What do the siblings want...boy or girl?

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Clarkton's picture
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What do the siblings want...boy or girl?

I'm a little concerned for my oldest DS. He has told me ever since DS2 was born that he wants a baby sister. Since he found out that "mommy has a baby in her belly" he has referred to the baby as her and his baby sister. He talked a lot about it this weekend...I always correct him with "it could be a boy" and he either a. ignores me completely while going on about his baby sister or b. says "but it could be a girl". He also has said a couple of times this one has to be a girl b/c we have enough boys. That one always makes DH and I laugh.

I'm glad for his sake that we are finding out this time b/c he might need some time to get used to it if he is getting another little brother. He might just disagree if we find out baby is a boy and keep insisting she's a girl.

I'm really hoping more for him than myself that this one is a girl. Wink

I didn't experience this when pregnant with DS2 as DS1 was too young to know what was happening so this strong preference is new to me.

I know we have a lot of BTDT moms...what do your older children have to say about their new sibling on the way?

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We haven't openly discussed my being pregnant with our kids yet, but when we've asked my 3 yo DD is she'd like another brother someday she says "No I already have one", if you ask about a sister she is okay with that idea. She has an obvious preference to girl babies too. My 15 month old DS doesn't have a clue but likes when he sees a "BAY beeeee!" LOL

We still are undecided whether we'll find out gender. This is the ONLY reason I'm leaning towards doing it. DH really wants to find out, but has recently said he'll leave the decision up to me. I think if we found out it was a boy, DD would tell us we were wrong so maybe it wouldn't matter. I think once she sees a baby and gets to take it home(!) she won't care. She's been great with our DS.

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DS insists that is a boy, i told him in a couple of month the doctor would let us know for sure

StarShine65712's picture
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We ask Bella if the baby is a boy or girl... She always says girl. Lol
I think she's going to be a good big sister.

MJDttc's picture
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DS is flip flopped today, and says he thinks it is a boy, but usually he says it is a girl. He said he wanted sisters just like his cousin.

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We haven't told the kids yet about the baby. But we have mentioned "what if?". DS wants a brother, DD has said both on different occasions. The last few times she has talked about it, it has been boy. I think she will be fine either way, she loves babies! I think DS will be disappointed if its not a boy and if it not, I have a feeling he will be asking for another baby so he can have a boy!

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I haven't told my kids about this Lo yet, but when I was pregnant with Malia my Ds was convinced she was a boy and was pretty upset to find out she was a girl, but now he adores his baby sister. I guess we shall see with this one.

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My kids don't know yet...

Anyway, with the last one they all really wanted a boy!! Thankfully it was. That being said though, I know my kids and they would have been disappointed for maybe half a second before rejoicing in a girl if that had been the case. Honestly, since you plan to find out, if it ends up being a boy just be prepared with some "things you can do special with only a baby brother" type things. In the end, it really will be fine!

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DS1 says he wants a boy so he can have 2 boys to play with. DS2 is was to young to even know whats going on. I don't think my DS1 would be dissapointed if it was a girl though.
That's good you are finding out so you can prepare him. Maybe he will get his wish!

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when I was expecting #3, DS1 (then 2 1/2) told me at 8 or 9dpo that there was a baby in my belly. I got a BFP at 10dpo. He insisted, from that moment, that it was a girl. It was non-negotiable. Like you, I made sure to tell him over and over it could be a boy. And, sure enough, it was. He absolutely loves his little brother and made it a full 10 days after DS3 was born before asking for a baby sister. He seemed to accept it once we made it clear to him it was a boy.
I hope you get your girl, but if not, hopefully your DS will come around, too.

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DD is too young to know any difference, tho she does like to kiss my belly and poke it. baby intuition?

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DD doesn't know I'm pg yet so I haven't asked her. Not sure I want to ask her and give her the option to fall in love with one idea over the other. The funniest thing is she recently discovered a hand-me-down book we have called "Froggy's Baby Sister". She has had me read that book at bed time every day for the last week. It's so cute. In the book Froggy really wanted a baby brother but gets a baby sister.

The funny thing I've noticed about DD is that she has never once asked for a sibling or wondered why she doesn't have one. She has daycare friends who are siblings and several of our baby group friends have baby siblings (which are 1 now), but she has never even mentioned it as a possibility.

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My kids don't know either. I know that DD wants a girl, but she said that she would still love it if it was a boy Wink
She also said that when she grows up to be a Mommy, SHE will have girl babies. LOL.

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Most of the time DS tells me he wants a Brohter AND a sister. He's ok wiht the fact that there's just one right now. but hasnt specified which he wants. Though the other day he told his mom mom "I dont want a baby brother or sister anymore... I Just want to play with Baby Vladimir" (a baby my brother watches on occasion)

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We haven't "told" her yet. Obviously she knows something is up cause of mommy. I don't think she'd really care either way, but she doesn't have any siblings, so the whole brother/sister concept is a bit foreign to her. She knows her cousins are brother and sister, but not enough to make her care what this baby would be. Although when we tell her, I might eat my words. DH on the other hand is really wanting a boy. And wanting to find out. Well, we're not finding out (according to me) until baby is born, so too bad!

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DD is insisting its a baby sister.! We aren't going to find out this time. I think we might be in trouble if its a boy but she loves babies so I'm pretty sure she'll be ok eventually. DS is really too young yet to understand. So we are good there.