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MJDttc's picture
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Yep...

I think I am going to leave P.org... I didn't realize that this site is as bad with their selectivism as other pregnancy sites. It just doesn't seem like the same place it was when I was on here with DS. It isn't our birth board, but I am just not feeling it anymore. I wish you all happy and healthy pregnancies.

quonsetmom's picture
Joined: 10/10/12
Posts: 1559

What other sites hate u found? I may look in addition to here. Maybe u can still visit us occasionally? We will miss u!

Heatherbella's picture
Joined: 02/14/05
Posts: 4169

Oh no! What's going on? I'm so confused. Please PM me!

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Joined: 01/31/02
Posts: 3229

Smile I have dropped you a P.M. Hopefully we can convince her to stick around!

Heatherbella's picture
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"MissyJ" wrote:

Smile I have dropped you a P.M. Hopefully we can convince her to stick around!

Thanks Missy! We hope she stays too.

MJDttc's picture
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I am lazy here is my official response to what Missy sent me.

Ok, I have rewritten this reply a few times, I try to be judicious with my words and say what I mean, not just the first thing that pops in my mind.

If they wish to be a closed group and not have outsiders post, shouldn't it actually be a closed group. What I have posted on their board I have edited myself many times, I am not down talking anyone, I did not call anyone names, but this is the treatment I received. If non-members only saw that post would they want to join pregnancy.org, the elitist club where you have to have been here a long time in order to post? If this is the sort of thing that went on in the five years since I was active, then I can't blame others who have left or not joined if this is the treatment that is acceptable. Everyone is entitled to their opinions, and I would have loved to hear them out on their views.

I do not feel like completely leaving pregnancy.org, but I don't think that I can be as active a member and I am not sure I can recommend it to others as I have done in the past. I have moderated teen boards where there wasn't cattiness such as what I have seen here. I have quit jobs to get away from people who act like they still live in the high school cafeteria, and I don't wish to subject myself to it in my free time. I am not mad that they posted about a controversial subject, I have issue with the fact that I was basically told to "STFU and GTFO".

So, I may not disable my account today. But I just don't think I will be posting as much, I know some of y'all probably think I am a blithering idiot (albeit a pretty entertaining one at times) anyways. Good night, and I guess if you want to talk to me shoot me a pm or something.

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Joined: 07/10/07
Posts: 1342

nooooo dont leave!!!! if a board is upsetting you stay away from it, i have not found a better group of ladies than pg.org i feel very comfortable here and I wish you would stay Smile

Joined: 03/07/05
Posts: 1595

Sorry you feel that way.

Everyone is human. No, I'm not excusing ANY behavior that you felt was inappropriate and made you feel bad... :bighug:

Honestly, I have not been on a single site where some sort of "bickering" and "just plain rudeness" hasn't taken place. I frequent a homeschool forum with many supposed "women seeking to love others as Jesus loves" and they can be the worst of all!!! Yep, I could have left that site years ago. I don't though. I try to avoid as much of "it" as I can. I'm not going to let other people ruin what is otherwise a great site. Honestly, we all say and do things from time to time that are rude or that is how other other people perceive our comments whether we mean it that way or not... We ALL make mistakes, we are ALL judgmental at one time or another. We ALL need to improve.

Anyway, I'm really sorry you are feeling hurt right now!! No one should ever make you feel that way... I'm not going to try and tell you to stay if your heart is not in it. Only you know what you want to expose yourself to, and what you don't. I too have periods where I post frequently on this site, and times where I don't. If this forum fits into my life then I visit, if it doesn't then I leave. Usually I leave because it just soaks up too much of my time, but I do enjoy posting when I'm pregnant.

Anyway, I wish you the best whatever you decide.

MJDttc's picture
Joined: 08/12/12
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I am not feeling hurt. I really just dislike associating with people like that, like to the point of it spoiling anything it touches.

Heatherbella's picture
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Well said Laurie. Smile

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"MJDttc" wrote:

I am not feeling hurt. I really just dislike associating with people like that, like to the point of it spoiling anything it touches.

Just remember that you have control over who you associate with. Please don't let them have power of you.

akpufa's picture
Joined: 01/31/08
Posts: 3078

Oh no, I hate to have you leave Sad If you really decide you don't want to hang around much, please at least drop by our BB on occasion so we know how things are going. But I hope you decide to instead just avoid the negative people and hopefully we aren't contributing to that on June. I've visited other sites before and pg.org is the only one I've found where people *generally* are positive and pleasant, not to mention our site admins do a killer job at watching out for and eliminating "trolls" whereas it seems they continue to be a huge problem on other sites constantly stirring the pot. I'm sorry that your experience wasn't as positive! :bigarmhug:

Joined: 10/12/04
Posts: 961

Good luck with finding any other boards... I've found most of them to be so much worse than here. I was really bummed when I came back here because with my first birth boards, man were they hopping. And now, things are pretty slow. I tried one other site out and in the midst of conversation, admitted this was a surprise pregnancy and I was fairly freaked out. I was told in no uncertain terms that I was no longer welcome there because that site was only for planned babies. Nice.

Im sorry you are feeling this way about pg.org. There are bad apples everywhere but I've found this site, overall, has less of them than others.