need to vent. DS used to go to bed no problem and now he is the total opposite. I am SO tired of fighting him in the mornings to go to daycare. (kicking screaming I want my daddy") and now at night we have a full out tantrum/hystarics when it is bedtime. complete with min of an hour of screaming "I want mommy!" I have to ask myself WHY are we trying for another???? I seriously feel like I constantly want to cry and feel like Im a horrible mommy. I want him to go to bed Just once during the week without a fight! Im stressed with work, DH is coachign so isn't home most nights until later, and lately theres tons of days I just want to stay home and nto have to go to work. but I know we can't afford it. terrible 2's my butt! We have the terrible THREES
When we were trying to get DS to sleep in his own bed (when he was about 2/3), a doctor told us to wedge his door shut to keep him in (we used a diaper shoved in the door) then after we were completely sure he was asleep we unwedged it so he could get out when he woke up. He screamed and cried for about the first week, eventually he cried himself out, it only took a couple weeks then he got into the routine of it, and no more crying.
I know how you feel, sometimes my two act like complete hooligans, and I wonder why I am doing this all over again! We still have bedtime troubles, but I am hoping one day it will get better! My oldest never sleeps through the night, and ends up on our floor in his sleeping bag. He has never, even as baby, slept good. I pray this next one will. We shall survive though!
My DS1 went through this type of thing. I definitely think it's reAlly the terrible threes not the terrible twos. It was about a year long phase where he would just melt down over anything. I remember many bedtime battles. A few times it was so bad he would stand on his bed and just scream, in a rage. He has calmed down tremendously as three came to a close. I think it's one of the first phases they hit of trying to make the adjustment to be more independent but not sure how. I think the awareness of their feelings is a bit overwhelming and that makes it a very tough year as they work out ther emotions and learn some coping skills. This too shall pass but I know it's extremely trying when you are there. This phase is what gave my DH so many reservations about a third. But I always see it as a short period of time in the big scheme of things. I'm sure there will be other not fun phases though, like teenagedom from what I hear
I could have written this post myself. DS was the same way and when he turned 3 it was like BAM. My sweet baby was no longer there and this little mean boy has come out. He also was a great sleeper and it is a struggle now. And like you, my husband coaches so I do the night thing alone most nights. I remember when my son turned 2 I was talking to some coworkers about how I was worried about the terrible twos and they told me that two was easy compared to three. I see now what they meant!
My kids both had the terrible 3s. I guess there's a pretty damn good reason there's this big of a gap between them and the one we're now trying for... I needed the break.
As they say, "This, too, shall pass."
We have all been there and you are doing your best with all the demands of life yet you want more children...doesn't make you a bad person/mom.
My kids are great about sleeping in their room at this point. They are both girls and share a king bed, as they prefer to share a room. But my youngest, who I coslept/breastfed on demand still comes crawling in my bed once every couple weeks, and I sure love it! It will all pay off in the end....
But damn it, my kids seem to whine about everything! They whine and complain whenever possible about everything under the sun there is to contest. I guess that's just the phase they're in right now It'll always be something until one day....they'll be moved out with a life of their own and I think we'll yearn for these moments when they were little children. It's hard, but I try to remember that
Last edited by FourMaybeMore; 09-26-2012 at 07:37 AM.
J's wife, mama of 2 wonderful girls
TTC #3, cycle 17
what i found that really works is i set my cellphone to go off a 1/2 hour before i actually want him to go to bed, and i let him know the alarm has gone off he has 10 more minutes to play, so there is no surprise when i say bedtime he is well aware he has 10 mins im sure at first he'll fight about it but after a while he'll here that alarm and already know.
he was wonderful at 2 i must say 3 was my hardest, he def lived up to the Testing 3's which is exactly what he did, 4 so far has been much better than 3 but 2 was def my favorite
Thanks ladies. Im glad to know im not alone in this! I hate feeling that way and often times wonder if its the ppd sneaking back up (I dont think it was ever gone for me but my reg dr decided I didnt need meds it anymore (despite my feeling I did) and I feel like its not as bad as I feel like it is.. but hearing that others have trouble with the 3's I feel like im not totally crazy!