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Sharing the news?

How do you girls plan to share the news of your BFP (whether it is this month or not)?

With my first, we told our families with Christmas presents because we found out in early December. The last one, we just sort of told everyone. I'm trying to think of a slightly more creative way since this is the last one.

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I would love to do something with our Christmas cards, but I don't know if I the secret can be kept under wraps that long!

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I ordered a 'big sister' shirt for DD. I'll tell my mom pretty much as soon as it arrives (probably next weekend) as we need her help with DD when we have the CVS. Then we'll tell everyone else after our CVS results come in which will be 13-14 weeks. Ugh.

This is the shirt we ordered:

Etsy Transaction - big sister shirt owl simple sweet 3/4 RAGLAN

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i also have a shirt that says big brother, i was planning on waiting until the ok from the doctor and i just might with immediate family, im going to have him wear the shirt and see if they say anything i might have to get another shirt since i bought it awhile ago and it probably doesnt fit him anymore :/

the rest of the family will either know at thanksgiving or christmas if my MIL can keep her big mouth shut but im thinking christmas depending how big i am

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For DS we gave my dad and sister christmas cookies spelling out Grandpa and Auntie. Took them a minute or two, but was really cute! For DD we had DS wear a big brother shirt. That one took forever for them to actuallly read it - I mean HOURS!!!! ha ha ha

Not sure what we are going to do this time. I'm running out of ideas!

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I also ordered a "Big Sister" shirt for my DD. We are going to tell the grandparents, aunts and uncles this weekend. I plan on putting the shirt on DD and waiting to see how long it takes for them to read what the shirt says! Everyone else we are waiting until the end of the 1st trimester.

This is the shirt that I ordered for DD! She is a big Minnie Mouse fan!

https://www.etsy.com/transaction/83687412

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"tink9702" wrote:

For DD we had DS wear a big brother shirt. That one took forever for them to actuallly read it - I mean HOURS!!!! ha ha ha

I'm kind of worried about that. My mom isn't the 'fastest' at stuff like that. LOL

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If we got a bfp this cycle then I want to do the Christmas card thing with a oil of tbe 12 week scan.
But in general we don't really do anything.
The first pregnancy we put a preg test in a card and everyone was overjoyed. Nan cried her eyes out.
But now... Michael tends to have to say why he needs some time off ( the family own a bed and breakfast) do they know whenever I have to have a scan.
So... It all depends if we can get to 12 weeks and get to 12 weeks secretly.... Mil always spots my boobs and asks questions.
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"Heatherbella" wrote:

I'm kind of worried about that. My mom isn't the 'fastest' at stuff like that. LOL

LOL! it was hilarious actually! To give them credit, it wasn't just "Big Brother" It said "I'm not Lion, I'm going to be a Big Brother" with a lion on the shirt. Smile

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I have no idea. I have told just a friend of mine who is a doula and I can get support from her, and my girls from my Dec 2011 group. My family will not be happy, unfortunately. They will think we are being irresponsible and that we won't be able to afford this child since I likely won't be returning to work now (I do have an at-home business I run though). My friends will probably be freaked out. I don't think I will put it on Facebook. I just don't want to deal with the comments and have to defend my choice to love this baby! I already love him or her as much as my DD and I don't want any rude comments.

We will probably tell our parents in a few weeks and then just let it go from there and tell people as we see them.

It makes me sad that I can't just share this happy news without being nervous about how people will take it. Sad

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I'm going to get my 3yo Ds1 to give daddy the test stick and tell him baby! Just need to make sure he doesn't take the cap off and touch the wee wee end yuck lol Smile

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"Anngie60" wrote:

I'm going to get my 3yo Ds1 to give daddy the test stick and tell him baby! Just need to make sure he doesn't take the cap off and touch the wee wee end yuck lol Smile

Years ago my SIL told me she was pg by handing my a FRER with no cap on it. I didn't know what the heck it was and I really did almost grab the pee end. GROSS. On top of it, my SIL and I aren't close at all. I didn't like holding something she peed on. LMAO.

