worried to make an appointment(m/c mentioned)

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worried to make an appointment(m/c mentioned)

Im sure most of you have already made your first OBGYN appointment, but im sooo freaking nervous to the point i feel massive anxiety thinking about it. I refuse to make an appointment to check my numbers i really dont want to know if they arent doubling and worry myself about it. I honestly dont even want to be seen until im after 8 weeks i want to go in and know there is no chance in hearing maybe your just to early. I wasnt seen until 11 weeks with DS and at first i was so upset but then i realized how wonderful it was to see him already that big

With my m/c i went in 7w3 days and had already been spotting for almost a week so when i got an ultrasound and they only saw a sac and no baby i knew something was wrong. the dr said well maybe your wrong on your dates and i know i wasnt since i had been charting etc. i really need these 4 weeks to speed up so i can just feel good. I am feeling alot more positive about this pregnancy than my 2nd i just knew right from the beginning something didnt feel right.

i know they say my chances of having another blighted ovum is low but it just makes me scared

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Aweeeee, hugs. I can totally understand why you'd be so nervous. I also wish we could speed up time and know all is OK.

I'm glad this pg feels different from the last. Sounds like a positive sign to me! Based on past history would they do any additional tests if you went in? I wish your mind could be set at ease.

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I think we are all different. If you are sure of your dates maybe it can provide relief to go in at 6.5 weeks and get an ultrasound (if they are ok with that). I had a MC after my first, and like you, I had spotting and then an ultrasound. In my case we did see a heartbeat, but it was not strong and the baby was measuring small. I got the same talk about being off on my dates, but I knew it wasn't good. Anyway, with my next pregnancy I had HCG testing done right away, and it looked great, so that really helped re-assure me!! I also had an ultrasound done early, and saw the heart beating at exactly what it should have been for my dates. In my case to "wonder" what was going on for multiple weeks would have been worse!

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my midwife did tell me when i lost my 2nd that i should come in and get looked at as soon as i find out but i honestly am scared as hell to do that. if my numbers are low there is nothing they can do why worry. with the 2nd i had to ask for a ultrasound because i had been spotting and wanted some reassurance that it was nothing which obviously i was wrong.

Im more nervous today because im not feeling that much cramps and my boobs dont feel as sore Sad i'll freaking die if i have another m/c

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Well, honestly, you just need to do what is right for you!! :bighug: If waiting is the right thing for you, then by all means do that.

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I'm so sorry you're feeling so much anxiety. This first trimester is so hard in so many ways. I haven't felt very pregnant the last couple of days so maybe it's just normal at this point? I'm a little nervous about my appointment Thurs and kind of want to cancel, but dh really wants me to go in. I'm worried they will try to do an u/s and by my LMP my edd would be 10 days earlier so I don't want the unnecessary worry. I guess I'll go and try to convince them to wait for the u/s!! Sending sticky Bean vibes to you. I hope this first trimester flies by so we can all relax a bit!!

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thank you lauren, i know i shouldnt worry and just enjoy the ride im not spotting so keeping my fingers crossed, but i am checking the paper every time i wipe lol

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awww hon! Whichever makes you feel better is what you should do! Hugs!

I check the TP every time too so you're in good company! Smile

I had bad nausea for a couple days now it's not bad and MUCH MUCH less than #1 and #2. It's making me nervous and I don't go in until Nov 5th. *sigh*

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Awe -- hugs to you! hang in there! I can certainly appreciate your nervousness. KUP, but I'm sure it's all fine.

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"angelover02740" wrote:

thank you lauren, i know i shouldnt worry and just enjoy the ride im not spotting so keeping my fingers crossed, but i am checking the paper every time i wipe lol

Me too, lol. I think we all worry at this point and it's hard to enjoy until later on!

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I am with you ladies. I worry so much and I have not previously had a m/c. I was SOOOOO incredibly sick with DS and this time I'm tired and peeing. my lack of symptoms makes me not even feel preg and I worry but there's been no spotting. I go in Friday and Can't wait for the reassurance--but am totally freaked out too bc I have not had the symptoms I had before. ..

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"tink9702" wrote:

I check the TP every time too so you're in good company! Smile

Ha ha, who doesn't? I'm obsessive with that!

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I always check the tp too!

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today i feel great barely any sore boobs and barely any cramps as much as i hated them i am worried ugggh

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Would taking another test make you feel better? Or make you more nervous if it didn't look how you expected? (((Hugs)))

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Early pregnancy is just plain hard!! I'm not sure if it will help or not, but my last 3 pregnancies had WAY more nausea at this point than this one! And yet, I saw a nice healthy baby today. You really can't base the success of a pregnancy on your symptoms... especially in week 4! Hang in there. And yes, I always check the TP!!!

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i know im being way over parnoid i checked my temp and it was 99.4 which is nice and high so im taking it as a good sign

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"angelover02740" wrote:

i know im being way over parnoid i checked my temp and it was 99.4 which is nice and high so im taking it as a good sign

Great sign!!

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I haven't had nearly as much cramping feelings as I did with DD. Perhaps my uterus is like "oh, this again!" LOL

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Early pregnancy is so hard because there is no real reassurance like the baby kicking. I totally understand that nervousness you have and I think all moms have the same nervousness. It's totally normal. So, do what's best for you and what makes you feel most comfortable. We are all here for you! :bighug: