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Telling my boss today *** updated

Im so nervous, my manager is insisting that i tell him myself rather than her. Im really not comfortable. he can be a total jerk about it or he might just congratulate me and move on. I have no idea what kind of reaction Im going to get. I was thinking of showing him the ultrasound pic and saying i wanted to share this with you before I tell everyone else. Im hoping it goes smoothly and there isnt any issues

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it went well, i showed him the ultrasound and told him i wanted to share something with him and he looked at it and said congratulations and made a joke about is he seeing 2 babies in there.. He asked me how long i was taking off of work and if i was planning on working until the end like I did with DS. so i feel relieved its out and i no longer have to wear clothes that try to hide it

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Good luck. I am sure it will go over fine.

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UGH! I feel for you! I hate telling my boss anything like that! Around here it means they need to find a new temp employee for a whole year! Oops. My last mat leave they didn't find anyone new, the other programmers just had to work harder. Blum 3

I hope it goes well. I'm glad I'm not in your shoes. Sad Personally, I'd rather tell people by email. I hate face-to-face. I'm glad my boss is thousands of miles away...I will tell him by email.

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I'd love to just send a email but we all work in the office together so it probably wouldnt go very well if I did it that way, my manager has been here for 30 years and she stressed out that she thinks its best if it comes from me, I wasnt going to tell him until after the holidays because i really worry that he is just going to suggest getting rid of me for good

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i hope it all goes well for you today.

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Glad it went well. I hate telling people in person, it's kind of awkward especially with men.

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Glad it went well!! Smile

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Glad it went well. I hate telling people too, I find it very awkward! That is why I did Christmas cards.

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friends and family i dont care but he can be an *** and sometimes just out right rude so i wasnt sure how he was going to react. i really dont think im his favorite and to be honest he walks by my desk every morning and doesnt even say good morning... i feel so much better and now i can wear any shirt i want and not have to worry about it making me look pregnant

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I'm so glad it went well and YAY for being able to wear clothes that don't hide it. I'm SO tired of THAT! It sounds like he is one of those people who deflects awkward situations by making jokes. Still funny about the twins though. Blum 3

Around here it's illegal to fire or 'let go' a pregnant woman. Is it not there? We have pretty strict discrimination laws around here.

A woman who DH knows worked at a local pub within days of telling her employer she was pregnant she was terminated from her job. She sued and got $10,000 in court settlement because of it. TOTAL no no. You're way better off telling your employer you're pregnant because you're pretty safe from being fired for your entire pregnancy and your 1 year maternity leave. Crazy, right?

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im so glad it went well.

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I can imagine how relieved you must be not only that it went well, but now that you can dress more comfortably!!!

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We have strict laws about pregnancy as well, they cant fire us and have to take us back with the same pay and position when we are done with maternity leave. Unfortunately we dont get a year here which i would so love that, we either get 8 weeks or 12 weeks UNPAID... financially i dont think i can do the 12 weeks this time around but im going to try to scrap as much money so I can. I voiced my concern to my manager about letting me go and she said he would be crazy to do that because of the laws.

Im almost glad i said something now because i was afraid he would of found out from someone else and used the excuse that he didnt know and laid me off.

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I'm glad it went well today and that you are feeling relief. It's always nice to get something like that behind you. Smile

I thought FMLA was up to 12 weeks period. Where does 8 weeks come from? Also, check your company's employee manual or benefits, whatever they may call it, b/c I found my company actually offers 4 months, unpaid, even though FMLA only requires 12 weeks. So your company's policy could possibly offer above and beyond the minimal required by fed guidelines.

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I thought it was 8 weeks if your have a natural birth and 12 weeks for c-section, I had a natural birth with DS and my boss let me take 12 weeks unpaid, we have no benefits working here so im sure he follows the FLMA but looking online im not seeing anything on 8 weeks

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There's no way we could afford 12 week unpaid either. Sad

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Im going to try to scrap what we can but if i cant afford it then i cant, this time around we have a house and DS so its going to cost alot more

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For sure! We're actually in better shape this time. We've redone our mortgage so we are paying less. Also, we already have hundreds of dollars in cloth diapers...we have a crib and most of the baby gear. I sold a few things though, but such is life. If we have a girl, we'll be set for clothes. So ya. It shouldn't be TOO bad. We'll probably keep DD in daycare 1 day a week during my year off to keep her spot and give her some time away.

Did you keep much of the baby stuff from DS or do you need to buy it all?

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i kept all his clothes and toys (that didnt break) his bedroom set is a grow with me set so he is actually using it as his bed right now. My parents gave us the set as a gift so I think they will do the same for this one as well. When we found out if the baby is a boy or girl, I'll go through the totes and pull all the yellow/green baby clothes if its a girl so i can get an idea how much i need to get.. im def thinking about shopping at consignment shops we have 2 in our area

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If we have a boy and you have a girl we can mail eachother a box of clothes. Blum 3 Swap!

Our crib is also a toddler bed and DD was in it until a few months ago when I got a good deal on a plain toddler bed...so now the crib is available. We'll need a mattress for it though. I buy a lot of second hand things and most of what I sold was because I had bought it used and sold it for the same price as I purchased it for. Why hold on to it for years when you can get all your money back? I need a breast pump, breastfeeding pillow, swing, exersaucer, bouncy seat....ummmm...I think those are the main things. Not a lot. I've already seen some great deals on our FB mom swap & shop but it's a bit early, so I'll wait till after Christmas. Also, we're going to the US in March and things are WAY cheaper there. I can't bring things like car seats and baby walkers into Canada but the other stuff is ok. We'll see.

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I have all that stuff i didnt have a machine breast pump but a hand pump if i breast feed this time i'm going to try to use it again. I only breast fed for a month because ds had a milk protein allergy so he had to be on a special formula and i didnt really produce much milk to pump, this time around i just might do both breast feed at home and formula feed in public or when im out in about (was never really comfortable with that)

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Ya, I always hated the public breastfeeding too unless I could be sneaky about it. We often just did it in the car if we were out. Our big shopping mall has a nursing room so that's nice...if it's not taken. I borrowed a breast pump last time so I'm pretty floored by how expensive they are considering I don't use them THAT much. Once I'm 'out' I'll see if any of my mom friends have one I can borrow or if they want to sell one. Some of my DD's friends are already sibilings and they aren't planning any more kids. We'll see. I hope I find something because $200 is a LOT of money.

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Glad it went well! I bet it's a relief to be over with it!

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I used my beast pump all the time! I made too much and stored a lot. I got mine free from my insurance. Often they don't advertise it but you can get a nice one free from them, never hurts to check.

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I'm not sure if we can in Canada, but I guess it doesn't hurt to check.

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our insurance gave us a hand pump for free so we used that, but between breast feeding and pumping my poor nipples were so raw

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"angelover02740" wrote:

our insurance gave us a hand pump for free so we used that, but between breast feeding and pumping my poor nipples were so raw

its amazing that insurances do that because it saved us. my nipples also hurt some but i got used to it. it was better than dealing with the alternative which for me was recurring mastitis.