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Euw!! Why on earth didn't she put the lid on it before she gave it to you lol!! Did you discreetly hide your disgust or was you openly like bleurgghhhhhhh Smile

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"Anngie60" wrote:

Euw!! Why on earth didn't she put the lid on it before she gave it to you lol!! Did you discreetly hide your disgust or was you openly like bleurgghhhhhhh Smile

I think I tried to hide it...I actually reached for the pee end and then quickly moved my hand. PHEW!

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That's weird about your sil Heather!

I have already told one of my sisters, my bff and a couple random people at work lol. I have such a hard time keeping my mouth shut.
We were thinking about telling at Thanksgiving because my first appointment isn't until November 13th. Thanksgiving is early this year though, looks like it's the 15th. So I will still only be 10 weeks. I dont' know if I can keep from telling our parents until then or not, but that's the goal.

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I'm a little nervous about telling people. Most assumed Malia would be our last and while we are supporting are kids just fine we do without a lot of luxuries that some in our families view as necessary (brand new cars, houses, expensive clothes, etc). Unfortunately, I expect some negative feedback. Oh well, our kids are our world and we believe there's one more member of our family waiting to join us.

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We don't have those things either Lauren, but that doesn't mean anything. I'd rather have a family than and expensive car any day. I LOVE my 2000 Jetta. LOL

Our Thanksgiving in Canada is THIS weekend, so too soon for an announcement of any sort.

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Lauren - I'm also worried about telling my dad. I think he's not really on board for us having more than 2 kiddos. Yes money will be tighter, but we want a larger family and it's none of his business!

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I know what y'all mean. I think most people will be happy for us. There are a few (in the family, of course) that won't be as thrilled. But they will get over it!

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"Momma Leah" wrote:

I know what y'all mean. I think most people will be happy for us. There are a few (in the family, of course) that won't be as thrilled. But they will get over it!

Luckily it's your life and not theirs, right? Don't let them rain on your parade!

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Luckily it's your life and not theirs, right? Don't let them rain on your parade!

Oh I know! It is the same people that always have something negative to say about just about everything!

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Oh I know! It is the same people that always have something negative to say about just about everything!

For sure. And you already know how they'll react. In those situations I like to thing of a witty/rude come back ahead of time like: "Lucky for you, I'm the parent." or "When you're the one having the kids, you can chose how many and how frequently you have them." or "How about you don't tell me how to live my life and I won't tell you how to live yours." or "Next time I want to have a child I'll be sure to call you first.".

GAH People are annoying!!!

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I want to do something cute but not sure what.We did Christmas presents before and I wish I Knew how to post the videos it was great. DS has a big brother shirt from handme down stuff from the in laws, but not sure what size it was. the nephew was always on the smaller side so It is probably too small. We also have a book DS loves to read that talks about a baby brother and DS has it memorized so I thought about having him read it. for them...wearing the shirt...or that may be how to tell non family......

Work iwll know before family. My cousin will be the first to know. She's the only one that knows we are currently trying. I know my family is not happy with her being preg. (excited for her but not happy if that makes sense) I am not sure how my family will react as we still owe money to them (but we are also payign them back monthly) ....but no one in our families has only 1 child and we've made it clear we want more. but I have watched Mom with the little ones of friends of mine and I think she's ready for another baby to be around no matter how much she makes out otherwise!

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"Heatherbella" wrote:

For sure. And you already know how they'll react. In those situations I like to thing of a witty/rude come back ahead of time like: "Lucky for you, I'm the parent." or "When you're the one having the kids, you can chose how many and how frequently you have them." or "How about you don't tell me how to live my life and I won't tell you how to live yours." or "Next time I want to have a child I'll be sure to call you first.".

GAH People are annoying!!!

Ooh, I'm going to steal the "Lucky for you I'm the parent line. My SIL is sooo judgmental about it. She kept making comments with Malia about, how does it feel knowing this is your last? And aren't you glad you're done? And when I told her we probably weren't I got, we'll how is THAT responsible? And 3 kids is enough! Blargh!!! My life!!

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Steal away!

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We were going to wait but since we are worried I could miscarry I went ahead and told my supervisor and we told family.

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I can not keep my mouth closed! I told my mom last night at my sisters birthday get together.

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LOL, you ladies are too cute!