead of making a fuss and saying "I have 2 months to go!" because that just brings ruder comments! (Holy smokes! You're enormous! Is it twins?)

I would hope that your family could be a little more respectful of your feelings though. Emotions run high in us preggos, and our families especially should be mindful.

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I'm sorry you are feeling self conscious. Tell everyone to just hush up.

I love my pregnant belly and I am much bigger than with DS at this stage in the game. I feel like pregnancy allows me to not have to 'suck it in' and just embrace my body.

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*hugs* Sorry everyone is feeling the need to comment. I actually carry pretty small most of my pregnancy and still get comments like that. With my first pregnancy it drove me nuts, but by now I just shrug it off and tell people to watch out or I'll sit on them (family members, not complete strangers LOL!). But I'm not one who loves to flaunt my belly either and it takes me a while to get comfortable with it when I get obviously pregnant (like I am now). With my first, I hadn't seen my dad in about 2 months and then saw him around 24 weeks and the first thing that comes out of his mouth is "WOW!" and then starts laughing and snapping pictures with his cell phone. Thanks Dad! :thumbsdown:

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im really not self conscious, there's a growing baby in there and i know im bigger this time around and im fine with that. the worst part for me is when your in that stage of looking fat now im def pregnant and most people now feel confident in asking r u pregnant