Everythings Mine!!

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lilahstar's picture
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Everythings Mine!!

Isabella has a terrible problem with sharing. Everything is hers and she gets very upset when her toys are disturbed, moved, or she thinks someone is looking at them. Even our poor cat has been accused of trying to take her dolls. Some how I doubt the cat had a secret desire to steal her baby and hide it from her, but that's exactly what Isabella thinks.

I'm a little concerned how she will adjust to a new baby. She still loves her blankies and I'm hoping that when the baby comes she's not going to steal it's blankets or whatever she's decided is her's. She's had a little interaction with babies and everytime she's been around one she's instantly in love and wants to touch them and talk to them. But once she realizes the baby is staying with us I'm hoping she still likes the idea. Any advice on this?

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No advice, just sympathy! Ethan has been the same way lately. He keeps taking toys away from his baby sister too! It's driving us crazy! Funny thing is, he'll share all his food, just not his toys! :rolleyes:

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"tink9702" wrote:

Funny thing is, he'll share all his food, just not his toys! :rolleyes:

Lily was exactly like this with Josie! I wondered if it was because she knew we'd always give her more food if she was hungry but there were only so many toys to go around... She's a lot better at sharing toys now but has also learnt to offer her little sis an alternative toy if she doesn't want to share a special toy.

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"Snaresie" wrote:

Lily was exactly like this with Josie! I wondered if it was because she knew we'd always give her more food if she was hungry but there were only so many toys to go around... She's a lot better at sharing toys now but has also learnt to offer her little sis an alternative toy if she doesn't want to share a special toy.

We are Working on that exact thing - Giving an alternative toy. It works some of the time!

MichiGal23's picture
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Izzie has recently started this a little bit, too. The alternative toy thing seems to be working pretty well.

lilahstar's picture
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I had not thought of the alternate toy. We'll have to try that if we have any problems when the baby gets here. Thanks ladies.

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Miles is in the mine stage too. He does still share, but his answer is always, "that's minnnnee". I've been a little concerned with this LO coming so soon, but I've been trying to tell him that when his little sister comes we have to teach her how to share because she won't know....things like that.

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I'm in a parenting class and the teacher keeps reassuring me that this is totally normal 2 year old behavior. They are just learning about ownership and it takes them a little time.

One thing to keep in mind is that the newborn won't care for at least 6 months or so about ownership or having things taken away, so hopefully that will give us time to teach them about sharing.

I definitely think that it's a great idea to emphasize to the older sibling that she can teach the baby things.

I think Corinna will be good with her younger sister, but I'm sure we will have some jealousy issues. I'm going to encourage her Dad to take a class with her so that they can have some special time together.