I'm a little concerned for my oldest DS. He has told me ever since DS2 was born that he wants a baby sister. Since he found out that "mommy has a baby in her belly" he has referred to the baby as her and his baby sister. He talked a lot about it this weekend...I always correct him with "it could be a boy" and he either a. ignores me completely while going on about his baby sister or b. says "but it could be a girl". He also has said a couple of times this one has to be a girl b/c we have enough boys. That one always makes DH and I laugh.
I'm glad for his sake that we are finding out this time b/c he might need some time to get used to it if he is getting another little brother. He might just disagree if we find out baby is a boy and keep insisting she's a girl.
I'm really hoping more for him than myself that this one is a girl.
I didn't experience this when pregnant with DS2 as DS1 was too young to know what was happening so this strong preference is new to me.
I know we have a lot of BTDT moms...what do your older children have to say about their new sibling on the way?
We haven't openly discussed my being pregnant with our kids yet, but when we've asked my 3 yo DD is she'd like another brother someday she says "No I already have one", if you ask about a sister she is okay with that idea. She has an obvious preference to girl babies too. My 15 month old DS doesn't have a clue but likes when he sees a "BAY beeeee!" LOL
We still are undecided whether we'll find out gender. This is the ONLY reason I'm leaning towards doing it. DH really wants to find out, but has recently said he'll leave the decision up to me. I think if we found out it was a boy, DD would tell us we were wrong so maybe it wouldn't matter. I think once she sees a baby and gets to take it home(!) she won't care. She's been great with our DS.
We ask Bella if the baby is a boy or girl... She always says girl. Lol
I think she's going to be a good big sister.
DS is flip flopped today, and says he thinks it is a boy, but usually he says it is a girl. He said he wanted sisters just like his cousin.
We haven't told the kids yet about the baby. But we have mentioned "what if?". DS wants a brother, DD has said both on different occasions. The last few times she has talked about it, it has been boy. I think she will be fine either way, she loves babies! I think DS will be disappointed if its not a boy and if it not, I have a feeling he will be asking for another baby so he can have a boy!
My kids don't know yet...
Anyway, with the last one they all really wanted a boy!! Thankfully it was. That being said though, I know my kids and they would have been disappointed for maybe half a second before rejoicing in a girl if that had been the case. Honestly, since you plan to find out, if it ends up being a boy just be prepared with some "things you can do special with only a baby brother" type things. In the end, it really will be fine!
DS1 says he wants a boy so he can have 2 boys to play with. DS2 is was to young to even know whats going on. I don't think my DS1 would be dissapointed if it was a girl though.
That's good you are finding out so you can prepare him. Maybe he will get his wish!
when I was expecting #3, DS1 (then 2 1/2) told me at 8 or 9dpo that there was a baby in my belly. I got a BFP at 10dpo. He insisted, from that moment, that it was a girl. It was non-negotiable. Like you, I made sure to tell him over and over it could be a boy. And, sure enough, it was. He absolutely loves his little brother and made it a full 10 days after DS3 was born before asking for a baby sister. He seemed to accept it once we made it clear to him it was a boy.
I hope you get your girl, but if not, hopefully your DS will come around, too.
big boy 12.8.07 @ 39+2 7lbs 8oz, 20.5" BFed for 13 months
middle boy 8.12.09 @ 39+4 7lbs 9oz, 21" BFed for 13.5 months
little boy 4.26.11 @ 38+4 6lbs 14oz, 19.5" BFed until 26mo and restarted at 30mo!
baby boy 10.25.13 @ 41+0 8lbs 15oz, 21.5"
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