What was DH's/SO's reaction?

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What was DH's/SO's reaction?

So how did you tell DH/SO "I'm pregnant" and what was his initial reaction?

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Well, i took a dollar store test on 10/15 that was positive, but really light. So i bought a digital and waited to test the next morning. I woke up early and took the test. Then I took the test with me into the bedroom at about 4:45 am and asked DH if he was awake. He said, "yes". So, I said, "We need to talk" and he said "about?". My answer "I'm pregnant". His response, "OH!" We weren't trying, but weren't exactly preventing -- sorta just trying to time it right with my cycle. Apparently God had other plans and we have our "Oopsie" on the way. So, I guess his response was really sheer shock! After a few minutes, I asked if he had anything else he wanted to say; he said "Congratulations". I laughed -- it was pretty funny given that it's his baby too -- but, it was a shock and it was afterall 4:45am Biggrin

I should also help put this in context: I have been wanting another for awhile. But, my DH was on the fence - leaning more toward being done. So, it was even more of a shock to him. But, now, he's happy; just worried about the health of the baby and me.

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I told my DH over dinner. We'd been planning this bike race for several months and I finally just said, "Well, I have a small issue with the race" and he immediately got huge :busted: eyes and was like "No way." His next thought was how he was bummed it didn't take longer so we could TRY more :rolleyes: Men!

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So this is baby #3 for us. I have been trying to convince DH to go for #3 and he had been staying firm with "he was happy with 2" although he never told me no. Then I found out I was unexpectedly pregnant in early August but m/c a week and a half later. During that pregnancy DH admitted to me he knew he would give in eventually but was stalling, hoping I would change my mind. It's a tough thing to compromise on. So after the m/c he agreed we could have #3 and here we are.

After the m/c we decided to JLIH so we were not actually trying with timed BD but I was charting so I would know my dates after the fact. Turns out I was preggers after our 2nd cycle JLIH and that counted the m/c cycle. So it happened pretty quickly. I was going to try to wait and come up with a cute way to tell DH since this is our last and I've always told him like 2 seconds after I saw that second line on an HPT in the past. I tested about 6:30 pm on 9 DPO and got the faint, but there, line. I made dinner and we all sat down and ate and then the boys ran off to play while DH and I cleared the dishes. At this moment I couldn't contain myself any longer. :rolleyes: So, I pulled the test out of my pocket...where I stuck it quickly to hide it earlier...and said well, I'm pregnant. He gets this kind of concerned look on his face and says "I'm going to have to get fixed as soon as we have this baby. I'm potent" :rolleyes: Blum 3 I guess he thought the JLIH would take a little longer and his "potency" has frightenend him. ROFL

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DH was working so I took a pic o the test with my and showed it to him the next time I saw him. He was happy, not overly excited.

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:lurk: I just knew I was pregnant. My boobies hurt WAY too bad. So, I took a test at work...and texted him the pic of the positive test. I said I'm pregnant! Just in case he was confused by the lines. He's never been overly excited to find out I'm pregnant, I'm thinking he'll be more excited when the baby finally gets here.. (I'm actually kind of hoping he'll get excited at the gender scan, but..not holding my breath). Our previous pregnancies didn't last too long, so.. neither one of us had much hope. So it was more of a ... I'm pregnant. That's great! Yep. Okay back to work. LOL

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DH had been asking me if my temp was still up every morning.. so when I was officially late and it was still up he wasnt expecting too much bc we were still getting negs. this time is was pos and I just went out and told him. He was excited (based on the look on his facE) and gave me a kiss and headed off ot work.

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I took a test Sunday morning when he was downstairs with DD. The line was SO faint that I didn't believe it. I got DD ready and we went to a friend's birthday party. I didn't say anything. Then when DD was having her nap around 2 I thought maybe I should mention it. So I told him there was a really faint line. He seemed pleased but cautious. Guys don't seem to believe that a line IS A LINE! So two days later when I took the FRER and got a NICE line...then he more believe it and said "Well Congratulations, with a goofy grin.". I think he was hoping for more trying too...we did 15 cycles with DD and only 3 this time. He likes trying. Blum 3

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I took a test early on a Sunday with an IC at 9 DPO and got a real squinter. We all went to the grocery store later and I asked hubby to grab a FRER while I distracted the kids. When we got home I went and took the test and snapped a picture. He was putting groceries away and I came up behind him, hugged him, and showed him the picture and whispered "your guys can still swim". He turned around and had an excited/surprised expression and then gave me a big kiss. He was rubbing my belly and talking to the bean later that day so I'd say he's excited!!

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DH and I were talking after my surgery about how the pg tests had been negative in the hospital when i realized i was 2 days late. We figured it was the surgery causing me to be late, we also thought it was causing my nausea and cramping, but agreed i should take a test in the morning. He said if it was positive to just tell him to come in the house (we live on the family farm, 8th generation to live here).

The next morning I had to use the restroom when he got up to go to work, so he popped his head in to remind me, but i had already taken it. After her shut the door, the line showed immediately, so I just called him back in and showed him. He was shocked, just as I was. Then we both came to the realization that I had surgery while pregnant and decided I would call the dr right away and get the ball rolling. on his way out the door he said he would miss trying. lol

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I got pregnant on cycle #3 of trying. For some reason, DH just knew I was pregnant. I was unsure. He wanted to test together this time because we had never done that before. So we tested on 10dpo and the line came up very light but we saw it and he said see, I knew it, He wasn't even surprised. but I kinda was. It was more exciting not planned, but also nice to finally have a planned pregnancy.

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DH didnt' react much. He was really distracted with some homework problem he was having. Oh I think the printer wasn't working or something. So anyway yeah he reaction was kind of a let down. But he's just kind of mellow about stuff like that. I was all worried that something was wrong like usual and he knew we were going to be pregnant soon so I think he just wasn't surprised.

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So I took a digital test at 9 Dpo expecting it to be negative and it said pregnant! We were in the middle of sleep training my son in his big boy bed. So I was up with my screaming boy at 4am and my husband was getting up for work at 4:45 and yes I was still dealing with my screaming toddler. He got up for work and went into the bathroom and saw the test on the bathroom counter where I left it for him to see. I saw him do a double take at it and then he came out smiling and kissed me. He then went to work. And I. Continued to deal with the toddler. Haha

We were both very surprised since we were not trying! I had just gone off BC and we were using condoms (except that 1 time!) because I was sick and on antibiotics. Guess it really only does take once! Blum 3

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"quonsetmom" wrote:

DH and I were talking after my surgery about how the pg tests had been negative in the hospital when i realized i was 2 days late. We figured it was the surgery causing me to be late, we also thought it was causing my nausea and cramping, but agreed i should take a test in the morning. He said if it was positive to just tell him to come in the house (we live on the family farm, 8th generation to live here).

Aww, ya'll farm?

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Yeah, my DH's reaction was not a big "Yay, I'm so happy!" But I think it takes a lot longer to sink in for dads in many cases and as DH said...this is our 5th pregnancy so we've BTDT with the initial +HPT and "I'm pregnant". The other night I asked him if he is excited and he said it really hasn't sunk in yet. I can totally understand that...I'm still really early and only having mild symptoms. I think about it all the time but I can see where it's same ol' same ol' for him right now. I know he'll get excited later on...he always does. I figure the 20 week u/s will get him pretty excited and help it sink in a bit. I'll be showing then and hopefully able to feel some movement. If not I'll know he'll be excited at the birth! Biggrin

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I had told him a couple days earlier that I was late but I didn't think there was a chance so we didn't think much of it. I didn't tell him that I'd bought a test so the next morning I took it when we woke up and the line came up right away. So I crawled back into bed with him and DD and said "I'm pregnant." And he laughed! Lol. Then he said "well I wondered!" And we both started laughing a lot more and looking at DD telling her she was getting a sibling way sooner than planned.

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DH's reaction was like a "no ****" and "it happened too soon, we didn't get to try enough" type reaction! LOL! I think it's yet to really sink in for him actually!

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"Momma Leah" wrote:

Aww, ya'll farm?

My husband is the 7th generation on the family farm. We milk about 800 (3 times a day). Its a 24 hr operation. The farm and house were built in 1847, before WI became a state. Smile

I didn't grow up on a farm, but it just feels like where I was meant to be, and it is why i am able to be a stay at home mom right now, I couldn't imagine being anywhere else.

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"quonsetmom" wrote:

My husband is the 7th generation on the family farm. We milk about 800 (3 times a day). Its a 24 hr operation. The farm and house were built in 1847, before WI became a state. Smile

I didn't grow up on a farm, but it just feels like where I was meant to be, and it is why i am able to be a stay at home mom right now, I couldn't imagine being anywhere else.

We farm too, I always get excited to see other young farm families! We do row crops, no animals. They used to have hogs (thank goodness, no more!)

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"Momma Leah" wrote:

We farm too, I always get excited to see other young farm families! We do row crops, no animals. They used to have hogs (thank goodness, no more!)

We farm as well. Cattle, hay and grain.

My DH and were not trying, as we were told it wouldn't ever happen, so this was a HUGE shock. I looked at the first IC faint line and cried.....he looked at it and said "well, I can't really see it, so we'll just test again tomorrow and see what happens". I was already convinced I was preg, so the next day when we got the digital BFP, he just kinda sat down and went "Huh....ok....well....". That was it. He's more into it now, we're both out of the shocked stage and into the nervous stage....

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"muppetplus2" wrote:

We farm as well. Cattle, hay and grain.

We also have crops to feed our large herd and we contract out field work for other farms as well.